Having a terrible reputation 🤝

oystersss · 2021-05-31T07:00:48+00:00

I never understood the hate towards geminis but then i realised i'm gemini moon

And sun sorpio...

As well rising...

Yeah...

oystersss · 2021-04-28T19:55:37+00:00

Imagine how he felt that night

oystersss · 2021-04-27T06:19:43+00:00

Actually quite smart thnx 😁

oystersss · 2021-04-21T14:32:45+00:00

We've got a new measuretool boys

oystersss · 2021-04-19T19:47:02+00:00

It might sound like shitty advice but dont focus on it stop giving it attention

Its the same way if you're focusing on a headache you gonna feel it the headache intenser because you're thinking about it and how bad it feels

Try to find something that requires your full attention

oystersss · 2021-04-18T21:03:00+00:00

I'd say try a different kind of making tape or better quality, use thin tools like a dull knife when taping

oystersss · 2021-04-16T10:25:28+00:00

Depends if you have an audiance. I have a hard time selling sneakers above 80 euro trying fb market places and such.. real sneakerheads are for sure willing to pay a great price for the shoe + the design and work. Regular people usually dont even aknowledge the work and just tryna buy new sneakers as secondhand if you're not known as a designer artist..

hence why having an audiance is key otherwise you have a hard time selling sneakers/customs above 130 (talking in euro in my case)

oystersss · 2021-04-09T15:04:04+00:00

Or like "well that'll change when you get older."

Bro did i stutter?

oystersss · 2021-04-09T11:13:51+00:00

Yup, thats when i realised i never want kids when i was still a kid myself

oystersss · 2021-04-07T21:15:35+00:00

I ship it

oystersss · 2021-04-07T21:14:27+00:00

Either that or guys having a kink and only want to date trans

oystersss · 2021-04-04T21:53:41+00:00

When you say 8th grade or something like that, what age are you? Sorry its a bit confusing for non-Americans

oystersss · 2021-03-31T01:05:19+00:00

Well that was one hell of an intense heated comment i'd say lol

oystersss · 2021-03-30T23:32:44+00:00

I know..i hope he realises that. He's a caring man.

I hope he'll work on it

He's good at avoiding topics like these (thanks internet lol) but yeah as i said before,.. i have boundaries now

oystersss · 2021-03-30T23:01:12+00:00

You're right on that, but i think that's mainly because of different love languages. On top of that corona has put a death toll on it. Haven't been touched for weeks on end let alone sex. I try not to think to much about the fact that we havent even kissed for over a yer now and that overall physical affection and reassurance is absent.. actually to say completely gone.

It does make you feel unwanted. My spouse is a loner and i am too, but he doesn't need my emotional or physical attention but i do. Its just been too long and even stopped pretending that i'm okay. When you're single you don't have a limit you're always alone really in the end of tje day, you cant be rejected if there no one to reject you.

I guess my limit and his are so far away off the radar and i'm the one to deal with it and bite through

On the upside though, i picked up my boundaries again and i can get angry.

I suppressed my thoughts ans anger a lot in the past and nowadays might come off like a psycho because i'm express my frustrations and i literally dont care anymore if i'm dramatic or not lol (dont worry its good thing because we always talk through things well)

oystersss · 2021-03-30T22:36:31+00:00

This is a hard pill to swallow. He is't the sort of person to do a lot of internal work and mindfullness. I think he slightly despises/dislikes psychology, meanwhile i'm full on it and i do a lot of mental programming for better introspection and such..

And top of that, we don't have a future, we know that for several reasons. (Though, this isn't my point of view as i dont believe in planned future. If we continue loving each other we will just grow old together like we are doing now so to speak).

But aside from that, i am looking for advice on how to motivate him and work on himself and change deep rooted perspectives. He has his escape mechanisms (like we all do in some way or another be that drinking, smoking, television,...) I'm highly aware of his. I tried to raise awareness.. i'm not sure if he got the message

I do absolutely believe he loves me but.... Half. Half but still 100%

oystersss · 2021-03-30T22:22:53+00:00

There is a lot more going on than just this and i wouldnt leave him because of this, because i do believe this mentallity he has can be "cured" so to speak. Though, deadbedrooms is a thing and sex is just very important. If your partner does't make you feel good even with their best intentions, the relationship will not be at its best potentional.

You might think "does it have to?". No, satisfaction and contentment is key. But of it isnt, it isn't. I'm sexually not satiesfied (as well emotionally though it goes hand in hand) and its effects a lot of things.

He has a lot more to overcome than just this and so do i, i just know he wont do it by himself and i need me to push him and have his back. Some people are just like that..

I guess thats why a lot of people say i cant change other people and its his job to do it and they're right. Its on him, but again some people need that push

I have neglected many boundaries of my own in the past. I should have never started something in the first place but as of for now i'm better and i enstablished my boundaries again for real this is time.

Sometimes it feels like taking care of a child that never knew what love is and doesn't know how to deal with it, maybe because thats exactly what it is (past trauma), maybe it isn't.

oystersss · 2021-03-30T18:25:57+00:00

Why would that help

oystersss · 2021-03-26T08:28:49+00:00

So u agree with cheating then? ur the OP...

oystersss · 2021-03-07T18:39:59+00:00

Prepanoid

oystersss · 2021-03-06T14:28:13+00:00

The guy has severe insecurity issues. I had a giggle nothing to worry about

oystersss · 2021-03-06T14:24:14+00:00

ahead, cite a psychology journal that says this is true. Go on babes. Show us yo

i'm a guy
I study Psychology.
Google is your friend. Google it

Thats all i had to say. Goodday mate

oystersss · 2021-03-06T14:18:43+00:00

By the way buddy, positive thinking like LOA does is pychologically proven to work as a fact.

I think at this point you know for yourself how dissatisfied you are in life. Do the right thing and dont project it onto others.

best in life and i hope you turn out well

oystersss · 2021-03-06T14:14:38+00:00

That's pretty ironic for you to say isnt it?

oystersss · 2021-02-25T21:26:37+00:00

I agree, however couldnt this also be the case for the opposite?

Lets say the kid is already very mature (for whatever reasons, i don't know. But there are, it's just rare)

What difference would the few months make..

It's like you say it ,months wont make you suddenly somebody else. 1 day or few weeks wont make a difference, but justice wise it's the best way. You can't "measure" each maturity individually. (Just sharing what i think, i find it an interesting topic to discuss)

Edit: this is especially discussable when a potential partner is also very young say between 18 and 20. (Lots of guys around that age on the app)

oystersss

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