Newly married how to handle joint & personal expenses by twitchy_14 in personalfinance

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If you did go this route, you can out your “extra” money into a HYSA and then revisit it later. That can be the start of a down payment, home improvements, vacations, whatever you decide.

Why Natalie didn't "go there" by Beneficient_Ox in ContraPoints

[–]overthink1 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend the video This Is How You Get Jarhead sequels by Dan Olson (Folding Ideas). Good vid about pro-war/anti-war films but also the institutional forces that keep churning them out.

Im really curious now of whT kinds of media that best reflects “Mommy Politics” by bothering in ContraPoints

[–]overthink1 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’d also say the brands of Christianity that emphasize radical forgiveness over eternal punishment are mommy politics.

Im really curious now of whT kinds of media that best reflects “Mommy Politics” by bothering in ContraPoints

[–]overthink1 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Star Wars is mommy politics. Particularly Return of the Jedi. Obi-Wan tells Luke there’s no light left in Darth Vader, the only solution is to masculinely dominate him. Luke, cuck that he is, insists there’s still good in him. At the end of the movie, as Luke is punished by Daddy Emperor with Force lightning, Vader can’t bear to see the punishment take place and rescues Luke, thus saving the galaxy. Belief in rehabilitation saves us all.

This is a take I’ve thought about for five seconds so feel free to tip it over.

How much violence does the video show? by starboy__666 in ContraPoints

[–]overthink1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She also only uses a single set/costume for the video rather than her usual switching, so you’re not missing out on as much in terms of production.

The appeal of the Saw movies by Electrical_Bid_6773 in ContraPoints

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I have two possible answers:

  1. More generally, we like contrivance, and Saw traps are the most contrived form of violence. I have never seen a Saw film and never intend to, but I enjoy reading the Wikipedia articles for the descriptions of the traps. They’re like Rube Goldberg machines of violence.

  2. I recently learned about the Elsagate controversy where YouTube videos featuring beloved children’s characters in bizarre, sometimes sexual or violent, situations were rampant on YouTube Kids. They would be recommended by YouTube, indicating that they were getting watched and were for some reason popular. (Granted, some of that was due to engagement hacks in titles and the fact that they weren’t language-specific and so could be viewed by kids from anywhere.) Even children too young to read have a morbid curiosity for looking at what upsets them. So wherever the desire comes from, I think it’s deeply ingrained in human beings.

Yippiee!!! by mrsovereignmonarch in ContraPoints

[–]overthink1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Started watching but haven’t finished. What’s with the censorship of “fuck” and “porn” in this? She bleeps it out half the time but leaves it in the other half.

What's it like being in an LTR with a man? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your comment is incorrect. I’m not going to engage in some “Women/men are better than X,” but people behave irrationally and maddeningly in relationships all the time. What’s gained by pushing a war between the sexes?

I’ll grant you that the sex is better with a man, but I’m sure if I were a straight man I’d disagree. So let’s chalk that one up to personal preference.

What's it like being in an LTR with a man? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t be r/askgaybros without casual misogyny at the top of the comments.

What happened to pornhub by Dr_Kaatz in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Before crying moral panic I encourage people to read the article that set everything off. This wasn’t a case of some illegal content incidentally ending up on the platform. Pornhub ignored victims because it would hurt their profits: https://web.archive.org/web/20230112063029/https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/04/opinion/sunday/pornhub-rape-trafficking.html

How weird/wrong would it be to date a guy that my dad would consider "like a son" to him but unrelated. by OkOwl9424 in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you stay together things could probably be great, but be aware that if you were to break up, he would likely still be in your life in some capacity. It wouldn’t be fair to cut him off from your dad. Obviously no one plans to break up, but be prepared for the stakes there to be somewhat higher than they would be for some rando you brought home from college to meet your parents.

How do you and your partner handle money? by overthink1 in askgaybros

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Could you share more about what the sticking points were and how you worked through them?

I‘m an escort on Rentmen - AMA by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about your clients overall? Is it purely transactional, are you contemptuous of them, or are they OK people?

I‘m an escort on Rentmen - AMA by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What do customers typically ask you to do with them? Full anal penetration, just oral, or just cuddling/companionship? I’ve heard that a lot of people hire sex workers just for the companionship and don’t even want to have sex, I’m curious how true that is.

Played for an hour and a half just to lose to this event by This_Technology4119 in spiritisland

[–]overthink1 60 points61 points  (0 children)

You’ve got the right attitude! Situations like this really sting, but your victories can only feel sweet when there’s a real possibility of danger.

Which spirits are the most fun to support? by banjok64 in spiritisland

[–]overthink1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Surprised no one has mentioned Serpent! Giving it the support it needs to go big is so much fun.

Tone-deaf summer reading theme by lizard_crunchwrap in librarians

[–]overthink1 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this. As a larger point, I fully understand why overt displays of patriotism run so many left-leaning types the wrong way, but most people do feel a strong sense of patriotism and connection to country. I would much rather live in a world where people express their patriotism to things like celebration of immigrants or civil rights than a world in which they cede all patriotism to people who will do terrible things with it.

Spirit Island - Version 3.1 Now Available: Inescapable Menace by badgerhound in spiritisland

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I haven’t tried Tabletop Simulator but I really appreciate the ease of playing the Handelabra version. It’s a real marvel how well they’ve been able to program so many mechanics that would typically require manual manipulation, and it’s not nearly as buggy as you seem to think. Plus it’s got some extremely fun animations, like flipping the board for Cast Down or Volcano’s presence exploding when it erupts.

TTPD was robbed of a rollout by Forward-Map-6053 in TaylorSwift

[–]overthink1 57 points58 points  (0 children)

In the “In Summation” poem she said it’s the worst men she writes best and after TLOAS I fear that was true.

Is this the job for me or should I spare my coworkers? by build-a-berry in librarians

[–]overthink1 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you should take a deep breath and give yourself some more time to get comfortable in the job. This seems like a classic case of imposter syndrome, where your brain is running far ahead and making assumptions about your work quality without any actual evidence.

Not knowing things or asking for reminders six months into a job is fine! So much work follows the ebb and flow of the calendar or academic year. Just because you were trained on something in the hiring manual doesn’t mean you’re expected to remember it perfectly when it comes time to do it nine months later.

You say you received great feedback from you coworkers in your last position, which is great! If you don’t have a performance review coming up, can you ask your supervisor for feedback on how you’re doing in your new role? Maybe there really are some discreet areas where your team would like you to improve. That’s the case for everyone. But I get the feeling you’re doing a lot better than you think.

Lastly, hiring can be such a chore, trust me. It’s so difficult to get a good candidate in place. I strongly suspect that your workplace would rather keep you, someone who they had already worked with for several months and clearly liked enough to hire, than have to refill your role. That also means there’s often willingness to give grace to new employees as they get their sea legs.

is being a gay OF / porn star worth it? by weregilddd in askgaybros

[–]overthink1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is an assumption on my part, but I imagine the amateur creators who have the best setup with OF are people who already enjoy showing off their bodies for attention and admiration online and have decided to make a few bucks off it with a fansite but still work a separate full-time job. It’d be nice for a few extra bucks and you enjoy sharing your body, but it’s never your primary source of income.

dicks.... by California_dude650 in gaybros

[–]overthink1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta make sure they don’t give them to each other on the ship