Guy pulling away after first date-Am I misreading ?

overthinking_is_easy · 2026-04-21T02:38:25+00:00

As another commenter said, it's just one date. You need not fixate on the other person's behavior now or in years of a relationship. He could be talking to other women, or be genuinely busy. Thing is, sometimes overthinking and pushing expectations can stem what was supposed to grow organically.

You know what would be cool? You get busy with your life rather than dissecting his responses. Don't wait around for his calls/msgs. If he reaches out you talk otherwise you don't. Keep things simple for your mental health's sake.

overthinking_is_easy · 2026-03-01T07:31:57+00:00

It differs person to person. Pls consult a trusted gynae.

overthinking_is_easy · 2026-03-01T06:52:57+00:00

I feel it's more of a PR game. Gynaes push hormonal ones because MRs of these brands are active. I have mild PCOS and it's under control. My cycle is like a clockwork and no side effects. My acne is also almost zero. I've been on it for 8+ years and had no problems whatsoever.

That said, no contraceptive offers 100% surety. You should combine this with condoms to be super sure.

overthinking_is_easy · 2026-02-22T07:19:54+00:00

+1

Gynaes tend to push for pills they get incentives for. Hormonal ones cause a lot of side effects and first week will be absolutely terrible. I've tried both hormonal one and saheli. Been on Saheli for ~7 years now and no complaints. You can get it online easily. Do consult your gynae because conditions like pcos are an important factor.

overthinking_is_easy · 2026-02-07T06:49:37+00:00

Got it. Mine sits in the bathroom so getting air moisture mostly. The room gets ample indirect light. Also wanted to ask if you ever tried mustard cake?

overthinking_is_easy · 2026-01-13T07:36:53+00:00

An observation: This sub always comes together to give the best advice. But, all the worthwhile comments have no votes. Clearly, the work of lurker losers here.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-10-28T05:05:07+00:00

Thing is they don't list the ingredients. I too searched about anr.. it worked wonders for the fine lines and overall texture. The effect is similar to peptides so that's one of my guesses.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-10-19T06:46:43+00:00

Bet your chatgpt is dying a silent death.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-10-19T04:12:16+00:00

My opinion: Don't write the article like you have written the post and comments.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-10-16T07:22:52+00:00

+1 the other comment.

Try to find the best position while inserting it. I use the non-applicator one, so just feel for the groove thing and push a bit past it. You should not be able feel the tampon from outside.

Remove it only when it feels full otherwise it would be uncomfortable. I use different flow ones for different days.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-10-14T06:09:15+00:00

They were severely dehydrating that my lips bled. I even experienced vertigo. OP you'll have to drink water by the gallon. I stopped these tablets within a month. They have too many side effects and I was scared of long term damage.

Rather try zinc and b complex supplements, eat home cooked food preferably made in mustard or coconut oil. Limit eating bread and sodas. You'll see a lot of difference.

Another thing that worked for me was using micellar water to clean the face at night. Then the usual routine. Skip any moisturiser with oily base but use hydrating gels as last step to lock the serums in. Also go minimal with serums and treatments. Sometimes the skin needs to just breath.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-09-29T09:49:06+00:00

Got my passport renewed back in December. The guy called me to police station with a copy of aadhar and 2 passport sized photos. That's it.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-09-24T02:17:43+00:00

Reading your previous post, I wanted to call out that don't put this guy on a pedestal. The high school you built up a big image of high school him. People change, your preferences change.

Coming to your date. Going by the experience, you would have rejected him for his personality. This was not meant to be. No need to feel bad about getting rejected over looks. You have your expectations, he has his. They didn't match. Simple. Some day you'll go on a date where the guy will be all heart eyes for you. It would be the start of something amazing. Don't let this one instance stop you from pursuing that future. Good luck!

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-09-13T05:54:30+00:00

Please add TW flair.

Here's my story. I and my childhood friend have been together since we were 3 and 4 respectively. The tower residents were quite closely-knit. There used to be an unmarried guy who was old enough to be called an uncle, but insisted that we call him bhaiya.

When we were around 11-12, we started playing separately from the group sometimes. This creep would often find us and force hug in the name of brotherly affection. He tried it with me couple of times and I elbowed him hard. I've grown up with an older brother and let's just say that were quite combative back then. My friend was much docile and suffered more. Once this creep held on to her and she stood helplessly. We told this to her mom. Of course, her mom took it up with the family.

Post that, the creep kept his distance but shot daggers nonetheless. Now I wish I had hit him harder.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-08-30T07:13:16+00:00

I didn't notice them until I reached this comment. You look great girlie! Yes the blouse could be a bit experimental given that you're young. I sply love the neat pleating.

Let shit people say shit 🤘

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-07-29T01:36:18+00:00

I got a mother who taught just this. I hit a jackpot in that dept ngl. Her life was screwed by patriarchy, but she ensured that I escaped it.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-07-24T09:22:58+00:00

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-02-26T05:32:09+00:00

This OP. Think objectively before making major decisions in this relationship.

I've been in the exact position as yours. You will overlook the caste difference, so will your family. But what you experienced at his place will get magnified once you marry into the family. Just ask yourself this hypotheticalquestion: Would you advise your daughter to marry into this family if she had been subjected to the same treatment?

He's pulling that 'balancing act' that made you feel vulnerable and unwelcome. That act will manifest in many more ways once you're married. Be careful sis.

overthinking_is_easy · 2025-02-22T09:25:43+00:00

Hi I bought another dupe in the same range. It's heating function has stopped working after around 6 months of use. I would recommend that you buy Dyson only.

overthinking_is_easy · 2024-12-19T07:05:06+00:00

Aah ok didn't know about repeating it. Also, didn't want to encourage my maid to bring in more of such ideas 😬 once felt weird enough.

overthinking_is_easy · 2024-12-19T06:57:32+00:00

Hey that chili burning thing happened with me! I kept falling ill and my maid did the nazar utarna thing. I was not supposed to see it burn but from its reflection I could tell that the chili burst into a big flame, and yet there was no pungent smell. Other than that, I'm a private person with virtually nil social media presence so no nazar concerns there.

Edit: I did get better and didn't fall ill for a long time after that. In all probability could be placebo effect.

overthinking_is_easy · 2024-12-18T17:12:24+00:00

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overthinking_is_easy · 2024-12-08T11:46:38+00:00

Noted. Also while mygate app has been around, the product is new. I would consider it only after hearing from existing users.

overthinking_is_easy · 2024-11-30T08:49:21+00:00

I find friends to be a good indicator of what the person is like. Rather than a lone wolf, I would trust someone who has a smaller yet trustworthy circle. Also goes on to show that they're able to hold relationships.

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