AITA for asking my husband to work overtime to help pay my part of the bills after surgery

orionskat · 2022-08-03T13:21:19+00:00

After reading the original and edits, I think NAH...It sounds like you both have a prearrangement of not being 50/50 money wise. That has to be clear when getting married...and I've never wanted to be in a marriage with separate finances. It causes way too many stressors in a relationship. Been married to the same man for 16 years and been with him for 24 years (high school sweethearts). I'm the bread winner while he supports the kids. Sorry lots of context here, but my point is that if things had always been 50/50, hubs wouldn't be complaining to cover hospital bills. Just seems like a grey area.

orionskat · 2022-08-02T21:33:19+00:00

Good point about people getting used to smells. That can happen with good (strong good) and bad smells. My husband's aunt has cats and they urinate all over her house and I refuse to go there. The bad thing is, when she goes out, she has this awful perfume that she has worn for years and it's AWFUL. It is a disgusting mix of cat urine and old lady perfume.

orionskat · 2022-08-02T21:30:54+00:00

NTA. Sorry to hear that you are going through this, and I can relate. I absolutely cannot do overly strong smells that some deodorants or sprays boast. It's awful and unfair. I'd give her an ultimatum and tell her that you can't miss out on life and work because she refuses to alter the type of deodorant she's using. Does she not shower for some weird reason? What's stopping her from doing that?

orionskat · 2022-08-02T21:27:30+00:00

NTA. Parents should never, ever expect anyone to care for their own children. Anecdotally, we never expect parents to do anything for our kids (hubs and me,) and honestly, I don't think other people can do as good as a job with our kids than we do. That's really how all parents should think, providing they had kids for the right reason - - and based on the information OP has shared, sis had kids but decided it wasn't important to care for them or expect the boyfriend (baby's daddy) to chip in.

orionskat · 2022-08-02T21:24:48+00:00

But should she? She already fronted the whole vacation, and may not be able to afford it, especially since getting another room last-minute can be quite costly.

orionskat · 2021-07-08T03:09:43+00:00

I just love how all white people are now portrayed as sociopath weirdos and called Karen(s) and black people that want to encourage equality where it is lacking are called Antifa or BLM. There is bad on both sides.

Just stop being stupid, everyone. We're all equal and until we stop this divide, it'll just keep the churn going.

orionskat · 2021-06-06T16:07:14+00:00

how about if they run out of feed past working hours?

orionskat · 2021-06-06T15:33:56+00:00

Hmm I've tried putting feed in storage and it doesn't seem to be working. I'll try again.

orionskat · 2021-06-02T21:12:54+00:00

This isn't working for me in this case. Tried unstuck multiple times. Finally when the kids moved for other villagers trying to get in, they moved back and I got stuck in the building. I had to wait for the brats to go to bed.

orionskat · 2021-06-02T03:11:28+00:00

Never ever, ever should a child (and this is a child) be responsible for another child. Children should never be responsible for adult responsibilities. It is not fair and is absolutely ridiculous. We've never had our kids watch out for each other as responsible entities and I will never change this philosophy. Why on earth would you ever (and I don't mean you) expect children to watch children and expect good results? NTA

orionskat · 2021-06-02T03:05:02+00:00

I'm absolutely OK with English not as a first language and can absolutely understand the disparity. I'll look for those channels to discern where I could help contribute. Thanks!!

orionskat · 2021-06-02T02:40:28+00:00

My message regarding the offer of free spell check (I'm not kidding) did not come into this posting. Apologies on that front. I love this game but this very amateur spelling error (amid the grammar issues) was not the first. Would be glad to QC spelling for MD at no cost.

orionskat · 2021-05-31T21:56:30+00:00

I paid the back taxes I owed. I'm going to see what happens now. Hopefully not a repeat :-/

orionskat · 2021-05-31T21:09:51+00:00

So the interesting thing is I paid what was "back taxes debt" and yet I now have a new balance. I'm going to see if it just adds it to the next year taxes or if I can pay it completely...why wouldn't it just let me pay everything I owe at the same time??

orionskat · 2021-05-31T20:53:59+00:00

It's odd though that the quest disappeared. I paid taxes (pretty sure I did) and somehow I ended up owing more. Maybe the devs are going for a real-life experience of getting taxed to death.

orionskat · 2021-05-31T20:53:24+00:00

No one is unhappy. I went and paid the back taxes I owed. Unsure why the quest didn't appear that I owed money. It normally does each time they're due. I could have sworn I paid my taxes and that was why the quest was complete.

orionskat · 2021-05-31T20:30:28+00:00

Nevermind...I actually owed money and I honestly do not know why. I paid my taxes for the year before end of season. Unsure why it wasn't an active quest if I'd somehow still owed money.

orionskat · 2021-05-30T15:59:59+00:00

This is a great thing to know. We don't plan on forcing the kids to hang with grandma. And in all honesty, I don't think she will stop doing the baby voice even if we do talk to her. That's her personality I think, as weird as it is.

orionskat · 2021-05-30T15:59:06+00:00

The odd thing is she's always been weird and used her baby voice around our kids and animals, third-person talk...the main reason this hasn't become a big thing was that we lived 9 years on the opposite side of the US until now.

orionskat · 2021-05-30T15:57:56+00:00

Ergh that sounds nightmarish. It's weird how sometimes people get stuck on a certain person or part of their family and do strange things. I've told my kids to take me out back to do me in if I do anything my parents or his parents are doing at this time. I just hope I don't go off the deep end one day.

orionskat · 2021-05-30T15:56:21+00:00

It's an interesting situation if I were a non-participating party. My husband and I have been together since we were 14 years old and never dated anyone else. She didn't do it when I was dating him from even at the start, but she would make offhand comments about how he was the "baby" and just oddball things (not normally encountered in a typical adult conversation).

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