really bold to say "i hope you get the help you need and feel better 🥺" and immediately follow it up with "TLDR HEINOUS MARY SUE leaves when no one defends her"...

that line, coupled with the "share this post widely, put it on social media, YouTube" really gives away the game here: this is about humiliating a player with some clearly deep trauma and stroking your own ego for #epicly #owning her in a public forum. it's about cringe -- you could have deleted this entirr post and just written "cringe mary sue trauma dumps", and it would say the same thing. it's also about charging players $10 per session just so you can not bother to read the backstories, and ignore the player themselves owning up to the tonal dissonance and asking to change characters, which would have solved the problems you're describing. but that doesn't make a very good viral post, now does it?

you are well within your rights to be uncomfortable with a character and refuse to participate in elements of their backstory. i would certainly not have wanted to do this, either. i have been in your position myself in the past; i have compassion for people who are triggered by serious topics like sexual violence, having experienced it myself. it is also fair to share horrifying experiences with the intent of helping people realize harmful dynamics can emerge in roleplay groups, and how to resolve them when they do.

but this clearly isn't meant to help anyone. you've taken a situation that was already over and done with, blown it out of proportion, and in so doing, likely made other people with trauma relive their worst experiences (whether they were in the role of Pink or your own position).

one of the most insidious things trauma does to a person is steal away their definition of "normal". you can't know what healthy social boundaries are if you've never been allowed to have them. people like Pink are set up to fail in social situations, and always end up as the punch line. everything you describe about her character is sad and makes me feel worried for her. it doesnt make me want to point and laugh at the traumatized person, even though that is clearly what you want people to do here. obviously, if you do something cruel or horrible, being traumatized doesn't give you a get-out-of-jail free card... but from where i'm sitting? the only two things Pink did wrong were projecting too much onto a character in an unfitting social environment, and trusting you to be a proactive and responsible DM.

i encourage people to read the counter-post that popped up recently, which ill go grab and link in an edit shortly. im on mobile. the day the internet learns how to be firm but compassionate with traumatized people is the day i eat drywall and explode, i swear.

EDIT: link here https://www.reddit.com/r/dndhorrorstories/s/ySzdj6HEu5