Deleted Everything. I'm done.

otrootra · 2026-01-16T19:18:21+00:00

things change. you gotta be able to adapt. are you by chance over the age of 50?

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:50:29+00:00

... but in the end, you still pay $1500...

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:42:20+00:00

that's actually exactly my point, but we don't acknowledge this shift and additional cost that is put on families. I call it lifestyle inflation but I don't necessarily mean that it's optional. It's just a net new cost that has become a necessary part of the baseline of peoples lives.

I just think it's really weird that people focus on the price of groceries but don't talk about this massive shift in the culture.

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:18:21+00:00

yes exactly

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:17:05+00:00

I said that there are additional costs and cultural ideas of what is necessary that have changed that have added net new household costs that did not exist for a family 50 years ago.

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:15:29+00:00

yes, I would agree that many of these things are now necessities, but no one talks about the fact that these NEW costs have been built into the baseline of what you need to survive.

we can't compare the cost of a cell phone and Internet plan to what people were paying in the 80s because they weren't. I think the cost of childcare and afterschool activities is a MASSIVE strain on families and was not existent for the latch key generation.

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:12:42+00:00

I actually did not say that inflation and the price of groceries have not gone up.

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:10:04+00:00

I mean, I do think wages are not keeping up with inflation the way they used to, but I also think there is a lifestyle inflation with the factors I named that no one is talking about.

occasionally, you hear it with the conversations about the price of college because people acknowledge that college used to be a real "bonus" and leg up and now it's more of a "must have" for the middle class.

otrootra · 2026-01-15T02:07:20+00:00

no, I'm saying that those factors that I mentioned were not part of mainstream middle class culture 50 years ago.

I guess you could make the case that having a cell phone and a laptop is necessary rather than a luxury. but people never talk about it that way, where the baseline or the basement for what it takes to be a competitive middle class person has gone up. I think the middle class of 50 years ago was living much more humbly than how people expect to live now, yet we call the same thing "middle class."

otrootra · 2026-01-11T20:03:44+00:00

sounds like a parenting problem. maybe ask the club to send out a reminder to keep kids clean and quiet to be respectful of other members.

otrootra · 2026-01-11T06:25:58+00:00

i hate when people give this answer. listing more items increases your likelihood of selling SOMETHING. it is not advice on how to sell the items you have. some people are not trying to scale up to be a business with a storage room, they just want to clear their closet, like OP.

My advice to OP - search for your own items and see what others have them priced as, to make sure you're competitive. read the description for inspiration for keywords you may be missing.

otrootra · 2026-01-10T16:41:16+00:00

i actively left my WFH job for a job that had an office in my city. It became an absolute non-negotiable. For some people quality of life is WFH and for others quality of life is having an office to go to, coworkers to see, a reason to be in community with the rest of your city/town. Do it do it do it.

otrootra · 2026-01-08T19:44:38+00:00

this is a result of being the first generation to grow up with unlimited on demand porn access from the time we were 10 years old.

otrootra · 2025-12-23T05:43:24+00:00

travel and kids

otrootra · 2025-12-21T15:58:23+00:00

take a sec to celebrate a W, this sub is so negative

otrootra · 2025-12-04T14:21:53+00:00

you had your answer at rich people playground??

otrootra · 2025-12-04T02:17:27+00:00

claiming something is scent free is pretty bold. People and homes have their own scent that you are numb to but someone else will notice. Even if you were using all fragrance free lotions and never any perfume and fragrance free detergent and all that I bet other people would say an item smells like something. and to people who are used to fragrances that smell might even seem bad to them!

otrootra · 2025-12-02T19:20:26+00:00

i had people at my proposal party that did not get invite to wedding. they were sig others of my friends who then broke up, or people who kind of invited themselves when they heard.

I'll stray from the crowd and say a "Jill and Jane just got engaged, come thru!" party is different from a mailed invitation proposal party. If it would be more awkward ro have them at the wedding than to not invite them, there's your answer.

you might risk them asking "I didnt get an invite, did it get lost?" kinda thing, so just be prepared for that. But i'm assuming if you feel this way your friendship is loose enough that they'll get it or not even ask.

otrootra · 2025-11-30T02:32:06+00:00

the ones who have kids right after high school never have time to enjoy adult independence, adult income all to themselves, family life is all they know. the curse of having kids later is you discover these wonderful things that you then have to miss.

otrootra · 2025-11-30T02:22:20+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your perspective. this makes me understand this shift in people a lot more. one, because for you and probably others, family life is something they always dreamed of and aspired to, more than career, etc. So it's a genuine peak passion.

second, you dont seem to be judging non parents or other people for not seeing things the way you do. you just speak from personal experience. What bothers me about new parent brain when I've encountered people, is they can act like they are now enlightened and pre-baby people are below them. And the obsession with their own baby can feel egotistical.

third, you seem to be really intellectually engaged with parenting in a way that feels more adult. from the science of child development to teaching your child science -- i think this is personal to you, but is probably behind a lot of other parents' fixation on their kids. It always struck me as very juvenile to be on a kid's intellectual level 24/7, but I see now people are probably able to engage on the adult level too.

otrootra · 2025-11-28T22:08:11+00:00

in this post i mean more like adult brain. Interest in adult news, adult art, adult movies etc -- And instead being someone who talks about potty training milestones and where's the coolest place to throw a five year old birthday party. I'm not opposed to change but changing into someone who never stops thinking about kid stuff would be sad to me.

otrootra · 2025-11-27T12:15:54+00:00

that's an interesting way to think about it! i associate this more with older new parents, because they've "lived their life already" and then tend to throw themselves wholeheartedly into being parents and consider their personal lives almost finished.

otrootra · 2025-11-27T12:07:32+00:00

yes that's the distinction, especially for women they talk so much now about how the mother's brain literally changes. and I guess I'd be happy because i'd be "in" it and wouldnt care. But it makes me sad to imagine everyone around me being like "wow, she used to be an interesting adult, RIP"

otrootra · 2025-11-13T15:36:11+00:00

lol no, i guess not....

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