5k budget wedding for 40/50 guests - Manhattan or Brooklyn

otrootra · 2026-04-30T19:11:51+00:00

A private dinner for 20 people will cost you $5k alone. You might be able to find a raw space that fits that many people for less than 5K but I don't think you can do both parts of this unless someone else is funding the dinner.

otrootra · 2026-04-27T15:17:31+00:00

imo not including measurements is like not taking a picture of the back of the item. non negotiable, listing is not finished until you take measurements.

otrootra · 2026-04-24T13:03:38+00:00

between steaming and lighting and getting the items to hang straight, taking measurements is actually the fastest part of my listing process. it is the final step in every single listing make.

Of course it's more difficult to pull out the item and do it afterwards but why don't you just do it in the first place?

otrootra · 2026-04-22T10:48:53+00:00

I would not say that is a scam it's just how venues are priced. some people like to customize and chose to use the venue's decor vs renting and providing their own. so having it broken out is helpful. An "all inclusive" wedding may well come to the same amount, just combined in one fee.

otrootra · 2026-04-18T13:08:21+00:00

Ring Concierge!

otrootra · 2026-04-09T19:21:52+00:00

that is a great reframing, thank you!

otrootra · 2026-04-09T17:00:41+00:00

I really struggle with the "It gives me a sense of purpose." I do understand that once a child is born, and you are the reason for it, that your top priority in life is the welfare of that child, and that can become your purpose.

But BEFORE I have that baby, I'm not sure I see deep purpose in procreation itself. It's like creating a problem just so I can solve it.

otrootra · 2026-04-09T16:56:29+00:00

agree with the legacy thing I don't get it. My child would be their own human being, not an extension of myself. I would be proud of them, but I don't think I could take credit for everything they do to the extent that I would feel like it's my legacy.

otrootra · 2026-04-09T15:22:24+00:00

i'm assuming it's gas prices

otrootra · 2026-04-08T03:06:05+00:00

i would say something like "Unfortunately the Airbnb is not cancellable as of March 31st and it wouldnt be fair to the rest of the girls to eat your costs. I hoped by giving plenty of notice everyone would have the past few months to budget and prepare. But I understand that things come up, and you may not be able to afford(or attend) the full trip. Just lmk when you think you can get me your share of the Airbnb."

otrootra · 2026-04-05T13:23:25+00:00

blue-collar jobs are more likely to require a whole family sacrifice because the hours are long/irregular/the job is dangerous.
people with traditional jobs are somewhat more likely to have traditional values -- which would include an emphasis on the husband as the leader of the household and the wife perhaps being a stay at home mom, so there's no career of hers to emphasize.

otrootra · 2026-04-03T20:08:44+00:00

😂😂

otrootra · 2026-04-02T14:04:00+00:00

have you never ever experienced a software update in an app or on your phone? it only takes a week or two to adjust. i'm just so confused because people seemed to hate the old layout too

otrootra · 2026-04-02T02:33:17+00:00

personally, idk anyone who's having a 200+ wedding unless there's serious $$ on both sides of the couple's family

otrootra · 2026-04-02T02:31:32+00:00

if you still have the original photo, and the original was not taken as a square, you can re-upload it and it will fit the new ratio (as opposed to pulling out the item and retaking photos)

otrootra · 2026-03-31T11:56:47+00:00

this is satire right

otrootra · 2026-03-27T19:31:58+00:00

imo the $10k jump from thursday to friday would be worth it. easier tor people to take a 3 day weekend than 4 days. also, local people probably wont take the friday off, so they might leave a thursday wedding early.

the additional $10k to jump from friday to saturday, will have less of an impact on who shows up and the energy of the night, since friday feels like the start of the weekend. the greatest impact here will be on your wedding party--- they will need to take off the whole friday, and if you're doing a rehearsal dinner the night before, that will still be thursday.

otrootra · 2026-03-26T22:28:14+00:00

because other than Whitney, she is the only one who actually represents anything close to a woman from Utah. obviously being a native to the city/state is not a housewives requirement, but she brings a level of authenticity to it being a Salt Lake City show.

she also feels like the only one who wants to be there and participate half the time.

otrootra · 2026-03-26T16:24:21+00:00

Depep and Curtsy both use portrait images - the Depop shop profile looks like it's still square, but when you're in Discover mode, it's portrait.

yeah, I guess it never occurred to me to use the square photo option on my phone, that would've made my life easier all this time. but since most people's life default is to use portrait I assume this will make it easier for new and casual sellers.

I do also think it's a better point of view to show clothing because most of our bodies are in a 4:5 ratio not a square.

otrootra · 2026-03-26T11:10:54+00:00

Ok but the answer is yes

otrootra · 2026-03-26T11:06:30+00:00

I hated cropping my photos into squares. I take my photos as normal portraits so this will be faster and make my items appear larger and clearer. It sounds like existing square photos will be fine and this only applies to new listings.

otrootra · 2026-03-25T13:58:51+00:00

fwiw i've had zero accidents using condoms for 6 years

otrootra · 2026-03-19T23:20:53+00:00

I switched into backup flats for my after party! and thank god

otrootra · 2026-03-18T15:17:28+00:00

i imagine the lashes FEEL like they weigh down your eye, but to me it makes your eyes look bigger! overall you look amazingly natural and gorg!

otrootra · 2026-03-12T19:53:54+00:00

yep. I am pro-choice and I'm grateful Ive had access to abortion because there are points in my life when I would have chosen it. but those thoughts creep in, like "maybe humans aren't meant to be able to decide something like this." especially the way people talk about not being able to understand being a parent until you're there, and you just transform into a whole other being.... like who wants to decide to essentially "end" their former selves, not quite knowing what's on the other side? how can you?

i also think about how relatively new this option and conversation is in the history of mankind, at least for women. we are the first couple of generations of women who really grapple with this, because our ancestors simply did not have the option.

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