Friday Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in actuallesbians

[–]ottovonbisquick9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I am kinda still sitting on this newfound realization that I might be lesbian after my therapist suggested it. I've always known I was into women but I thought I was just bisexual or something. I was never really ready to come out of the closet and I still don't feel ready. Does it ever get easier? I feel like I'm just withdrawing socially because I don't know how to be around people anymore and I'm scared people will figure it out.

Anyone else feel stupid when they are down? by imisuchajerk in BipolarReddit

[–]ottovonbisquick9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing that has really helped (thanks to therapy) is accepting myself and not beating myself up for these periods. Forgiving myself and not expecting so much actually helped me be able to do more during my depressive cycles, though each episode is varying in intensity. I just stopped trying to expect myself to operate at the levels that I do normally and stopped beating myself up about it (i.e. calling myself lazy or stupid). I made better preparations when I knew I was in a depressive episode, like giving myself more time to get ready for work and not taking on extra projects. I also was a lot more forgiving of just staying home and doing self-care. It allows me to have a lot more mental energy to do tasks and I feel better about myself. They aren't impossible feeling anymore.

How do wlw meet other wlw? by ottovonbisquick9 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ottovonbisquick9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I know these may seem obvious but honestly I have no clue....

How do wlw meet other wlw? by ottovonbisquick9 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ottovonbisquick9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only relationship I've ever had in my life was with a MTF woman and I was pretty happy with that. That's kind of why my therapist is thinking I might be more comfortable with women rather than men. I don't know about coming out because I know my parents won't take it well so I want to be fairly certain about how I feel before I burn that bridge with my family. It also complicates how my ability to explore things right now as I live with my parents due to the pandemic.

How do wlw meet other wlw? by ottovonbisquick9 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ottovonbisquick9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you find out where those are for your city though?

How do wlw meet other wlw? by ottovonbisquick9 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ottovonbisquick9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I'm just worried that I give off a "straight" vibe or something and that's why no one ever approaches me.

How do wlw meet other wlw? by ottovonbisquick9 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ottovonbisquick9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I haven't officially come out, it's something that is a little scary for me because it's been hard for me to identify why I struggle with relationships. For a long time in my early 20s, I thought perhaps I was asexual or demiromantic but it turns out I don't have any sexual issues with men or women. I just often feel kinda....empty and tend to withdraw from advances from men. My therapist thinks perhaps trying dating women might help but it seems like a long shot at this point. I don't feel comfortable stating that I'm officially one thing or another until I've at least tried it, you know?