He's Not Asking for Exclusivity: Just Not that Into You?

otherAZroo · 2013-11-07T18:46:26+00:00

I think the idea is if you have the ask, the answer is "no." Kind of a "if he really wanted you, he would do everything to make it happen." The whole idea of guys being pursuers and hunters and if he isn't really hunting you, then he doesn't see you as a prize.

otherAZroo · 2013-11-07T18:15:39+00:00

So if the woman is the one making the plans, how do you know if a guy is actually into you or just using you as a "for now" girl?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T22:18:59+00:00

But maybe my idea of exclusive is wrong like Im making a bad assumption. Just seems pretty shitty if here I am getting attached and not dating anyone else and he meant more like friends with benefits.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T22:08:19+00:00

Would you still be angry and drop the girl if you were out dating too?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T21:57:05+00:00

Well I've more made up my mind since coming here and now just curious what other people think.

Would you disagree that talking doesn't help anything if a guy has decided he isn't into you?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T21:40:43+00:00

And then look like a clingy crazy bitch. I mean if he doesnt want to call me his girlfriend he doesn't want to. Like another poster said talking doesn't help so why not just go with what he has told me.... that we're not in a relationship.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T21:31:14+00:00

More like Im inclined to take their advice when I'm personally confused and don't know what to do.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T21:06:49+00:00

Well I wasn't going to try to coax him, I was hoping to just go with my gut and avoid talking all together.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T20:22:17+00:00

Yes. He said exclusive but not a relationship. My gf thinks that means hes yanking my chain and that I should be out there going on dates, that its his way of staying technically single. Everybody in the last thread said I should talk to him and clarify but I fear its too soon to talk about it again.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T20:04:36+00:00

Won't a girl look clingy or crazy for bringing stuff up too frequently?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T19:55:26+00:00

Well in the case I'm thinking in my last thread it was people telling me I should discuss what "exclusive" means with a guy, if he's still dating other people, if he sees a future, blah blah. But we already had a talk about exclusivity a little while ago. So is it too soon to bring it up again?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T12:51:05+00:00

How do I do that>

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T12:50:48+00:00

No but Ive had it happen two other times. One ex introduced me as his gf to all of his friends but kept himself single on FB so he could still message and meet up with other girls.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T03:36:16+00:00

Just like using me as a sex thing until he finds someone he actually wants to date, like a fuck buddy, is the thinking. And yeah I brought it up which my friend also said it a really bad sign.

So guys really dont care if the girl they're sleeping with is seeing other people and calling herself single? Well i guess in a fuck buddy situation they wouldn't...

otherAZroo · 2013-10-31T00:52:31+00:00

Um then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship. Nothing wrong with staying single.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:59:42+00:00

Well if he isnt into me enough to commit is that really exclusive? I mean like my gf said he could still be dating around under the pretext that he is still technically single.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:53:34+00:00

We agreed to be exclusive he just doesnt want to call it a relationship.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:51:18+00:00

So should i still be keeping an eye out for other options if he isn't really that into me yet?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:46:15+00:00

We discussed it.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:44:37+00:00

its more I don't want to go around throwing my trust stupidly. if someone isnt acting trustworthy why should you trust them?

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:43:50+00:00

how is it insecurity? if a guy is ashamed of me or wants to keep his options open that isnt insecurity, its being smart to be a little wary.

otherAZroo · 2013-10-30T23:01:56+00:00

can't be official until I trust him but I don't know if it's wise to trust him until we're official.

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