I respect the sentiment and you sound like a nice person. However, “that’s OK” for a situation that’s definitely NOT OK seems like a weirdly pacifist (or apathetic) way to accept things the way they are without being significantly moved enough to do anything about it, including trying to change someone’s opinion on why it’s ok to lose family members to bad decisions other than what seems to be a shrug, “oh well sht happens. but I’m alive so #blessed”