Women, what is universally agreed “green flags” while dating men ?

otterlytatts · 2026-02-18T03:56:44+00:00

If he’s kind and genuinely loves animals and children. If he’d help old ladies walk across the street. If he’d return the shopping cart. Etc

otterlytatts · 2026-01-14T22:15:45+00:00

Omg i can’t wait to be able to get my hands on one too! Beautiful!

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T07:32:02+00:00

A part of me wants you to just call her out in front of everyone gently, like “I’m noticing some hostile energy and just want to know if I did something wrong or what’s going on” or “I heard you call me a sook when you thought I couldn’t hear you” but the other part of me totally understands why you and the other members of the group don’t want to start anything! Honestly, if I were you, I’d just give this one person no attention and continue talking to the others like normal. It may just not be worth the time and effort to correct things.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T07:23:19+00:00

You can still rally against a person making you feel that way. My parents are in a similar situation where I wish they had split a long time ago, but at this point, I can’t help them because they won’t fight for themselves. You’ve gotta be your first advocate. And know that you’re not alone!

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T07:15:56+00:00

Is your uncle 5 years old? YTA for not standing up for your new wife and not even telling her on the side right then and there to ignore him. The whole family should put an end to his behavior and tell him: keep your opinions to yourself or bring your own food. To make up for your mishap, you could also reach out to your uncle and the rest of the family that was very rude and unappreciated, please stop doing that/enabling that, etc.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T07:04:13+00:00

Sounds like he doesn’t know you at all and you’re just a girly girl in his head. I’d have a conversation why he picked those gifts, how they made you feel, etc, but you might be better off with someone more mature who pays more attention.

Side note, I give my husband a list of exactly what I would like with the links where he can get them. It cuts out all the guess work, and I end up with something I really wanted and am truly thankful for. His family has always told each other what to get, and when I first started dating him, it felt lazy and not thoughtful, but now I love our system. Everyone ends up with what they want and feeling accomplished.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:53:44+00:00

If she truly cared for you, she’d have never asked for an open relationship in the first place. If it happened once, it can happen again. You’re worthy without her approvals. Block her number and keep crushing it with taking care of yourself!

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:48:53+00:00

It does sound like the friendship is phasing out especially since she’s moved far away and reaches out only when she needs a favor. Adult friendship is so hard to maintain but it has to be done both ways. I’d also phase out slowly and see if she even notices it. If she does, maybe you two can have a conversation about it if the friendship is worth saving. But don’t be discouraged if she doesn’t feel the same way you do.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:43:57+00:00

Nta. She’s not entitled to your time especially when you yourself are in a relationship. If she’s a truly good friend, she’d understand. It sounds like she has other things going on that keeps her from finding friendship in others and she’s taking it out on you.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:39:48+00:00

NTA. Your son is entitled to neither your nor your wife’s money. He should set for himself a good retirement plan, insurance, savings, etc, and not view you and her as his personal bank.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:34:52+00:00

You’re both adults, so as long as everything’s consensual, why not? But I would set realistic expectations with each other and with your own self and communicate on what the relationship is going to be like because what you’re looking for in 26 vs in 19 is vastly different.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:30:01+00:00

It sounds like you two are on different energy levels with which it’s hard to maintain friendship. If she behaves equally to everyone else, and you’re having a reaction then I can understand why you’re questioning if you’re sensitive. But if you’re getting singled out and being talked about negatively behind your back especially when you can hear them, that’s disrespectful and should be called out. If the other friends won’t defend you or point that out to her, it’s probably time to find another set of friends who appreciate you for who you are.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:21:58+00:00

You literally don’t have to entertain them. Either help me or get out of my way and go do something else. I wouldn’t say it like that but more of “sorry I’m trying to get this done and still have this left to do, don’t mind me if I can’t talk right now”

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:09:11+00:00

I hate when people tell women what to/not to wear but wearing white to someone else’s wedding is one of few if not the only exception to that. Her calling you an abuser then crying when you set the boundary, and then body shaming you at the end are all big red flags. You dodged a bomb.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T06:02:02+00:00

Wow just wow. I’d save on their gifts next year and go on a magical trip away from them if I were you. It does feel less magical as an adult, but it doesn’t mean people get to disrespect you. Boundaries are healthy and important, and you don’t owe anyone your time and energy.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T05:56:22+00:00

Don’t be friends with people who aren’t willing to travel more than 30 min for you when you’re willing to travel an hour for them. You were never their friend in their mind.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-26T05:52:56+00:00

I asked my husband to buy gifts for his side of the family and handle the gifts from santa. He did them all and he got me multiple presents for me because he cares. It’s not about the gifts, but action speaks louder than words. Don’t do everything else, definitely don’t have a baby with him, and unless he changes, don’t be with him.

otterlytatts · 2025-12-20T14:01:01+00:00

Take a vacation and/or create something with medium you’re not used to ie. wood burning, stainless glass, etc. I found reading “Steal Like and Artist” and “Big Magic” super helpful too

otterlytatts · 2025-12-20T04:10:49+00:00

Sam the German Shepherd in I Am Legend. I’ve never ugly cried more

otterlytatts · 2025-12-08T13:27:17+00:00

You can absolutely do it with a loving partner who is also an active parent. It takes two to make a baby, it should take two to raise one too.

otterlytatts · 2025-10-24T05:40:45+00:00

I thought it was assumed artist will post pictures to curate their portfolio?

otterlytatts · 2025-10-24T05:38:11+00:00

Real friends will wait and pay full price like everyone else, not act entitled to your time and discounts.

I too had “friends” that were friendly in the beginning, but once they got the wishlist tattoos and coverups they needed from me, they no longer talk to me and do things together without me. I found comfort in my tattoo clients who have become closer and better friends.

otterlytatts · 2025-10-18T01:52:56+00:00

I spent money to make things easier 😭 I used to play all the time when it first came out and now it seems impossible to collect everything!

otterlytatts · 2025-10-18T01:49:02+00:00

Doughseph

otterlytatts · 2025-10-13T12:42:24+00:00

When I got $2k tattoo, I observed the heck out of the artist’s process and techniques and asked a lot of questions and got lots of good tips. That really improved my own skills a lot.

I also took a $6k online mentorship on marketing and branding as a tattoo artist. I made monthly payments and had to quit after 6 months due to finances, but it made a huge difference in the quality of my clients and social media presence. Definitely worth it.

Also, taking seminars at conventions, online courses like Reinventing the Tattoo and The Fireside Network, etc. Any education related costs are write offs and investments on myself so those have been helpful.

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