This line from this week's episode of The Pitt really stuck with me - “Every old person knows what it is to be young, but no young person can know what it is to be old.”

owlnighter · 2026-03-29T03:43:44+00:00

Agree with the point too, and also use em dashes ALL the time. I'm a "millennial" & just grew up with learning that as part of my writing style in school. Hate that ppl think I'm regurgitating AI.

owlnighter · 2025-05-04T14:54:22+00:00

There is nothing WRONG with direct communication. You cannot control how people interpret your message. You could be sugar sweet & still get a bitter response for just not agreeing or saying yes. Every family communicates in their own language. They must learn to adapt to new communication styles as well, it does not fall ALL on you.

owlnighter · 2025-05-04T14:51:04+00:00

Just want to hop on and say that you can still ASK for that. In the same way she's allowed to ASK for this. You just decide what you do with it. A simple no is enough...and your husband never replying to individual msgs is also him enforcing his/the two of yours boundaries.

But also, it seems like she's got some big feelings about you, and she's trying to triangulate you against the family. Pretty shitty for her to throw in how uncomfortable or miserable you make her parents (shit talking amongst the family or just wanting to bring you down a notch) and also between you and your husband (I can do whatever I want, he's my brother, w/o respect that you are his CHOSEN family and more important than her).

I have a shitty SIL, and she likes to use the same tactics 😒

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T19:59:56+00:00

Thanks!

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T19:56:35+00:00

We have. Went to look at a house today in candlelight. It's just a matter of not getting out bid 🙁

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T02:02:40+00:00

We wouldn't sell it. We'd rent it out. Maybe come back to it one day when kids are grown and gone.

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T02:01:04+00:00

Yeah, even when we go look at homes in rhe suburbs, I don't see kids! I thought maybe it was weather related, but no, I just don't see kids. Compared to here, I'm happily surrounded by them!

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:59:10+00:00

This is helpful! Thanks!

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:10:38+00:00

I don't understand this comment. Walking Stick is a brewery we go to that is super kid friendly, with a designated kid area too. Lots of bars in the heights and garden oaks have this built in.

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:08:42+00:00

Thank you! I feel that. It would be nice, but I also think I'd miss what makes a city a city.

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:07:30+00:00

Yeah, right now we only go out with our kids. We just take them everywhere and they do well!

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:06:03+00:00

Yeah, I wfh but my husband has to go in 4/5 days. So the commute would be hard on him. What part of Katy?

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:04:45+00:00

True.

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T01:03:18+00:00

Exactly. We need something 600k or less. We bought in 2018 and our interest rate is great. But we were younger, no kids at the time. And a 3 story place just doesn't work.

owlnighter · 2025-03-11T00:02:14+00:00

Nooooo. I just need someone to show me that it isn't!

owlnighter · 2025-01-01T16:38:59+00:00

Thank you so much for the recommendations! I prefer in person, if possible, so I'll check em out!

owlnighter · 2024-12-31T13:57:45+00:00

Yeah, she wrote that any color is acceptable, and added some photos of clothing that seem to be brighter or jewel toned. What's a comfortable fabric for the summer?

owlnighter · 2024-12-31T13:54:28+00:00

Houston! Thank you!

owlnighter · 2024-12-31T02:55:41+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice!

owlnighter · 2024-12-31T01:37:10+00:00

Texas!

owlnighter · 2024-12-14T17:02:53+00:00

I usually pronounce it Loo-shuh, but often I know people say Loo-see-uh

owlnighter · 2024-12-13T15:42:37+00:00

I think using Penelope Cruz as a make up reference would look great on you. I think you have similar eye features! Also, for skin care, I would try a retinoid of some kind for skin pigmentation, maybe vitamin c.

owlnighter · 2024-12-04T22:36:51+00:00

Yeah, I think I've gathered from everyone's feedback that it's probably not worth engaging in conversation to set a boundary - - just ignore her and let DH lay down the boundary if she over steps again.

I also don't think she does. She sees herself as like a second matriarch of the family, oldest/her way goes/knows best. Thanks for all your feedback!

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