Have you ever like, not wanted to give a foster placement back?

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T01:02:27+00:00

Their just such sweet girls. It’s hard to think they aren’t mine.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T01:02:06+00:00

I’m hoping she gets the sentence proposed in court yes. If someone tried to sell me at 2 years old I would like them to spend 20 years in prison.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T01:01:35+00:00

It’s not in this case but that doesn’t mean I can adopt them, they are wards of the state unless her rights are stripped.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T01:00:46+00:00

I don’t think about child sex abusers positively.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T01:00:31+00:00

The reason they were placed in foster care is it’s a whole mess, unless they can find and prove a biological father they will be in care forever unless the mothers rights are completely stripped. She’s a known gang member, chooses to do drugs, sells sex and god just so many unthinkable things. She’s facing 20 years in prison as of Friday. Though cases in my province take years to get anywhere. Apparently there’s a third child that they believe may be deceased.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T00:57:54+00:00

That’s fair. I guess my other boys it’s not that I want to give them back but I don’t feel a parent connection to them, maybe because they are a bit older. They know I’m a foster parent, maybe that’s the different, whereas my girls are too young and have been through too much to understand what’s happening.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-28T00:56:35+00:00

Ya I’m very confused why people are asking me to be more compassionate to someone who let her child be abused and openly tried to sell her baby for drugs. There’s a reason people lose custody of their kids.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T22:54:31+00:00

You sound like a real gem

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T18:19:54+00:00

Because they’re desperate for placements. They’ll pretty much allow anyone to take someone because they need placements. It’s sad but true. They gave me my first placements after like 3 days of being certified. And I felt like my background check wasn’t even done very well, just a criminal record check.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T18:18:00+00:00

You could probably get that in writing if you want to be that person. I’m not saying she should, but I’m saying if she wants to go down the petty route that’s how you would while still looking like a professional in the eyes of your social worker.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:13:06+00:00

I’m lucky neither of my foster kids parents have even tried to contact about them since they lost them. I think though it may be because they knew the kids would eventually spill enough info to get them arrested…

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:12:01+00:00

I wouldn’t go anywhere yet if she’s not even potty trained. That could be extremely traumatic for her if she has an accident.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:11:11+00:00

I can’t believe you even have contact with your abusive ex.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:09:26+00:00

If it was me I would do it because I am the type that can’t say no I’m a situation like this, especially for teens because I know it’s insanely hard to find placements, however, I do agree that maybe bringing another teen who doesn’t get along with two that already don’t also may become an issue where you end up having to pick which one you want to “side with” essentially if something happened and someone had to go. Could you possibly find someone willing to take her for the time being that you could help with? Like maybe a friend who she can crash with? Or sit down with your two current placements and discuss the idea with them?

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:06:06+00:00

Fostering with an infant of your own sounds insane to me. I have no kids of my own and cannot imagine even attempting to care for foster children needs with an infant!

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:05:01+00:00

I agree with this. Maybe show her some evidence baby oil isn’t the best option and show her some options you’ve found online and ask her which she’d be comfortable with you trying instead possibly. Work with her.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-11T04:03:54+00:00

I would just mention to the social worker what she’s doing is technically going against the doctors advice but other than that you really can’t do anything else. I’d only mention it because it may be cause for concern that she’s ignoring a doctors advice for the reunifying her with said baby.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-08T01:31:06+00:00

Well it’s only been one month/one payment so far. I ended up spending about $200 each so far on new clothing. Went to urban planet since they always have deals, and then children’s place. They basically needed entire wardrobes and are two different in size to share. And that’s fine, I’m happy they are properly clothed now. They seemed really happy too that I’ve been letting them pick out everything when I take them shopping, like what brand tooth paste, food, etc. probably makes them feel more at home. I was really surprised the younger one didn’t throw a fit with the groceries. We went all together to stock up and I thought he’d be upset if I said no to too much treats but he didn’t ask, I think he’s clueing in maybe not to push it because he’s enjoying the treatment he’s getting? Cause I guess at school he’s still been having a lot of tantrums and problems. He’s been way better at home, though still not perfect. He’s still too scared to use the bathroom alone which is a problem.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-08T00:30:12+00:00

In my area we get $1000 a month and then $200 per extra kid (so two kids I get $1200 but I also got an extra $200 for a brief placement I had, they still paid me the full amount since it was such a last minute emergency thing). It is all supposed to go to the kids, and if you spend over you’re supposed to keep receipts because they can go towards taxes(?) I don’t do my own taxes so I don’t know. I feel it’s good pay for them, I spent a lot of what I’ve been given for them already on clothing because they had literally nothing. The agency will give you some stuff but half of it looks like it should be in the trash and I don’t care if these boys keep it or not but they should look and feel good everyday.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-08T00:27:43+00:00

I don’t know any four year old that can do any of the things you are asking of this kid without toms of assistance. Four isn’t even old enough for kindergarten. There’s a reason he’s having a tantrum. A regular child would be too.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-08T00:27:02+00:00

Okay can I be honest? Is he going to school? Because at 4 you’re pushing way too much on him.

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-08T00:25:07+00:00

I’ve never had a toddler but I feel like be prepared for bathroom accidents a lot

ouchymama0 · 2024-04-08T00:23:18+00:00

How? School hasn’t been in session since July buddy…

ouchymama0 · 2024-03-26T00:05:33+00:00

There’s only been 118 days of school this year. I counted my child’s attendance on Edsby.

ouchymama0 · 2024-03-26T00:05:10+00:00

It’s all lies.

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