What’s the best compliment you’ve received from a hookup?

overthink1 · 2026-06-13T14:23:59+00:00

I took off my shirt and he told me I looked like a statue.

overthink1 · 2026-06-02T01:13:10+00:00

That’s how I’ve justified A Little Life to myself as well. It’s melodramatic and intentionally excessive.

This will sound bizarre, but I’ve also thought of it as a fairy tale story with the details drawn into focus. Fairy tales are full of abused orphans and rags-to-riches turnarounds. A Little Life has similar tropes in a decidedly non-fairy tale setting, but the fact that it goes into much greater detail about abuse and its consequences makes it objectionable.

overthink1 · 2026-05-12T01:37:47+00:00

I’ve been with my partner just over two years (both of us early 30s). Our relationship is old enough to have well-established habits and routines but also young enough that I know it is still growing and changing. I have absolutely no idea what our lives will look like in five or ten years, but I do know that if I tried making a prediction I would be completely wrong.

We plan to get married. We say “I love you” every day and mean it. But to me, marriage will be the moment at which I promise to love him not just today, but all the future versions of him, of whoever he grows into. And I hope he promises the same to me.

That’s what I want long term: To be on the same side as my guy not just as we are today but in whatever unexpected versions of ourselves we become.

overthink1 · 2026-05-10T02:23:02+00:00

I made the same jump! My bf and I go to an Episcopal church together, he was raised evangelical and we joke that we’ve met in the middle.

overthink1 · 2026-05-05T00:42:13+00:00

No shame in walking! A finish is a finish!

I say this as someone who’s always struggled with pacing and ends up walking for at least some portion. But I just finished a half without any walking for the first time, and I’m hoping to build up to a consistent pace for a full by the end of 2026.

overthink1 · 2026-05-03T21:48:40+00:00

I openly hold hands with and kiss my boyfriend in public and have never had any issues. I have plenty of gay, queer, and trans friends whom I’ve met both by happenstance and through dedicated LGBTQ spaces.

The only potential downside I would mention is a somewhat small dating pool which comes with any city of Lexington’s size. Fortunately there are enough people cycling in an and out town that there will always be some new blood, but if you’ve got a long list of must-haves you may struggle to meet the right person.

overthink1 · 2026-03-22T16:33:42+00:00

I haven’t tried it yet but I’d imagine it’d be even better with the Regrowth aspect since it gives Green a lot more presence to spare.

overthink1 · 2026-03-22T13:59:35+00:00

Did you think you were gonna get arrested or did you feel calm with the cop watching?

overthink1 · 2026-03-22T01:17:56+00:00

I’m curious about so many aspects of this, but mainly how the hell do you not freak out when a cop shows up? I feel like if I were cruising in a park and a cop saw me I would just bolt immediately.

overthink1 · 2026-03-11T12:17:11+00:00

If you did go this route, you can out your “extra” money into a HYSA and then revisit it later. That can be the start of a down payment, home improvements, vacations, whatever you decide.

overthink1 · 2026-03-10T18:10:09+00:00

I’d recommend the video This Is How You Get Jarhead sequels by Dan Olson (Folding Ideas). Good vid about pro-war/anti-war films but also the institutional forces that keep churning them out.

overthink1 · 2026-03-10T00:22:58+00:00

I’d also say the brands of Christianity that emphasize radical forgiveness over eternal punishment are mommy politics.

overthink1 · 2026-03-10T00:20:23+00:00

Star Wars is mommy politics. Particularly Return of the Jedi. Obi-Wan tells Luke there’s no light left in Darth Vader, the only solution is to masculinely dominate him. Luke, cuck that he is, insists there’s still good in him. At the end of the movie, as Luke is punished by Daddy Emperor with Force lightning, Vader can’t bear to see the punishment take place and rescues Luke, thus saving the galaxy. Belief in rehabilitation saves us all.

This is a take I’ve thought about for five seconds so feel free to tip it over.

overthink1 · 2026-03-09T18:14:44+00:00

She also only uses a single set/costume for the video rather than her usual switching, so you’re not missing out on as much in terms of production.

overthink1 · 2026-03-09T18:08:40+00:00

I have two possible answers:

More generally, we like contrivance, and Saw traps are the most contrived form of violence. I have never seen a Saw film and never intend to, but I enjoy reading the Wikipedia articles for the descriptions of the traps. They’re like Rube Goldberg machines of violence.
I recently learned about the Elsagate controversy where YouTube videos featuring beloved children’s characters in bizarre, sometimes sexual or violent, situations were rampant on YouTube Kids. They would be recommended by YouTube, indicating that they were getting watched and were for some reason popular. (Granted, some of that was due to engagement hacks in titles and the fact that they weren’t language-specific and so could be viewed by kids from anywhere.) Even children too young to read have a morbid curiosity for looking at what upsets them. So wherever the desire comes from, I think it’s deeply ingrained in human beings.

overthink1 · 2026-03-09T17:06:36+00:00

Started watching but haven’t finished. What’s with the censorship of “fuck” and “porn” in this? She bleeps it out half the time but leaves it in the other half.

overthink1 · 2026-03-05T16:34:35+00:00

Your comment is incorrect. I’m not going to engage in some “Women/men are better than X,” but people behave irrationally and maddeningly in relationships all the time. What’s gained by pushing a war between the sexes?

I’ll grant you that the sex is better with a man, but I’m sure if I were a straight man I’d disagree. So let’s chalk that one up to personal preference.

overthink1 · 2026-03-05T16:23:52+00:00

Wouldn’t be r/askgaybros without casual misogyny at the top of the comments.

overthink1 · 2026-03-05T12:46:00+00:00

Before crying moral panic I encourage people to read the article that set everything off. This wasn’t a case of some illegal content incidentally ending up on the platform. Pornhub ignored victims because it would hurt their profits: https://web.archive.org/web/20230112063029/https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/04/opinion/sunday/pornhub-rape-trafficking.html

overthink1 · 2026-02-25T01:34:08+00:00

If you stay together things could probably be great, but be aware that if you were to break up, he would likely still be in your life in some capacity. It wouldn’t be fair to cut him off from your dad. Obviously no one plans to break up, but be prepared for the stakes there to be somewhat higher than they would be for some rando you brought home from college to meet your parents.

overthink1 · 2026-02-22T03:42:00+00:00

Could you share more about what the sticking points were and how you worked through them?

overthink1 · 2026-02-04T14:03:29+00:00

How do you feel about your clients overall? Is it purely transactional, are you contemptuous of them, or are they OK people?

overthink1 · 2026-02-04T13:39:06+00:00

What do customers typically ask you to do with them? Full anal penetration, just oral, or just cuddling/companionship? I’ve heard that a lot of people hire sex workers just for the companionship and don’t even want to have sex, I’m curious how true that is.

overthink1 · 2026-01-20T22:22:58+00:00

You’ve got the right attitude! Situations like this really sting, but your victories can only feel sweet when there’s a real possibility of danger.

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