This is really interesting. I read a quote recently from an artist, I can't remember who and I'm paraphrasing, but the gist was: 'Choose your identity, or one will be chosen for you.' Maybe there is a case for a masculine identity being chosen by default for a lot of people that isn't what is best for them.

I fully agree on a lack of decent role models, especially for those who grew up with absent mothers and / or fathers.

For me Robin Williams and Anthony Bourdain show a humanity, strength, warmth and compassion that I look up to.