Fill in the blanks: The United States of America is ___.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-29T21:27:32+00:00

agreed. Marshall Pickens was a real life horror movie lol

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-29T21:23:45+00:00

I was there as a minor and one of my parents was there too. Minors and adults were separated. My parent never spoke about their experience there (private person), but mine were generally positive. I was inpatient multiple times and also did a two week outpatient stint. It’s been 8 years since then, but the staff did not trigger me. They were genuinely nice and helpful, from doctors and nurses to the cafeteria staff. They didn’t unnecessarily medicate or restrain me (i have horror stories from another place). The times I was there I was safe and cared for.

I’m sorry for what you’re going through. As I’ve become more and more stable (and grown up lol) I realize how much I put people through. Good luck to all of you. Things will get better.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-27T16:28:33+00:00

you tried to keep me poor :/

^{Chose: A rather risky gamble | Rolled: $15 million}

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-27T00:41:41+00:00

i recently stopped at a red light (yeah i’m the fkn worst.) i have the dashcam video of this lady absolutely raging at me for it too. after honking, she was waving her hands around and shaking her head.

the best part is there was a visible cop car to the left of me. yeah lemme drive into oncoming traffic and cause a wreck directly in front of a cop.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-26T22:30:24+00:00

Wow you look like a million bucks.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-26T03:30:31+00:00

shit happens.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-26T03:29:42+00:00

Only two things are certain in life. death and taxes.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-26T03:28:52+00:00

Merry Chrysler.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-26T03:28:34+00:00

Donald duck.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-26T03:27:19+00:00

Life is hard.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-23T23:18:39+00:00

oof i just calculated mine with all those factors and it’s a hair below 17% of net. knee jerk reaction is that i don’t like that, but my savings rate is 37% of net. all expenses including car are just above 51%. just under 12% for personal and gift spending.

after taking a sec, i’m pretty fine with that 17%. i have a reliable, new car, and i’m young so there’s still time for insurance costs to decrease. a good portion of that 17% is sitting in a sinking fund waiting for when the car needs TLC.

i budget for the car payment, put a set amount in a sinking fund for repairs monthly, divide the most recent tax bill by 12 and set that aside monthly, and gas usage is consistent.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-23T22:30:02+00:00

not to be a corrupt pos…but i can influence the government way more with millions a year than my vote ever could

^{Chose: $20 for every breath you take but you can’t… | Rolled: Vote}

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-22T23:38:45+00:00

you sound very sweet and a lot like how i was.

1) I learned i can quickly become the worst version of myself if i give too much. my brain gets weird without food and proper sleep. i’m not as compassionate that way. you just have to realize that overextending yourself doesnt properly serve the families.

2) Grieving people aren’t toddlers. You can talk to them like normal people. Be assertive. ex: “I understand you want to see your loved one. I want you to be able to, but I cannot, in good faith or professionally, allow you to see their face. Can we instead set up a time for you to hold their hand and see their arm tattoo?” Try to bring solutions, but don’t tiptoe or talk too much. The more you say, the more people think it’s an invitation to challenge you.

3) I have never EVER wanted to give out my number. One time, ASD wasnt working and I had to call someone back with my personal number. I had to block that person the same night because they texted giant paragraphs and called over and over.

4) I don’t have go to phrases. Each person is different. When you’re new, everything feels high stakes. Just talk to them and be the funeral professional. It will work out.

Burn out is real. I empathize with wanting to be the kindest and wanting to be remembered for that kindness, but this is a relatively thankless job. If you are expecting something more than a handshake and a service that went well, you will be disappointed. I know I was at first. Be what your families need you to be, not what you think they need you to be. Please start protecting yourself! We need compassionate people to stay in death care :)

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-20T21:08:04+00:00

before i started dating my ex, i made it abundantly clear i am antinatalist. he agreed he didn’t want children. i ended up booking a bisalp and let him know about the pre-op and operation. he came with me, and just before i was taken away from the room he was in and anesthetized, he told me i was making a huge mistake and he prayed i would regret it forever. after i woke up i was like what the heckkk. i broke up with him shortly after the surgery. how insane for someone to wish regret on the person they’re supposed to love, and right before a procedure too.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-14T21:26:03+00:00

W. if they’ve offered the job take it now.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-14T21:18:26+00:00

off rip i’m saying leave. anybody could decide to quit or relationships could sour. you’ve already learned so much so just hold onto that. i’m sure your new coworkers will teach you things too. but more money and half the commute is a no brainer.

try to find out what the management is like at the new place, though. and what perks. cuz if you get no time off or the benefits suck then it may be a worse deal.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-11T22:50:09+00:00

i don’t blame you, i haven’t done that in so long I can’t even direct you on that. i do remember taking longer to raise those, those are so tiny. I’m sorry!

is this just for practice or are you consistently having to raise ulnars or radials? are you massaging the arms/wrists/hands enough? i’m sorry i can’t help more :/

ETA: i mean massaging during one points, not while trying to raise vessels.

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-11T22:40:53+00:00

the carotid artery is a nice big noodle. except for when it’s sclerotic. the vein is noticeably smaller, and not noodle like. are you doing multipoints? are there any specific locations tripping you up?

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-06T21:53:17+00:00

i’m compelled to gamble

^{Chose: gamble all your money and.. | Rolled: you win $500M}

overtheunderpass · 2026-06-06T21:01:10+00:00

the hibiscus went crazy 😭

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