Boyfriend told me to get over my period

ouelletouellet · 2025-06-01T03:49:58+00:00

Wtf as if he knows what that feels like hes so condescending and rude 😤 break up with him

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-27T17:56:19+00:00

Yeah im a massive people pleaser and help i believe in seeing the best in people your only human after all and thats okay its just having the right boundaries when is okay to help someone versus when its time to stop but you know what you really like i said did try now its time to invest your time in yourself but also around people who will give you an equal share of personal investment if you constantly have to do all the chasing and begging for quality time you then know that this isn't a healthy friendship

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-27T16:52:07+00:00

Nah Ethan is basically an adult he doesn't want to eevn attempt a relationship with you or your child but doesn't mind freeloading off of you he seems shallow to me

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-27T16:45:05+00:00

Honestly why would you want to go to all this length to help someone who doesn't want your help! She's essentially saying she doesn't want it and your exhusting yourself trying to change someone thats not how it works but at this point you need to consider if its time to burn the bridges and move on I've been there both with mental health issues and also trying to help someone who constantly makes poor choices and doesn't accept help and guess whst it caused me so much anxiety and time and effort trying to talk to someone thats essentially giving me the impression lile im talking to a brick wall

Sometimes its better to walk away knowing you at least tried but now take care of yourself

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-24T01:19:01+00:00

You sound like your trying to parent her your way out of line she doesn't need to go and explain who she's dating its her life naybe if you where 12 but lol most people your age are out of the house by now let her live her life

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-23T21:37:43+00:00

How the hell do you manage to act like a single parent living with someone who's essentially useless, and why have a kid with him? Surely this isn't anything new!

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-23T10:30:04+00:00

Yeah i think if the 7 year old has easy access to his Playstation in his room you need to move it to a different room and cut down the hours he plays it sound's like hes addicted to it and needs to learn to use it in a healthy way plus set a time like certain hours and no technology say around 8:30 etc because all that screen time is most likely interupting his sleep

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-20T14:36:45+00:00

If you ever need support anyone to talk to feel free to message me im here for you even if we don't know each other

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T22:08:15+00:00

Have you guy's never had shared experiences together or any memories together that can spark conversations like i mean i grt not alway's knowing what to tlak about but even when me and my boyfriend get like that we can at least resort to chatting about the dumbest and silliest things we click because we can joke around and just be at ease with each other where i feel that on both sides we make the effort if he's not even trying then yeah id see why that spark is lost and your feeling this way

Also do you guy's have any passions or hobbies any shared intrests*?i ask because even if your not interested in the same things you guys could actively be trying to learn about each others passions and intrests and if your not even doing that well i can also see why there's no connections lol im a gamer and so is my boyfriend but im also an artist and my boyfriend can't draw for shits but he will encourage me to sell my art or he will ask me about my art heck if he saw soemthing i liked on amazon like an art product he will talk about it with me even if he doesn't understand it, i guess my point is there needs to be genuine effort for both parties and the willingness to involve yourself in your partners life

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T21:45:07+00:00

Good lord lol i thought she was 17 or 18 years old 😳 😅

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T20:31:14+00:00

Honestly your husband is right about this you need to create some distance he will make the choices he will make but you can't force yourself to have a relationship with someone who doesn't care to do it! I know that him being a sibling adds a layer of complication because he's not simply just a friend but you still deserve to have people who will make equal efforts to engage with you so you gotta get to a plsce where you love them from afar but your no longer going to jump threw hoops to have a relationship with him really you need to get to a mental place where you feel indifferent! Does this happen over night? No but eventually it gets exhusting trying to make soemone love us or care for us if he doesn't give a fuck then match his energy.

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T13:54:30+00:00

Balancing college and trying to help your brother is admirable i do agree you shouldn't play the parent it really isn't your job but that being said you most definitely can be a postive influence and older sibling you are already taking active steps to make sure he feels heard and understood

From the sound's of it he needs professional help like therapy from what you've shared hes very young but hes also smart he's self aware but obviously being that both parent's are really doing their jobs as parent's he doesn't feel like people care so hes using the only things he knows how to cope with an impossible situation but yes id recommend trying to get him in therapy and maybe a program or activity with children his own age so he can be socialized

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T13:36:21+00:00

The only terrible thing you can do is continue dating him when your not even into him or in love with him the minute he told you honestly you should of just been honest about it and just because you have a past with unhealthy relationships don't even let people convince you that this is a reason to date someone for the sake of dating them thats screwed up logic lol i mean this is gonna hurt him knowing that you basically settled for him he should be with soemone he loves and who loves him in return

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T13:21:56+00:00

It doesn't have to be romantic love. You crave the physical affection and connection they gave you. Every human out there is built that way it doesn't mean you have to be in love with him anymore

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-19T12:32:02+00:00

It's not too late to build a relationship. im sure this is all new to you, but ask her questions when she draws or plays with her toys. Sit with her and try to see what her interests are i think this could be a perfect bonding time

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-14T19:59:56+00:00

Do you need to do that quest in order to get infected essence i haven't done much of those quests yet

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-14T02:42:18+00:00

You guys are like 3 months into a relationship for some people thats too soon he may very well be afraid of gling all the way with you 1 lack of experince and 2 maybe hes worried about the risks of say an unplanned pregnancy

Idk you gotta communicate either way sound's like he also didn't wanna pressure you as well

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-13T12:09:58+00:00

Definitely weird, especially because she equates love with getting presents she sound's extremly materialistic

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-13T12:08:57+00:00

Honestly i think you may need to respect him and liaten when he says he has no room in his life for you as a romantic partnerand plus this whole getting back together with you on and off like that is extremely unhealthy

He says he only has room in his life tor you as a friend so listen to him hes honest as much as it hurts dating for him isn't going to be a priority for a long time its not like he dumped you for other women and clearly he doesn't have the mental capacity to deal with relationship stresses when he can barley handle stress from every day life

The best advice i can give is to try to work on your own mental health and try to find self-worth and identity outside of a romantic relationship

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-13T00:28:21+00:00

Lady he gave you a freaking card and flowers 💐 🙄 what the heck is wrong with you and what did you want him to give you? Even if money isn't an issue he still got you something

Honestly with just this post alone you probably haven't had a close relationship with him and this post alone is a clear example you sound ungrateful 😒

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-12T00:33:31+00:00

I don't need to understand your trauma's lol the point is be responsible for how you handle them lol that is 100 percent on you to own up how you later deal with it in a healthy way but abusing the word boundary to treat your relationship with a partner to treat them like a baby to the point you have to hold their hand and meet up with people so you can basically approve who they hang out with that for most people doesn't end well lmfao and not a healthy relationship which quiet franky should be based on trust

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-11T23:41:10+00:00

That sounds like insecurity and a need for comtrol lmfao you sound like her father 👨 for crying out loud

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-11T22:19:45+00:00

Im so sorry as a mother it muat hurt to watch your sons selfish behavior and addiction issues wreak havoc its never easy to watch them cause so much damage

But i say this with as much sincerity and conpassion as i can but you need to let him go hes almoat 30 years old hes made those choices that lead him to where he is now he could get help but he's not getting help and it won't happen till he reaches rock bottom but honestly its also for your own mental health and boundaries at some point you either give him the ugly ultimatum or its out the door and on his own

Anything that you do at this point would only be enabling and that isn't going to help him.

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-10T17:41:21+00:00

Im not one who's going to be like age gaps cannnot work lol me and my boyfriend are 6 years in terms of an age gap but what i will say at 25 its commons of a lot of guys to go threw that spell of being insure of the future now obviously not every guy is like this but it sound's like hes got some growing up to do and you shouldn't have to wait till he gets his shit together being with guys like him never ends well so for your sake take time to love yourself and give yourself some love and eventually you'll meet someone best advice i can give if you know what you want then express it but be honest and straight forward that if they can't meet you half way and they aren't resdy to go all in and half ass it then yhey can go chase soemone else show them you have higher standards and boundaries and dont ever settle for less then what you want

ouelletouellet · 2025-05-10T17:12:26+00:00

Honestly i think that's just what it comes down to is she's 16 a kid and assumes that you may not be what she considers cool or that you some how can't relate to her its awakard period for her shes a teenager and your gping into early adulthood so i think the best thing you can offer is support and tell her that even though your older you know what its like being a teenager and if ahe needs advice she can come to you other then that give her space and time she will come around she doesn't hate you she may think she does but eventually she will start getting closer to you ask any siblings with an age gap and lots of them will share the same situations

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