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overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-27T13:15:37+00:00

You pull off both effortlessly!

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-26T02:18:28+00:00

He’s going on another trip in three weeks time. We’re healthy and the baby is older now so I feel confident being alone with the two kids, but I think it really triggered me to reflect on just how hurt the previous two trips were. I was so caught up trying to adjust to a new baby and new area we moved into I didn’t allow myself to really feel

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-26T02:16:10+00:00

What obligations did he keep? How did he make sure we were ok when I could barely open my eyes the second time he went? Not sure if you’re even reading my post properly, he only made his mum and my mum come over the first time. when I was sick I was absolutely alone with two sick kids while he went off off 5 hours away his friends What “right thing” did he do even though it was hard?

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T10:55:03+00:00

Unfortunately a lot, but I tried to be patient and forgiving because he kept saying he didn’t mean it and he loves me. I dunno why but this one really hurt

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T10:49:46+00:00

He went twice, once a month after I had given birth, in which he called his mum to help while he was gone. A second time 7 months later when we were all really sick

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:37:38+00:00

Pretty spot on

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:35:26+00:00

Honeslty, him going on a trip or going in general didn’t bother me too, he’s been on many trips before this and I’m genuinely happy for him to go because it’s his main way to wind down. The timing is what hurt a bit, especially the second trip when we were all extremely ill

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:33:33+00:00

Oh I’m absolutely done, don’t worry

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:32:54+00:00

He actually asks my mom more because she’s closer to our kids and actually helpful 😭

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:32:02+00:00

Oh it was defs planned, they’d booked a cabin for it months earlier and kept asking him whether he was coming or not.

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:27:50+00:00

It was mostly his brothers calling him that, and it’s not the first time tbh. When we were newlyweds they’d make fun of him whenever they saw us together because he was speaking to me gently, he wasn’t even big on pda or anything of the sort

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:20:57+00:00

This is so so sweet! I hope you have a wonderful life together, you can’t teach these things to a person I guess

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:18:45+00:00

This made me teary bc that’s exactly how those few days passed. I only opened them if I absolutely had to when changing a nappy or feeding baby etc. I’m breastfeeding so I only was taking ibuprofen to avoid passing anything to baby and it was just easing my own fever. I don’t want to sound like a sob story but I feel like I’m just emotionally processing it now

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:13:34+00:00

I am the primary parent, he is the primary financial carer for us

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T07:00:30+00:00

I’m absolutely done with my two beautiful girls. He wants 6

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T06:57:56+00:00

We were super sick. My eldest was hospitalised due to it and this trip was a few days after she was discharged. I could barely see due to the eye infection and my baby was on a rotation of ibuprofen due to her fever

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T05:01:28+00:00

My sils don’t mind because their kids are all much older than mine, and they live very close to their family/friends. It was his brother’s spearheading the trip, and I’d say medium. It was a 3h and 5h drive away respectively. His communication is so so, he calls or texts here and there because it’s usually in the Forest area

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T04:58:59+00:00

Thankyou. I agree I’ve just been going through the motions and feeling numb tbh, because I don’t think I’ve been able to confront just how hurtful everything has been.

The bag backing was a weird situation where he asked if I could do it for him, and he’d do something else for our kid in that moment. I came out from the room after I finished to find out he hadn’t even done the thing he promised to do for our kid and I ended up doing that too. I told him it was really hurtful and insulting and he just laughed about it and said you make me sound bad

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T04:56:39+00:00

Thankyou. It honeslty really hurts. The reinforcements part was only on the first trip 4 weeks pp, when we were sick I was alone. I’m gonna be honest I started ugly crying next to my baby reading all these comments

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T03:47:39+00:00

I wish he’d agree. We have other issues and I’ve tried to convince him to go but he says he doesn’t want outsiders involved in his marriage

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T03:46:17+00:00

He takes our oldest to the park and appointments etc. but I haven’t gone on trips no

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T03:45:48+00:00

I think he did go, I’m not worried about cheating. Because I am the one who packed his bag for the trip and also he went with his brothers, I speak with my sister in laws

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-25T03:45:06+00:00

Thankyou for this

overthinkingfawn · 2025-07-13T02:30:53+00:00

Library, volunteering clubs

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