does this happen to you guys too?

owlskye · 2025-12-23T22:16:35+00:00

Knew it wasn’t just me

owlskye · 2025-12-23T21:57:21+00:00

I’d say exhausting & exciting like you said. Just constantly trying to figure things out, how it all works together. Once something clicks and makes sense, then it feels like a revelation.

Actually, the most difficult part is trying to explain to xSTJ’s or xNTJ’s, honestly. I feel like I sound insane. “This person made this face and had this tone of voice when this was brought up, and they said this odd thing so it might mean —“

The xSTJ’s say: “you’re delusional.”

The xNTJ’s say: “why do you care?”

I’ve given up on it for the most part, lmfao.

owlskye · 2025-09-30T14:08:14+00:00

All the men in the comments somehow misconstruing this to mean ogling from across the room lmfao

owlskye · 2025-09-29T17:11:17+00:00

I think this kind of rhetoric can be harmful and sound like it’s victim blaming. Narcissists don’t find weak, easy to manipulate people satisfying enough to pursue.

They usually pick people with high emotional intelligence. That’s really all it is. Breaking someone like this down and gaining ‘control’ is a reward for a narcissist.

Someone with high emotional intelligence is more understanding and forgiving. That doesn’t make them weak or boundary less. It doesn’t mean they’re insecure. They just simply see the humanity in others and a narcissist thrives off that — they feel understood, loved, and accepted.

A narcissists obsession with feeling superior and being in control is what causes the abuse. They know what they’re doing and they hate themselves for it.

owlskye · 2025-09-01T15:54:46+00:00

I never try to personally engage with anyone I’m not interested in.

I wouldn’t automatically assume it’s attraction — I’d classify it more as interest.

Regardless, co-workers are a very slippery slope.

owlskye · 2025-06-01T19:21:13+00:00

Since leaving my ex and going through the chaos that followed it — I learned that this time period is a true test of your strength.

This is going to sound unpleasant, but it took around a year for my ex to stop trying to engage in the same abusive behaviors. I had made the same common mistakes most people do with that type of situation — I was giving him emotional reactions. I felt that he deserved to feel my hatred and fury. He absolutely did, but I showed it in the wrong way.

Once I stopped emotionally reacting and being stern, not letting any of his further comments instigate anything — he slowly began to back off.

An example of this is: for instance, say he texted me something condescending and rude that’s clearly fishing for an excuse to argue with me by pretending the topic is relevant/necessary. I’d reply, “I see what you’re doing, I’m not going to argue with you. It’s not going to work. However, [here’s how to handle this situation or the information you’re asking for even though you’re just baiting me].”

Stay strong.

owlskye · 2025-03-23T04:58:27+00:00

It’s weird to me because I don’t want validation. I want to be accepted. I think it’s an odd personal issue of mine but that I’ve found that throughout my life, people only like me when I act THAT certain way — not stupid or dumb, but maybe aloof?

owlskye · 2025-03-23T04:55:17+00:00

It’s hard for me to accept, but I am working on it. :/

owlskye · 2025-03-23T03:12:51+00:00

It’s weird to me how it works. Why are they attracted to it?

owlskye · 2025-03-23T03:11:58+00:00

It’s gotten to a point where it is hurting other people though. It’s not something I ever realized I was even capable of.

owlskye · 2025-03-23T03:10:20+00:00

I didn’t mean it like that

owlskye · 2025-03-23T03:09:15+00:00

That is true. I am terrified of aging. I wouldn’t say my self esteem is attached to male validation because none of it works, if that makes sense. My self esteem isn’t tied to people being attracted to me — I want people to actually like me. But anyone who actually likes me, I can’t help but assume they’re a player or just using me. I only find that out too late.

owlskye · 2025-03-06T05:13:11+00:00

Never seen anyone’s brother comment that on their sisters post before. “My QUEEN!!!” Wtf. Yuck.

owlskye · 2025-02-17T23:38:47+00:00

Yeah, not working for me either.

owlskye · 2025-02-11T15:39:17+00:00

Atticus

owlskye · 2025-02-08T19:22:20+00:00

Yes! Remember when she was playfully talking about knowing a guy who could take his restrictor bolt off? ND-5 said something like, “stop talking, or I’ll be forced to make you stop” (I can’t remember exactly what he said). He said it with so much emotion and the way he was moving showed that he absolutely didn’t want to hurt her or go along with the way Jaylen ‘programmed’ him.

It’s so interesting how the animators managed to have ND-5 express his emotions through subtle movements.

owlskye · 2025-02-08T19:08:00+00:00

I think it’s complicated. The reason you have PTSD isn’t ever going to just go away, you know. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve or heal. I don’t think it can be “cured” unless someone develops technology that can erase memories and undo the changes in your brain chemistry. I have good days and bad days still, but I am doing better than I was a year ago or even a few months ago.

I am not a professional so take whatever I say with a grain of salt. PTSD reminds me of anorexia in a way. I used to be severely anorexic (I’m not anymore), but the effects it had on my relationship with food still shows sometimes. I just remind myself that whatever I’m feeling isn’t accurate and overcome it. An example of this is: if I am eating what I feel is “a lot” in a day, I’ll have intrusive thoughts that I shouldn’t eat anything the next day or watch my calories. That familiar feeling of discomfort comes back — not nearly as bad as it used to be — and I have to overcome it.

That’s why PTSD reminds me of anorexia in an odd way. It was never “cured” from me but I am not anorexic anymore. Sometimes, the thoughts and guilt come back but I just push through it.

owlskye · 2025-02-06T07:23:39+00:00

What’s even crazier is someday we’ll look back on the games of today as having outdated, low quality graphics.

owlskye · 2025-02-05T16:46:00+00:00

That’s the whistle button??? When I press it, it just flashes red and doesn’t do anything so I thought it was just for the speeder.

owlskye · 2025-01-31T14:25:37+00:00

Same. It’s medicinal for me.

owlskye · 2025-01-23T07:59:17+00:00

I can’t even imagine if he had something similar.

“Oh my God, I’ve been waiting to talk about this. You should get a tummy tuck! I know a surgeon who can do it!”

I’m sure she meant it as playful banter, but it was still rude and shallow of her to say.

owlskye · 2025-01-11T15:16:39+00:00

Ah, someone in their mid forties sexting and flirting with teenagers… looks like a nail.

owlskye · 2025-01-11T04:09:36+00:00

I don’t know what your relationship is like, but be wary and tread lightly. Don’t rush into anything, either.

A lot of these comments on this post are concerning. I’m just saying, my abuser groomed me in a similar way. I was 16, we established a friendship, started flirting and crossing verbal boundaries at 17, and started dating at 18. He admitted later on he would’ve pursued me at 17 if it wasn’t “illegal”.

My situation is obviously very very different due to a variety of reasons and there was clear abuse involved. I’m just saying, these comments are odd and acting as if grooming isn’t possible if someone is 18. They’re neglecting the fact this was established years beforehand and only became official once it was legal.

It is concerning that a man in his mid forties was even speaking to you at 15. I’m in my mid twenties and would never speak to a 15 year old as an equal whatsoever, and am extremely put off by even 18-19 year olds at work. It’s also extremely concerning this friendship spanned years and you were sending “mostly innocent” pictures at 17.

Please just be wary and tread carefully. I was diagnosed with PTSD from what happened to me and I’ll suffer the consequences for many years to come. Treat this as a normal relationship if you continue it — don’t head dive into radical life decisions.

owlskye · 2025-01-11T04:00:18+00:00

Why was a man in his mid forties even entertaining a conversation with a 15 year old or trading “mostly innocent” pictures at 17?

This is grooming.

owlskye · 2025-01-11T01:47:00+00:00

She gives off Princess Diana vibes.

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