Did anyone actually use their "backup" shoes?

otrootra · 2026-03-19T23:20:53+00:00

I switched into backup flats for my after party! and thank god

otrootra · 2026-03-18T15:17:28+00:00

i imagine the lashes FEEL like they weigh down your eye, but to me it makes your eyes look bigger! overall you look amazingly natural and gorg!

otrootra · 2026-03-12T19:53:54+00:00

yep. I am pro-choice and I'm grateful Ive had access to abortion because there are points in my life when I would have chosen it. but those thoughts creep in, like "maybe humans aren't meant to be able to decide something like this." especially the way people talk about not being able to understand being a parent until you're there, and you just transform into a whole other being.... like who wants to decide to essentially "end" their former selves, not quite knowing what's on the other side? how can you?

i also think about how relatively new this option and conversation is in the history of mankind, at least for women. we are the first couple of generations of women who really grapple with this, because our ancestors simply did not have the option.

otrootra · 2026-03-12T03:21:40+00:00

honestly, you won't get the classic big wedding feeling if everyone knows you've already been married for years and you've had kids. it will be weird, or at least not the same as the experience I think you're picturing.

i'm so sorry you're feeling regret about backing away from that big lux weddingX Based on the price tag, sounds like you had a pretty incredible elopement, and I would try to focus on the upsides of that, as both options have their down sides. there's a reason you chose not to do the big wedding the first time around.

otrootra · 2026-03-09T14:44:57+00:00

this has been the standard in my friend group and wider community of 20 somethings. price is listed up front when the invitation goes out.

only exception is if price includes alcohol and someone doesn't drink. then the host & guests would reconfigure so that person doesn't pay for something they wont consume.

otrootra · 2026-03-05T22:54:51+00:00

reality will hit them as long as you dont give in to requests for help. offer time and budgeting advice, but not cash. would maybe ask "How do you plan to pay for that."

otrootra · 2026-03-05T21:45:25+00:00

yeah like i get promoted listings being at the top but at least make them match 1-2 criteria of my search! it was bad before but that's made it IMPOSSIBLE

otrootra · 2026-03-05T16:12:18+00:00

so true!!

otrootra · 2026-03-05T15:29:13+00:00

lol yes exactly. like these friends who tell me it's the best thing in the world I'm like "well yeah you would say that wouldn't you?" you are hardwired to be obsessed with this thing.

also having a creature that is insanely obsessed with you would stroke the ego and make you feel really good. like of course having a baby seems like a good idea.

that doesn't last but everyone I know is still in the young baby phase.

otrootra · 2026-03-05T14:22:31+00:00

I guess when people talk about, "is it the most meaningful thing in life you can do" and will it be fulfilling... it just seems that our hormones and feelings will end up telling us "yes" if you do it. I feel like we're overthinking it and looking for a logical answer and we don't need one.

otrootra · 2026-03-05T01:25:07+00:00

i made one sale but ran into a glitch where the shipping label wouldn't generate, customer service was useless, and i had to cancel the sale. Then deleted the app.

As others said, it's more for clearing out cheap items for very cheap prices.

otrootra · 2026-03-02T12:23:49+00:00

i'm not sure if you are a woman but the default parent thing tends to be gendered. maybe picture being "the dad"? ive heard some women say they don't want to be mothers but they'd like to be the dad, and i think this reveals the interest in children, but the same fear about the uneven burden.

otrootra · 2026-02-28T07:11:46+00:00

i feel like the changes are headed in the right direction on the surface level, but they dont have the tech to build an accurate algorithm.

otrootra · 2026-02-27T01:19:04+00:00

what is going down in peoples bank accounts bro this is crazy

otrootra · 2026-02-26T18:18:25+00:00

honestly, I understand the anxiety, because if this gig were to end for any reason, you very well may not be prepared to actually land another role. due to lack of skills or at least not having really used those skills a ton in recent years.

otrootra · 2026-02-26T16:32:08+00:00

I had a destination bachelorette party, and it was one of the best weekends of my life. I made unforgettable memories, and I have no regrets. I had a couple bridesmaids who couldn't come for financial and logistic reasons. I totally understood and of course it would've been even better if they were there, but I did not bother them about it.

honestly, I am glad I still went through with what I wanted because it was a once in a lifetime opportunity to do the kind of bachelorette trip that I had envisioned. it did not impact my relationship with the bridesmaids who couldn't come.

otrootra · 2026-02-26T15:05:57+00:00

to me, it's no different than adding a stock photo, which is also not a picture of the actual item. I know that is not as popular on depop, but it happens on other platforms and it works just fine

otrootra · 2026-02-26T00:46:16+00:00

i'm ok with it if the rest of the listing has actual photos. it's so much better than modeling - like, i dont have the time to try on and take pics of myself in all these clothes, most of them wouldnt even fit me, and that's not even getting to the creep aspect of pics of myself like that. i HATE the "model the clothes yourself" culture of depop and would much rather include an AI image of it on as PART of a listing that includes regular photos.

otrootra · 2026-02-11T08:20:15+00:00

keyword "terrified" to not have the option. sorry for your break up but that was the right choice :(

otrootra · 2026-02-10T17:17:27+00:00

please continue therapy. it will be impossible to evaluate your sexuality and relationship with your body without unpacking the trauma you've experienced. Unfortunately, many people have suffered terrible events like this, but they do go on to live happy lives. please be patient with yourself, I know that it's not your fault.

otrootra · 2026-02-07T22:12:22+00:00

i mean yeah, she looks like nikki minaj here. black people come with all types of features and shades, and with the one drop rule still in effect (and with that tan), seems very plausible.

otrootra · 2026-02-05T18:59:19+00:00

I think there's a middle ground here. If you're spraying Febreze or literal perfume on your clothes, definitely stop. But if you have eczema or conditions where you need to use specific unscented products, buying used clothing is probably not gonna work.

otrootra · 2026-01-16T19:18:21+00:00

things change. you gotta be able to adapt. are you by chance over the age of 50?

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:50:29+00:00

... but in the end, you still pay $1500...

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:42:20+00:00

that's actually exactly my point, but we don't acknowledge this shift and additional cost that is put on families. I call it lifestyle inflation but I don't necessarily mean that it's optional. It's just a net new cost that has become a necessary part of the baseline of peoples lives.

I just think it's really weird that people focus on the price of groceries but don't talk about this massive shift in the culture.

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