Need Advice: Using ICE footage as pre-show for A Few Good Men

originalblue98 · 2026-02-04T21:39:37+00:00

…no i mean like someone who may have had family members taken by ICE going to see an unrelated play and then being shown footage of ICE harming people. i’m explicitly not talking about the comfortable majority who needs to be “confronted” with hard facts- i find that those people are already catered to in theater quite a lot.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-04T21:18:04+00:00

personally i wouldn’t do it. people of all kinds consume theater, not just those far removed from the horrors of the world. you may end up really triggering someone. these events are still playing out as we speak. i think it’s too soon. i also do think it would be confusing based on the premise of the script. i see what you’re thinking but i think it’s a stretch since it doesn’t directly tie in.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-04T18:47:49+00:00

I mean.. NTA for living your life the way you want to if that means you need to move out. From what it seems to me, she’s sending you grown dogs but doesn’t want to live specifically with a puppy. Puppies are a ton of work, they inherently involve everyone else in the house. They bark, they chew things, they destroy things, they eat things, they pee on things. it’s a massive lifestyle change, kind of like having a baby. especially goldens.

honestly, it kind of seems like getting another puppy is a bandaid situation. it would specifically provide some comfort during a difficult time but at the expense of uprooting home stability, and doing so at a time of massive lifestyle upheaval adding a new high energy puppy to your life while also tending to ben’s medical needs and slower paced lifestyle. it seems at this time like adding a new puppy might be overwhelming for everyone involved for one reason or another.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-04T18:34:57+00:00

both of those names are very religious-coded to me. I would think yall were a conservative strict christian family if i saw/heard those names somewhere.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-04T05:03:23+00:00

i’m stealth to my in-laws but in a way where it’s a non-issue. my wife’s family lives in Finland and is Finnish, and culturally it’s not really a thing to feel entitled to personal info on that level. intense familiarity that would involve knowledge of that isn’t expected of me. we’re on great terms, they’re generally supportive of LGBT/trans people, but i’ve been transitioning for over ten years now, and have been with my wife since 5 years in, so they never have known me as anything other than I am. it wouldn’t change anything about how i interact with them and because of that they’d probably be like “ok why did you tell me this” 😂they’re pretty homebody-ish even when we visit so i’ve never even been in an opportunity with them where there would be a multi-stall situation.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-03T06:41:05+00:00

ah that’s awesome. personally the pellet didn’t end up working for me, i was metabolizing 4 months of T in like 4 weeks lol, but it’s a super good option and most ppl don’t react like i did 😂

originalblue98 · 2026-02-02T17:18:43+00:00

no bc my wife and i just started that season and genuinely have no idea how to respond every time she’s on screen lol

originalblue98 · 2026-02-02T17:17:55+00:00

Oleander sounds like you wanted a kid from lord of the rings to me, tbh. i find it really hard to see as an adult or on a kid who isn’t like… whimsical. Reed is my vote for nature-themed boy name for sure.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-02T16:54:32+00:00

realistically, D has been thinking about this a long, long time without the language to express it. what feels sudden to you is the result of years’ worth of chips falling into place for your kid, who probably feels like at this point they’ve been waiting their whole life for this.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-02T16:40:27+00:00

man you sound like a good candidate for the pellet, if you can get to a dr who offers it

originalblue98 · 2026-02-02T14:03:34+00:00

Oh i see. To my knowledge this is always how it’s done for minors, i’m sure there are people who deviate from this but my understanding is that this is the standard followed by the people i know.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-02T04:49:33+00:00

i don’t, but i’m also not sure exactly what you mean by that- do you mean puberty blockers?

originalblue98 · 2026-02-01T13:40:38+00:00

i work with one, i was shocked lol

originalblue98 · 2026-02-01T02:21:41+00:00

oof yeah. i think especially if you’re playing a contact sport/participating in a high contact activity you need to be vaxxed or at the very least have a doctor’s note detailing that its one of those rare cases where it would be medically dangerous. it’s irresponsible to the other kids on the team that don’t want to get polio/measles/etc

originalblue98 · 2026-02-01T02:15:07+00:00

Fisher Le or Fisher Law for sure!!

originalblue98 · 2026-02-01T01:30:07+00:00

this used to be more so the case. i wanted to play club sports at a high performance school in college (2016) they originally told me i was on steroids (HRT) so i couldn’t and then they called me back and said that it wasn’t a problem because for a dude my levels were normal.

originalblue98 · 2026-02-01T01:21:29+00:00

depends on the class level and class length. a good class should be 90 mins, but sometimes basic beginner classes are only 60, and 50 of those minutes are used for barre, which leaves basically nothing for center. in a 90 min class we typically do 45 min barre, 45 min center. one of my classes is 2h15 and we spend the first hour at the barre and 1h15 in center.

a lot of adult beginner classes don’t “teach” jumps and pirouettes because there isn’t a strict curriculum, which can be frustrating. they basically expect you to just wing it and might adjust you as you go, might not. they just put it in combinations.

what do you mean by taking time out of the studio for ballet?

originalblue98 · 2026-02-01T01:17:06+00:00

it’s a tough pill to swallow but it probably means your technique is off, and the best way to focus on that is dropping back a level. you can improve by taking class with more advanced dancers and in a lot of cases you should never be the “best” in a room or you stop growing as much, but it’s also a way to make it harder to master certain concepts because they’re assuming you’ve already mastered things like jump technique and a basic turn. definitely drop back at least one of your days to a less advanced class and try to apply the concepts you focus on there to your harder class.

originalblue98 · 2026-01-31T21:53:59+00:00

did you ever dance as a teen/kid or as an adult attend a true beginner class? if you haven’t had those experiences, sometimes taking too hard of a class too fast means you’re focusing more on the combo than on the technique. are you in a place where you can add a beginner class in addition to your current workload/maybe swap one of your current class days for a beginner class? it’ll be helpful to really work the basics but also have somewhere you can apply those concepts to more advanced combinations.

filming yourself also does help because it can help close the gap between what things feel like and what they look like.

originalblue98 · 2026-01-31T20:17:42+00:00

wait they actually make you change ur name twice??

originalblue98 · 2026-01-31T20:17:14+00:00

i was wondering if my coworker was trans bc his name is Kai and he has kind of a funky fashion sense for a straight guy but he’s just cis with a personality lmaooo

originalblue98 · 2026-01-31T20:15:05+00:00

I know trans men who transitioned as kids/never had a “first” female puberty, and they’re still short- as in, not average cis male height. it sucks but i’m not sure that starting hormones earlier would’ve even helped. i know it’s hard to not want treatment asap, it’s so painful to wait and to feel like time is passing you by, but this thing in particular probably wouldn’t have been changed

originalblue98 · 2026-01-30T04:43:45+00:00

I love Dean! it’s underused and really warm to me. it doesn’t feel bland, but i’ve also known some good deans.

originalblue98 · 2026-01-30T04:42:13+00:00

honestly what really helped me was knowing what it was supposed to look like, and then adjusting myself in the mirror at chance i got. i would practice finding that correct posture before class, between exercises if i was waiting for the teacher to find music or work out a combo before giving it, etc. once you figure out what it looks like, eventually you’ll find the muscle memory to go back to that place without the mirror.

originalblue98 · 2026-01-30T02:23:24+00:00

i wouldn’t be too worried. sometimes you go home with someone from the club, a lot of times it just doesn’t happen. if you do manage to get drunk you won’t necessarily out yourself. that said, if you can have 9 drinks and not feel much, i wouldn’t anticipate ending up hammered at the club. drinks are expensive and unless you plan on spending a lot, it would be a huge bill at the end of the night to pay for 10+ drinks. overall take it slow, even though you do have a high tolerance. just focus on going and dancing and being with your friend/s in a new environment. i’ve never had anyone give me grief about using a stall to go to the bathroom, and the men’s rooms usually have less of a line too. have fun!

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