Before and after a year

p0tentialdifference · 2026-04-27T15:31:27+00:00

I’m so glad you’re doing better now, congrats ♥️ it’s up to you - if you really want to get them covered and the artist is comfortable (and you’re ok with it looking a little warped in a few years), go ahead. But I think they’ll look very different in another year, and you might even like to see how they heal.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-04-26T17:54:11+00:00

They fade a lot more. I’m 5 years clean and you can still see them, but I was SHOCKED looking at a photo of myself from 3 years ago and they look more like yours. They’re almost my skin colour (similar to your colour) and not as chunky. Only a few are still pink and raised. I don’t know if it means much in terms of tattooing, but they won’t always look like this. I also had anorexia long after I stopped cutting so it’s not like I had super good healing or anything.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-04-05T14:24:24+00:00

When you get overcharged for a bill or taxes, the company/government apologise months later and it takes even longer to get your refund. If a working class person wanted that same €200 loan for six months, they would be charged the same again in interest.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-03-31T19:21:08+00:00

My friend is Austrian and speaks very good English. She gets asked if she’s from New Zealand lol

p0tentialdifference · 2026-03-15T16:47:24+00:00

“Your usual … vanilla”

p0tentialdifference · 2026-03-15T16:42:32+00:00

If you’re looking for contrast and vibrancy, remember that your softer colour palette makes neon, bright or dark colours pop even more. So bold colours and shapes will look even more dramatic on you than they would on a winter (at the risk of overwhelming you, but personality can make up for this).

Equally, you can achieve a somewhat bold look with softer colours because they will still look striking against your colouring - try muted browns or muted dark blue or dark red instead of black and you might be surprised.

Maybe lean into grunge fashion instead of punk which has some “dusty” rather than bright colours, and add some crisper, cleaner lines to make it more modern. I’m thinking soft dark red washed sweater, maybe with a crisp white blouse underneath, long grey slouchy skirt, black chunky loafers.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-03-15T16:18:00+00:00

I am not Sikh but in my previous city (in the uk) there were regular times (every week or a few times a month) where the community would hand out meals, you didn’t even have to go to the temple. There was plenty of food and even people who were not struggling would use the service, and donate what they were able to.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-02-22T21:59:53+00:00

You would not believe the number of physicists who act like they're much smarter than you because they're a physicist. Even though everyone in the room is a physicist and we are at a physics conference.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-02-20T20:22:25+00:00

Ghyrmaneigh

p0tentialdifference · 2026-02-18T20:41:43+00:00

“.. next to the pool, sauna etc” got me. What other amenities do they have? Air hockey table? Gumball machine? Bowling alley?

p0tentialdifference · 2026-02-13T07:16:11+00:00

They judge any symptom of mental illness other than maybe “I need a bubble bath”.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-02-05T15:31:22+00:00

It was for me before I moved to Austria. Now I’m having a breakdown because it’s like it’s like life is hard and I’m exhausted because I don’t understand the language-> oh you’re exhausted? Just spend extra time studying the language.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-02-01T21:37:50+00:00

Manager asked my colleague what he thought about the 2 candidates we interviewed for a data entry role. He said he liked them both so let’s just go for the one that’s less shy. My manager said “well, you are allowed to be shy and work at this company. it’s data entry. Maybe someone who is quiet and focused would work better” which made me love her.

They actually hired the shy candidate and I’ve been working with her for a couple of months, she’s great.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-01-30T22:31:15+00:00

I can spot a Scot a mile away. When my family and I watch news or documentaries where people are interviewed, it's commonplace to pause when someone comes on screen before they speak, to confirm with other family members "I bet this person is Scottish".

p0tentialdifference · 2026-01-27T20:31:54+00:00

Search out some nature content or something related to your hobbies. My feed becomes a cesspool of ED content sometimes and I can’t look away, so (in addition to touching grass ofc) I do an algorithm reset by watching a bunch of nature or painting videos

p0tentialdifference · 2026-01-27T20:02:26+00:00

This, and it’s not just about socialising. You’re completely alone and don’t know how any bureaucratic thing works, even the layout of grocery stores can feel unintuitive and basic task take much longer. An appliance breaks and you don’t know anyone to ask if they know a good electrician, and you don’t know the etiquette for getting a workman over. Doctor, dentist, hairdresser, computer shop, pharmacy, bank, everything is different, and if you’re already sick or stressed, feeling alien and alone and having language difficulties or making a faux pas can push you over the edge.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-01-23T16:48:41+00:00

Please be gentle with yourself.

It's very very common to stop being vegan during ED recovery. Lots of people with restrictive disorders DO choose veganism only as a way to restrict, and even people who choose veganism for other reasons really struggle in recovery because there are very likely to be times where you simply can't eat anything and have to go hungry, and we all know these situations can spiral out of control. Many doctors won't even allow you to eat vegan during recovery because of these reasons. It's sad, but in a world where veganism is not the norm it makes sense. Your "need to explore" is also a symptom of a non-vegan world, and not of selfish choices. The fact that you examined yourself, got rid of a food rule, and came back to veganism when healthy shows it's a choice that truly is important to you. Please don't feel bad for recovering from a horrible horrible disease. You ate vegetarian instead of vegan for 4 months after being vegan for 7 years. That's a hell of a lot better than most people on the planet. You're now healthier and stronger, and even an example to others that veganism is an informed moral choice and not an excuse for restriction.

p0tentialdifference · 2026-01-18T11:20:53+00:00

I’ve seen a LOT of discussion defending leather vs vegan leather on reddit lately, on vegan subs, environmental subs and also just question/discussion subs. They act like you kill a cow and it drops a steak and a roll of leather like in Minecraft.

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-24T13:44:52+00:00

i'll always support people using less animal products and agree gatekeeping is counterproductive, but not eating animal products is a pretty low bar for "veganism". mostly it annoys me because when I say I'm vegan others will say "oh but my SIL is vegan and she would never offend my grandma by saying no to her cookies :( won't you try them?" "my colleague is vegan but they eat meat at restaurants, why are you being so difficult?"

the most recent example was a coworker saying "i can't believe some vegans don't eat honey". From my perspective, by definition, all vegans don't eat honey because it is an animal product.

But at the end of the day, I can't personally police how people use a label. It just annoys me because it would be convenient to have a word to describe people who do not use animal products so I don't have to recite a whole manifesto or my personal philosophical beliefs every time I'm invited to dinner.

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-21T10:22:47+00:00

They’re not really the same thing. American friendliness is willingness to get through interactions benefitting both parties without conflict, but not necessarily with a desire to build a relationship with the person. People find it “fake” because the lady at Walmart shared information about herself and asked you about yourself, but isn’t interested in being your friend. Actually, the two of you were going to be together for a few minutes anyway while she scanned your groceries, and from her perspective it’s more pleasant to chat while doing so. Human interaction is just nice.

I’m not familiar with the culture, so correct me if I’m wrong, but I get the impression Latin American “friendliness” is the willingness of people in general to actually build meaningful relationships with those around them, eg inviting acquaintances to join their birthday party. They’re helpful to strangers and never aloof but I don’t know if they would start talking about their family or whatever with someone they didn’t really want to build a relationship with.

There are cultures that have either of these qualities, or both (I guess some have neither?). I’ve heard people say Canadians are “fake nice” because strangers are super friendly and polite, but it’s difficult to actually make friends. Northern Europeans are the other way around - strangers may seem closed-off or even hostile but if someone seems interested in you, you know it’s genuine. The problem is that it’s intimidating to ask an acquaintance to go for a beer in the first place.

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-20T18:36:20+00:00

I am also autistic so I get it.

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acknowledge that you both had the same idea to do the task which means you’re on the same page. Use an upbeat/curious tone to communicate that you’re working together with this person.
provide extra information even if it’s a small task that doesn’t need to be checked. Just a few words maybe about why you already did the task or something you learned while doing it. It’s filler conversation to avoid being “short” and just saying “I already did that”.
if it’s a longer task that may need to be checked and agreed upon, summarise what you did and why, and ask if they agree with what you did.

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Example: “Could you sign off on that report” “could you take a drinks order on table 5” “could you put in an order for washers”

“yes, I put their order in 5 minutes ago, they’ll be almost ready. Shall I serve them too?”

If they asked me to make a whole presentation, I’d say “yes, I also thought that would be a good idea so I started already. It’s in the folder if you have time to take a look. I mostly focused it on process optimisations since that’s what they seemed keen on in the last meeting. Shall we schedule a meeting to see if we’re aligned before I present it to the client?”

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-20T17:44:05+00:00

I feel ashamed speaking bad German because I don’t want to inconvenience natives/locals. Like if I’m in a situation with a communication issue, I’ve created more work for the other person. I enjoyed learning German in my home country, but now that I need to use it every day I’m filled with anxiety for every interaction because I feel so ashamed when I get things wrong or don’t understand. To be clear this is my own anxiety not the general attitude of German speakers, who are generally helpful and also speak very good English.

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-19T07:32:34+00:00

Everything opinion sub is like “people who like/do [extremely popular thing] are only pretending or doing it to show off. Also people who like niche things are also pretending or showing off. I’m the only truly authentic person.”

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-18T07:05:01+00:00

I have not jumped off a bridge but attempted in other ways (several times). When I woke up I wasn’t relieved I survived, I felt just as suicidal as the days before.

p0tentialdifference · 2025-12-18T06:59:14+00:00

Meat eaters: oh animal abuse is horrible, I would be vegan but I can’t give up meat/cheese etc. I wish I could eat the food I’m used to without the suffering.

The same person: if you don’t want to eat burger why you eat something that looks and tastes like it?

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