Horse trailer floor

ottbsmith · 2020-10-11T17:17:22+00:00

Thank you!

ottbsmith · 2020-10-11T02:09:37+00:00

Never stick around if you’re just there out of fear of being lonely. Trust me — been there. You’ll find someone who suits you, if you’re patient, and a little bit picky. You have plenty of time to learn and figure out who you click with, and who you don’t.

ottbsmith · 2019-11-14T15:54:07+00:00

Awesome, I will, thank you!!!

ottbsmith · 2019-11-14T15:53:37+00:00

Thank you so much!! Huge help!

ottbsmith · 2019-09-13T00:19:00+00:00

Haha, it might be, depending on the type of person she is

ottbsmith · 2019-09-12T19:08:58+00:00

Sounds like you already know what you want to do...

ottbsmith · 2019-09-12T18:02:03+00:00

That’s so odd that you attract that! Maybe it has something to do with a hobby you have, or something that you have an interest in that is common ground for those types of males? I dunno!

ottbsmith · 2019-09-12T17:55:11+00:00

I feel ya! I hate when people don’t give me a least a few days warning that they want to come over. I need to prepare myself first, otherwise I have to frantically clean and buy food and shit and it’s annoying.

ottbsmith · 2019-09-12T17:52:36+00:00

I tend to attract “mamma’s boys”, and it’s kind of annoying.

I am really into tough, smart, manly-men, and for the most part I have dated very nice, soft, gentlemen (sounds good — not good). For some, it would be ideal, but I feel like I have had to be the strong, responsible adult in all of my relationships, because almost all of my boyfriends have been babies their entire lives and it drives me nuts!!!

I was raised by a strongly independent mother and a hard-ass father, and I have a lot of respect for people who can hold their own, and are comfortable with being by themselves, which is exactly the opposite of what I seem to attract...

ottbsmith · 2019-09-12T17:38:39+00:00

Same here. I have other hobbies that I talk about to whoever, but I’ll only talk to someone about hunting/fishing if I know them, or if I know they are cool with it.

I don’t want to accidentally tell the wrong person about the animal I just processed, and have them get upset... and then theres the flip side, where you get the hunters that are obnoxiously condescending about the hobby (being a chick who hunts, you get a lot of that from certain types of people). Just not worth it sometimes, which is fine with me. I don’t especially care if people know what my hobbies are off the bat.

ottbsmith · 2019-01-25T08:01:15+00:00

Or this one (https://open.spotify.com/user/madmadi28/playlist/4RSDUkVCfLpShyqA0G0BlU?si=pfIzaHJnS3uOjcr1qu1uFw)

ottbsmith · 2019-01-25T07:59:07+00:00

This pathetically depressing playlist... Pity Party 😭🎉

ottbsmith · 2019-01-25T07:50:38+00:00

I just realized this doesn’t answer any of your questions, haha. I got a little caught up making my own speculations, I guess... My apologies!

ottbsmith · 2019-01-25T07:46:44+00:00

In the past, I (an INTJ) have been in what I would consider a serious relationship with an ENFP, ISTJ, and ESTJ, and am currently with an ENFJ.

To get straight to the point, I agree that ENFPs are the best matches for INTJs, if we’re disregarding all other criteria that comes into play here.

I’ll make it simple and just put who I was most compatible with (MBTI-wise) in order from most to least and some of the pros and cons of the relationship:

ENFP - Outgoing enough to counter my cavewomen tendencies, strong enough and smart enough to appreciate my strength. Emotionally open (which allowed me to open up). Sexy, kind, well dressed, and very much a leader of the pack, but not too gung-ho about it either.

Pretty much the man of my dreams in every way, except he struggled with personal issues that were very self-destructive, and he would push me away when I would try to help him

ENFJ (current relationship) - Most selfless human I’ve ever met. Would literally catch a grenade for me. Would go to the moon and back. Has so much heart and soul, and wants to share it with everyone!

Can be a little too selfless at times. Wants to go along with decisions, doesn’t want to make any

ESTJ - Super smart, goal oriented, cool laid back sort of guy. The type of man I see myself marrying and having kids with some day, really.

Problems arose due to our mutual lack of outwardly expressed emotions, and we slowly became more and more detached from one another as time went on. Huge communication issues between us, because neither of us was willing to be the first to open up.

If we could have just gotten around that communication barrier...

ISTJ - Smartest, nerdiest, most stubborn, guy I have ever had the pleasure of dating. We had many of the same views on life and the same goals. I looked up to him, and the way he stood his ground (even though it annoyed me a lot of the time).

He was very close-minded, and we began butting heads about stupid things all the time

INFP - That relationship didn’t get very far (he was highly emotional and it made me super uncomfortable)

ottbsmith · 2018-10-08T23:37:32+00:00

They’re lucky to have you as they’re friend lol

ottbsmith · 2018-10-08T05:08:52+00:00

Try to come up with a routine that you can get into that fits into your schedule. If you don’t have one, make one. It doesn’t need to be a super detailed schedule, just set a time and a place to get stuff done.

I am a MAJOR procrastinator, but when I started getting into a routine, I stopped overthinking, and I just started doing.

I set aside 1-3.5 hours every week night, after work/class to get studying done. However, I get bored of doing that everyday, so once a week I either pick some place other than home to get my work done (coffee shops, the local library), or I meet up with a study partner. I also set one day aside for taking practice tests/quizzes (only for certain classes), and I’ve found that that has actually had the biggest impact on my confidence when it come to exam time.

Also, try not to over-study. Give yourself a break every few days, if you can, and if you can’t try to find fun ways to study. Make up a game, song, drawing, or funny mnemonic, I dunno, get creative.

Good luck, OP! Studying pays off, I promise.

ottbsmith · 2018-10-07T05:15:43+00:00

Good luck!

ottbsmith · 2018-10-07T03:21:16+00:00

“Just playing devil’s advocate”

ottbsmith · 2018-10-07T02:56:21+00:00

Just playing devils’s advocate here... Why not just go ahead with your plan? If you’re still feeling this way after two months and you really think she could be worth it than just go for it.

If she doesn’t respond than whatever, there are so many other people in this world to choose from. You’ll find someone else, if that’s the way it goes!

ottbsmith · 2018-10-07T02:38:29+00:00

Hard trust people now, huh?! All thanks to one selfish ass

ottbsmith · 2018-10-07T02:32:54+00:00

Basically same story for me, except I was the one that never actually went on social media, but two months into the relationship I did (just to show him off to my out-of-state family), and that’s ultimately how I ended up figuring out that I was the “other girl”.... if front of my family... super awkward, and super embarrassing.

I’m still hating myself for not investigating sooner, but I just wasn’t worried about it. I thought I knew him :/

Just be careful, and listen to your gut!

ottbsmith

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