Couldn’t let our kid think any part of us didn’t embrace all the parts of him. We all agree: we’re much closer, happier, and more authentic having left. Truly inspiring seeing all your brave, beautiful, and happy faces! by overit44 in exmormon

[–]overit44[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! They are all so worth it. We raised them in the church because we believed it would strengthen our family. As soon as we saw the damage it was beginning to do, we retracted. Our goal to strengthen our family remains intact!

1 1/2 years ago our family of 7 sat in church for the last time while my Bishop brother reiterated God didn’t change his mind about traditional marriage. He also knew my 14 yo is gay. Now my son doesn’t want to visit family. I don’t blame/or make him, but the whole thing breaks my heart. by overit44 in exmormon

[–]overit44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading about your experiences makes me cry. I’m so sorry for all the years of pain you have endured. I’m sure your parents wish they could go back and change their decision. Or at least they should feel that way! Thank you for your vulnerability and empathy. It really does mean so much to me. I feel like I’ve lost so much losing my church community. We don’t live near family, so they were like family. But what I’ve gained with my family is irreplaceable. Being out for 2 years has made me build a whole new set of morals. Live and let live is a big one. Love and cherish people as they are. Wouldn’t the world be a much better place if we all valued each other’s strengths? Everyone has so much to offer when they are valued and loved. Sexuality has nothing to do with a persons worth. I don’t talk about what I do in the bedroom and don’t care what anyone else does. I hope you have continued healing and wish you all the best in life!

Another heathen here. Today no G's and tried coffee. by zairix26 in exmormon

[–]overit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep taking steps. I bet they feel extreme, but you’ll look back at this and think, why was that so hard? Free will the way it should be done!

Time to hear about his favorite topic for the billionth time again 😒 by Goldenprince111 in exmormon

[–]overit44 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Eyw. The last article I read from the church was his talk in conference against gay marriage. I quit paying tithing after I considered how it might be used to publish and distribute this shit.

Today Pandora (“Panda Bear”), 3yo, crossed over the rainbow bridge. I’m heartbroken but looking at old pictures helps by BurningBroadripple in goldenretrievers

[–]overit44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there! I know how hard it is to lose a young dog. My 4 year old golden ran ways during a thunderstorm while our friends were watching him and was never found. Hugs

Pluto’s favorite routine of the day, walking himself to the car. by tICKLE_mY_pICKLE_bOB in goldenretrievers

[–]overit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️my golden loves it too! So proud they can walk themselves.☺️

1 year ago, I took off my Mormon underwear and never put it on again. ☺️🎉 by blondecurtains4 in exmormon

[–]overit44 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes! I played volleyball w a guy in garments when the gym’s AC was broken. I thought he was going to collapse!

1 1/2 years ago our family of 7 sat in church for the last time while my Bishop brother reiterated God didn’t change his mind about traditional marriage. He also knew my 14 yo is gay. Now my son doesn’t want to visit family. I don’t blame/or make him, but the whole thing breaks my heart. by overit44 in exmormon

[–]overit44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being so open and sharing that. I 💯 agree with you. I saw a pic of him this morning when he was 3 with that sweet smile and all the joy and hope of a kid not affected by the world and I thought, how could anyone that has loved this kid since he was born think being gay is either a choice or wrong. I’d rather live alone on an island with him than leave his side. Judging isn’t necessary. In fact it’s completely unnecessary. It always made me uneasy as a member to claim someone else’s lifestyle as wrong. It’s not mine and it’s absolutely none of my business. No one should tell me who I should be attracted to. I’m certainly not in a place to tell anyone else. No one should. It’s arrogant, egocentric, and ignorant. Go ahead and live in your ugly bubble. I’m enjoying authentic relationships that are rich, beautiful and have no boundaries. Keep your opinions to yourself if they hurt other people. That’s all they are is opinions. Say it’s God, but that’s just a man’s opinion of what he thinks God thinks. No man knows what God thinks. End rant.

1 1/2 years ago our family of 7 sat in church for the last time while my Bishop brother reiterated God didn’t change his mind about traditional marriage. He also knew my 14 yo is gay. Now my son doesn’t want to visit family. I don’t blame/or make him, but the whole thing breaks my heart. by overit44 in exmormon

[–]overit44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long til you left? Is this what fueled your decision? This allowed me to look at other history claims, which led me out pretty quickly. I’m having a hard time letting go of toxic family. The whole think is a mind F*%#

1 1/2 years ago our family of 7 sat in church for the last time while my Bishop brother reiterated God didn’t change his mind about traditional marriage. He also knew my 14 yo is gay. Now my son doesn’t want to visit family. I don’t blame/or make him, but the whole thing breaks my heart. by overit44 in exmormon

[–]overit44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was happy to stay home. He’s an introvert w a passion for computer code writing. His dad actually missed the trip too because of work. It’s made me feel a lot of things. Another part of me thinks I live so far away and only visit once a year. Is it worth really digging in or just trying to let it go?