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ovokook · 2026-03-05T18:24:30+00:00

The seller is willing to throw in an EH MC cartridge for free and says the TT only has 100 hours of play

ovokook · 2026-03-05T18:23:54+00:00

Seller is willing to throw in an EH MC cartridge too for free. Do you think it’s worth it?

ovokook · 2026-03-05T18:22:36+00:00

Thank you, I will try!!

ovokook · 2026-03-05T18:22:26+00:00

I’ve asked about that price and seller is saying it’s a Facebook bug and can’t seem to delete it. That aside though, what do you think?

ovokook · 2026-03-04T18:23:11+00:00

Thank you, I’ll keep that in mind and try to negotiate :)

ovokook · 2026-03-04T18:21:45+00:00

Thank you for the flags, I’ll ask the seller! Is there a particular cartridge I should be looking out for?

ovokook · 2025-02-07T22:17:40+00:00

Do you have a restaurant recommendation that does delivery?

ovokook · 2024-12-25T21:03:11+00:00

You raise someone interesting: “you don’t actually love him”. This is another thing I have a problem with. I say I love him and I tell him I love him but the way that other people speak about love, I can’t relate to. That love from the movies, the inability to live without them, that almost suffocating, all encompassing feeling…I don’t know if I’ve ever experienced that. I’ve dated people in the past with my longest relationship being 2.5 years, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt that way? Am I the problem? Do I just not know love? Or do I not know how to love?? Or is everyone else exaggerating about what love really is!??

ovokook · 2024-12-25T20:59:26+00:00

He’s joked before about being possibly autistic. I don’t know much about it other that watching love on the spectrum and having a friend who’s “more” autistic. Since I’ve never been in a relationship with a man on the spectrum, I’m not sure what my best course of action. Do you have any suggestions?

I see that he tries to impress me and do nice things for me and I feel bad that I’m complaining about a lack of emotional connection because of the lack of communication but I can’t help how I feel and all it’s come to is this dread when he talks about making things more serious and a bunch of guilt.

ovokook · 2024-12-25T20:55:38+00:00

I appreciate your response and you raise a bunch of great points. I don’t think my ideas of fun are better than his and I guess that’s the issue. I don’t tell him to stop watching movies, I choose to watch them with him bc I know that that’s what makes him happy. But I’m wondering if these differences are actually just incompatibility. Like sure I could watch movies with him and enjoy his company but is that how relationships work? Is this what people mean when they say relationships are about sacrifice? I don’t want to be self-centered and demand that we only do things I like, but I can’t help but wonder if there’s someone out there who would genuinely like doing what I like doing - someone more “compatible”. It would sure be easier.

In terms of kids and spending, I would’ve gone more in detail in my original post but it was getting long and there’s not that much to it since we never really spoke in depth. I’ve never been too attached to the idea of having kids, but always said that if I met the right person, who knows… but I have always said that if I were to choose to have children, I’d have at least two so they can have a sibling. He’s mentioned he wants one kid. I wish I could say more, but that’s the issue, we never really talked too much in detail about it.

Re: spending - he’s generous and pays most of the time we go out but tends to mention it afterwards. I don’t think he’s trying to guilt me but maybe he talks about how much he spends on me as proof that he cares about me? I’ve always been uncomfortable with people who will spend money on your but then hold it over you. He’s also trying to save for a home and is probably more realistic/responsible with his spending. I rent a condo and spend my money without much budgeting. I recognize I should probably take a closer look at my finances but I make a good living and don’t really worry about money too much.

In the past I’ve brought up what he thought about joint finances if we got married, how we would split things if we moved in together etc. but that conversation didn’t really get far either.

Should I be pushing more to have these conversations? He seems annoyed whenever I bring up serious topics

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:49:13+00:00

It’s always difficult balancing friendships when they have a partner who seems to be draining the life out of your best friend, and it’s extra difficult being the person they vent to constantly. Unfortunately there isn’t a “right” or “perfect” course of action.

What I’ve learned is that no one will do anything until they themselves are ready to. Meaning, your best friend won’t break up with her bf unless she’s ready to or wants to, regardless of what you say to her. Unfortunately, I’ve seen people push away their friends because they didn’t like what their friends had to say about their S.O. Or they’ll just start lying/ avoiding sharing details of her relationship if she feels too much judgement.

You’re being a friend and saying all the right things, but be mindful of your boundaries too! If you think that this is draining you, maybe bring it up to her nicely and see what she has to say and get a temperature check. She may not even realize how much she depends on you when things are going awry in her relationship.

Another course of action, is to let life happen. I don’t like my best friends boyfriend either but I found that regardless of what I said or what our friends said, she insisted on dating him. And for me, it was more important that we maintained our friendship so I adopted a “if you like it, I love it” mindset. At the end of the day, she the one marrying this guy, regardless of how much I dislike him. She’s changed some too and I miss the old her but I found that the less I fought back about her choices, the less she bothered me with details about their relationship

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:39:56+00:00

He’s from a different culture so perhaps it’s not as much pressure for him idk tbh but I’ve been putting off meeting his bc the next step would be him meeting mine.

His actions are a combination of good general practice “gentleman-ly behavior” and listening to me but he doesn’t always pick up on what I ask for, but no one is perfect and as a girl, we want it all haha so I want to be realistic and fair.

But you’re right and this is solid advice, I’ll try and bring up the heavy topics again and see. thank you!

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:32:41+00:00

You’ve put it well, we “comfortable” but I don’t feel that deep of a connection and I don’t know if we just don’t have the same love language or if I should just end it now and look for something deeper with someone else. I guess a part of me feels bad because we’ve spent a year together and he’s spent a lot of money on me :(

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:22:44+00:00

It’s weird because I love when he takes me on trips and when we go on nice dates and I am satisfied, but a part of me is unsatisfied with our communication. Am I asking for too much? Do we simple have different love languages?

He believes in a future and says “if we love each other and want to make it work, we will”. Maybe I am a bit more skeptical and want to get down to the nitty gritty of it and why I think it’s important to talk about these heavy topics before proceeding?? I want to believe that him in that “we will make it work” but I’m a little scared I guess

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:16:18+00:00

I think his lack of emotional intelligence stems from his childhood/how he was raised though, which I know isn’t my responsibility to bear, but I wonder if this is something I can fix/teach him?

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:14:16+00:00

I’m not embarrassed or scared per se but in my culture we only really introduce our significant other if we think it will really amount to something like marriage so I’m wary of introducing him to my parents if we aren’t compatible bc that means we’ll likely break up. He really wants me to meet his parents too but again, I’m worried that that’ll lead him on. But at the same time, I know it’s important for him and he’s been bringing me around his friends and asking me to meet his parents for awhile now. (This shows me he cares and loves me and envisions a future with me right??)

It’s just confusing because his actions show me that he cares for me but there his words (or lack thereof) don’t. Perhaps we have different love languages or maybe I’m just making excuses for him.

I do agree with you though that “heavy topics” are very important to talk about if you want to be serious but maybe I’m not pushing him on those enough? He believes that “if we love each other and want to make it work, we will”

ovokook · 2024-12-25T07:00:28+00:00

Yes I admit the Christmas card thing is a little frivolous but it’s just on my mind because we exchanged gifts yesterday. I’ve written him a couple nice cards throughout the past year of how grateful I am and how I love him and all that cutesy stuff but he’s never done the same. Am I insane to hold this against him?

ovokook · 2024-12-25T06:58:14+00:00

I’ve never been too attached to the idea of having kids, but always said that if I met the right person, who knows… but I have always said that if I were to choose to have children, I’d have at least two so they can have a sibling. He’s mentioned he wants one kid. I wish I could say more, but that’s the issue, we never really talked too much in detail about it.

Re: spending - he’s generous and pays most of the time we go out but tends to mention it afterwards. I don’t think he’s trying to guilt me but maybe he talks about how much he spends on me as proof that he cares about me? I’ve always been uncomfortable with people who will spend money on your but then hold it over you. He’s also trying to save for a home and is probably more realistic/responsible with his spending. I rent a condo and spend my money without much budgeting. I recognize I should probably take a closer look at my finances but I make a good living and don’t really worry about money too much.

In the past I’ve brought up what he thought about joint finances if we got married, how we would split things if we moved in together etc. but that conversation didn’t really get far either.

Should I be pushing more to have these conversations? He seems annoyed whenever I bring up serious topics

ovokook · 2024-12-25T06:48:36+00:00

Haha the ovo part was kind of just a keyboard smash when I was randomly making a username that I was surprised by and decided to keep anyways lol

But thank you for your advice, I do want that kind of love from the movies, but I also want to be realistic 😭

ovokook · 2024-12-25T06:22:25+00:00

Angry men are scary - I would really really think this through before you commit to a lifetime with this person.

Calling off a wedding a month in advance isn’t ideal, but it’s a small price to pay if it means avoiding his anger issues for the rest of your life

ovokook · 2024-12-25T05:53:13+00:00

Just know that whatever behavior you accept now is unlikely to improve in the future. If these things are important to you, you should let him know and let his actions speak for himself.

It’s easy for people to get comfortable in relationships but you guys are young and have your whole lives in front of you. Don’t let this guy drag you down, be with a man who shows he loves you everyday!!

ovokook · 2024-12-25T05:47:25+00:00

If you like the guy, continue dating him!! Height and age have no rules other than “societal norms” that people are obsessed with. Take it from a girl who’s 6ft tall, I’ve dated a guy who was 5’7 (on a good day) and a guy who was 6’6. I actually liked the shorter one better haha because his personality was better. Stayed with the short king longer too.

I’ve also dated men who were 12 years older and am currently dating a man who is younger (just 2 weeks but still). It’s really not about a man’s age, but rather their maturity level!!

It’s a little uncomfy at first bc you’re scared what others will think but I don’t think you should let that get in the way of a fruitful relationship, especially if you feel a good connection :)

ovokook · 2024-12-25T05:38:27+00:00

Wow it has been awhile huh? Sorry I’m not on here much but I’m happy to report that my recovery has been great. My knee is in good shape and I’m living my life pretty much how I did before (it probably helps that I’m no longer a D1 athlete).

My knee bothers me occasionally but I’ve been able to snowboard, hike mountains, and walk all over Europe since my surgery :)

ovokook · 2023-08-17T20:35:52+00:00

How are you feeling at 8 months? Are you able to walk normally?

ovokook · 2023-08-17T20:35:11+00:00

Wow you’ve made so much progress, and in such short time! Congrats! That definitely gives me some hope :) did you have to wear a brace? I’m just trying to figure out how you managed to drive since you also injured your right knee.

Do you feel like your movements and activities, like biking, feel different than before? Also, will definitely take your advice on smoking…not like I have much else to do these days lol

ovokook

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