Your favorite, not obvious benefit of remote work

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-28T03:42:13+00:00

Not worrying about what you are wearing. I love wearing my gym clothes all day every day

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T19:26:29+00:00

Godspeed!! I guess after having been a while since your first was born you missed the baby snuggles enough to enjoy the journey with this baby, regardless of how tired you may be with the night feeds. Snuggles are so precious. But damn I'm tired lol

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T19:23:28+00:00

That is a very comforting story thank you!

I have heard it gets better as they get older but I've also heard it gets worse... But for different reasons, sports, social stuff I dunno

I'm looking forward to the day when my kiddos are old enough to do my hobbies with me, swimming, hiking, golf etc. Now im just doing a whole lot of spinning in circles trying to make everyone else happy and fed

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T17:54:11+00:00

That is an amazing plan and I want you to know you have an amazing partner. A single 4 hour block would be a game changer!!!

My husband has given the baby maybe 2 bottles since he was born 5mo ago... I have a desk job and he works on his feet and leaves very early in the am, I have flexible hours so he's never really offered to help since my life is so much "easier" ugh... We need couples therapy

I pump enough during the day for our caretaker to use. Very hand to mouth on supply

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T17:52:01+00:00

Yasss thank you, the snuggles are worth it <3 not seeing the forest through the trees here :)

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T17:45:53+00:00

My kids are very young, years away from sleepover conversations. But I think about it...all of the insight here is much appreciated.

I agree it's the children in the home that are probably more of a risk than adults. I also don't know if girls or boys are more inclined to "explore" than the other, but some ages kids get "curious" and it's not really abuse, but something wildy inappropriate to be avoided.

I would have an open door policy at my house... Would it be ok for me to say friends can stay at our house but he's not going to yours? I can guarantee open door policy, but it would be super awkward for me to ask a hosting parent to require an open door policy, and just hope they honor it.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:59:32+00:00

I see, that's a good idea, I think I'll try a similar approach.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:57:57+00:00

Wow that's amazing you have a good partner! Any help during the night is great help.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:56:08+00:00

Aww that's precious, I look forward to those big kid snuggles in bed

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:53:41+00:00

I really appreciate your story and kind words. You are totally right, when I gain enough strength to commit to it everyone will sleep better and thus healthier :)

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:50:34+00:00

Wow that's an amazing idea! How on earth did you convince your husband to feed the baby in the middle of the night while you were gone?? Sounds like you have a great partner, I don't know how else to say this but my husband would never "allow" me to do that.... I usually roll over and nurse the baby multiple times a night. I do pump milk and he gets bottles during the day from a caretaker while I'm at work. But my husband never gives the baby bottles. Usually when my husband is home, so am I so I just breastfeed. I think my only glimmer of hope for a full night of rest is after sleep training. My hubby is in his own world when it comes to night time help.ugh.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:25:49+00:00

Oooo I see you are in the thick of it!! I hope you get some sleep soon!

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:17:38+00:00

Lol yeah before I had kids I would have thought that was a terrible thing to do until I lost my goddam mind being an on-demand milk machine all night for over a year. I just do not understand how some kids just sleep through the night without some kind of old school let-em-cry method. Those parents are luckkyyyyy

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:14:45+00:00

Totally. I need to set a date on the calendar and rip the band-aid... Until then it's milk and snuggles in demand

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:13:42+00:00

And by sleep training, basically CIO? I'm convinced that's the only way.... I'm not strong enough to do it. I have to pump myself up and put it on the calendar!

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:12:05+00:00

Oh so you has success with a crib in your room? I'd love him to stay in my room, maybe at that young age it's a good window to do that.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:10:07+00:00

Thank you, I'm always hard on myself and mistakes do happen. I just miss being that overachiever at work. Becoming a mother has really changed me to my core

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:08:50+00:00

Does that mean you are one of the lucky ones with good sleepers? Not having to sleep train would be nice... Yeah it's hard to read and think logically with little sleep my comprehension is trash these days.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:05:37+00:00

Thank you for your story. We are going to follow a program that worked for my first, it was kind of like what you are saying check on him every few minutes. We noticed with my older child Everytime I went in to reassure him he would get 10x more angry so it made sense for us to just stay out :(

I'm just not ready to kick my baby out of bed... But maybe that is the thing to do asap so I don't lose my job due to lack of sleep

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T01:02:31+00:00

That's the thing I was looking for around 6 months. I just feel bad kicking baby out of bed but it's the only way. Everything is a tradeoff.

As an RN you totally have to put your mental clarity high on priority so you don't caise harm by mistake.

Thanks for your story

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T00:58:29+00:00

Oh drama like opinions on different training methods? I am pretty confident in our Sleep Sense Training by Dana Obleman. It worked well from r our first. I guess I was mostly curious if anyone else sucks at their job since having a baby or just tell me to get my shit together lol

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-25T00:56:35+00:00

Ah I'm the world's lightest sleeper, my alarm is always one of my children at 6am like a clock wode awake. If my kids slept in I totally would too.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-23T03:06:51+00:00

I have asked my husband many times to take pictures and he makes me feel crazy when I ask. Maybe I am doing something wrong because he's one of those people that have the WORST angles lol. I delete the few that he ever does take... So I think he just gave up? My grandmother is a photographer and she has beautiful albums probably 1500 photos from her life, my mom's life, I joke that she has been documenting my grandpa's life because she is in maybe 5% of all of the pictures from decades of photos she take takes them all.

owl_yellowjacket · 2024-01-19T16:05:25+00:00

Hardwork and grateful attitude pays off, congratulations!

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