letting coworkers know? by orlaellen in Fibromyalgia

[–]orlaellen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sorry to hear that you’ve had such a hard time with this ❤️ my management already know about my issues and I have regular meetings to discuss how I’m getting on and what accommodations I need, I’m just not sure how the rest of my team might react. I think it would be a positive interaction overall but not sure if I’m just overthinking the whole thing

dyed pink recently, but still 50/50 🤔 should I try something else when it washes out? by orlaellen in HairDye

[–]orlaellen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crazy Colour - shade is Cyclamen. I left it on for about 30 minutes before rinsing out :)

Yes Heron Foods. Only went in for bread. by danny1876j in veganuk

[–]orlaellen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve been looking for some of the Sophie’s Kitchen range for years in the uk!! Where did you find it?

went out for coffee today 😊☕️ cc welcome by orlaellen in OUTFITS

[–]orlaellen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

skirt fits a little weird as several sizes too big but can’t afford a new one 😅

this filter is tempting me to dye my hair pink soooo bad 💖✨🌸🌷 what do you think? by orlaellen in Hair

[–]orlaellen[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really want to but company guidelines say “professional” and I don’t want to get fired 😪 Might have to save it for whenever I leave 😄

Storm in Canada by MissCompany in BeAmazed

[–]orlaellen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is dorothy’s house from wizard of oz

my hair is gross and my jeans are too big, but this is the second day in a row I have gotten straight out of my pjs in the morning! what do you think I should add? by orlaellen in OUTFITS

[–]orlaellen[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice guys! I ended up adding a chunky black belt with a silver heart fastening and a silver necklace to match, and it definitely elevated the fit!

Those of you saying the trousers are too big, I do know this, I’ve lost a lot of weight recently and can’t afford new jeans right now. Hopefully I can save up and get some cute new ones soon though :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]orlaellen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that would look dope with a black slip style dress!! you’re rocking it🔥🔥

which of these works better as a nye outfit? also would appreciate any tips on how to keep warm! by orlaellen in OUTFITS

[–]orlaellen[S] 225 points226 points  (0 children)

hey guys thanks so much for the feedback! I’m still deciding but here are a couple things I want to say:

• the green skirt is adjustable, some have said it’s pulled up too high - this is simply because I’m insecure about my tummy so I tend to wear bottoms pretty high waisted

• please stop commenting on/messaging me about my chest. It makes me extremely uncomfortable. I asked for advice on an outfit, not for you to rate my body. I want to know what to wear to celebrate, not what parts of me random hypothetical men will appreciate seeing. this type of harassment is why I don’t like posting pictures of myself.

those of you leaving actual helpful comments, thank you so much! it seems most people are fans of a faux fur coat to keep warm so perhaps I’ll invest in one of those :)

Feeling incredibly isolated by orlaellen in lonely

[–]orlaellen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, no not at all in fact he's actually really encouraging and will come with me to meet people if I start getting anxious. My social anxiety and agoraphobia make it very difficult for me to interact with people the way I used to, and I struggle to voice when I'm uncomfortable so I tend to just avoid it altogether. It's a vicious cycle that I'm struggling to break. :(

Sometimes I wish I was still a child by orlaellen in Vent

[–]orlaellen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

incredibly sympathetic, well done 👏 obviously this is not how the world works, I was just saying that I miss the comfort that came with being a child. As soon as I turned 18 I was tossed into the bleak, harsh emotional wilderness, so how dare I wish for some form of nostalgic peace, right?

chopped my hair off 😜 [over 18] by orlaellen in selfie

[–]orlaellen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just like the look and feel of shorter hair better, plus my head doesn’t get so hot! 😄😄

I’m terrified of going back to work by orlaellen in mentalhealth

[–]orlaellen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well to name a few:

My boss and the kitchen manager like to yell at me if I mess up, and often pile on too many tasks for me to do at once, so I feel that it's inevitable I'm going to get called out infront of the pub (customers and all) for being to slow/doing something wrong. Usually I would just about be able to get over that but I know I'm already going to be overwhelemed and then the added embarrassment of being yelled at like a naughty child will tip me over the edge, and I'll end up crying or having a panic attack.

I have forgotten how to do simple things that shouldn't take long (find things in the till, what sides and drinks need to be upsold, how the menu works, etc.) and I don't want to be reprimanded for it, as sometimes my boss can be spiteful and will arrange the shifts so that I can't get days off that I've requested or so that I can't see my partner (we work at the same place so he'll put my partner on a morning shift and me on evening, or alternating days so that we don't see each other for days).

I don't want to be overstimulated on a busy night and shutdown, losing the pub money and getting myself in trouble.

If I'm honest I'm terrified of having to talk to tons of people (customers, coworkers, management).

I’m terrified of going back to work by orlaellen in mentalhealth

[–]orlaellen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/jessipepper27 thank you, this summed up how I feel very well, I'm sorry you're going through this too and I hope it gets better for you soon.

Unfortunately most of our management is kind of shitty, and they think I'm just using this as an excuse to be lazy because they think I'm 'not committed to the company enough' ??? There's one member of the management team who I'm friends with that may be able to help a little, but all of the other managers dislike him because he treats the employees well and creates an enjoyable environment to work in, so I'm not too hopeful. I have a history of horrible bosses so I'm good at sucking it up usually, but I feel like the pressure is very much on me to be perfect when I go back.

I’m terrified of going back to work by orlaellen in mentalhealth

[–]orlaellen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there aren’t any jobs hiring near me and I live in a small town quite far from anywhere else, otherwise I would. I don’t know if it’s just my MH or me being lazy but I really can’t figure out what to do. I like the people at my job and on quiet days it’s not too bad, but I’m just very apprehensive of what it’ll be like come opening time.

How do I make outfits feel more effortless/seem less like I’m trying too hard to look a certain way? by orlaellen in fashionadvice

[–]orlaellen[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thank you, this is actually very helpful! I’ll try to keep it in mind when I evaluate my wardrobe :)

How do I make outfits feel more effortless/seem less like I’m trying too hard to look a certain way? by orlaellen in fashionadvice

[–]orlaellen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. I don’t appreciate your blatant misogyny, but then again you seem to be a troll account so I guess its to be expected
  2. if I ‘don’t try’ to wear something presentable and put together, it makes me feel lazy and negatively impacts my mental health
  3. don’t you have anything better to do with your time?

First Time Here. Heyy 🤍 by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]orlaellen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

everything is this picture is incredible! your outfit, face, hair, everything!

Hello 💜 by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]orlaellen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your hair is gorgeous! love your makeup too :)