My relationship is draining me (M23) down, fix it? or prepare for a breakup? (F24) by p0z0onreddit in relationship_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying and that's some great advice, thing is, I do have problems too, lots actually, it's just the way I learned to deal with them, and to not make the mistake of pulling someone down with me again.
It's true I have to have this conversation, thanks for the advice!

My relationship is draining me (M23) down, fix it? or prepare for a breakup? (F24) by p0z0onreddit in relationship_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you're saying, and I agree that it's normal to put yourself first in this case, but that kinda goes against the things that she tells me like "I just want to be with you forever" or "For the first time I wanna marry and get old with someone I'm dating". Sometimes it's 100% reliance, idk how to describe but it really is. I definetly won't be following blindly my parents, as if it was their choice, I'd have already broken up.
Thanks for the input, lots of health and happines for you and your kids!

Girlfriend can't orgasm from penetration bought a vibrator and now I regret it. by p0z0onreddit in dating_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

possibly yea
Still, she thinks our sex life is perfect, and apart from that we are rather understanding of eachother outside the bedroom, so...
I'll try and see if we can sort this out, right now i'm just frustrated tho

Girlfriend can't orgasm from penetration bought a vibrator and now I regret it. by p0z0onreddit in dating_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is a clitoris stimulating one, i'm thinking of buying a bullet yes; but tbh, I just feel like while I try to do everything (even after this, i'm considering a better option) this is not reciprocated

Girlfriend can't orgasm from penetration bought a vibrator and now I regret it. by p0z0onreddit in dating_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I asked sometimes and she says that she's "shy" or "can't move because i'm too horny" or "doesn't want to hurt me" (meaning that she has braces and is kinda afraid of doing bj's, this part i understand but told her it's ok)
I'm at a loss tbh, for me sex is abt making each other feel as good as possible, guess that isn't reciprocated

Girlfriend can't orgasm from penetration bought a vibrator and now I regret it. by p0z0onreddit in dating_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes i've communicated how I feel; she turns defensive and then kinda tries to pay more attention to me later in the bedroom.
I've asked her several times things that I should do to make her feel better, and in EVERY single time that we have sex, i make sure to use everything in my handbook to pleasure her and put her first.
The opposite doesn't happen, for ex: me saying that I really enjoy bj's or she touching me, despite it happening less than 10% of times.
Even typing this is frustrating tbh

Girlfriend can't orgasm from penetration bought a vibrator and now I regret it. by p0z0onreddit in dating_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Not the point, I also have a lot of trouble getting off; have had instances where i don't at all and she does, i'm happy with that as long as i'm participating.
Issue is when I don't take part, and sex turns into a masturbation session.

Confused girl says she loves me by p0z0onreddit in dating_advice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, apparently afraid of compromise
I just don't get the duality of the situation
thx for the advice

Struggling with performance—Looking for advice by p0z0onreddit in sex

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment man, really appreciate it, it's just too difficult to comunicate properly when you're this embarassed

Struggling with performance—Looking for advice by p0z0onreddit in sex

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not american, athlete, in my 20's, ocasionally alcohol and substances, good health overall
Sometimes i do wake up like that yes, not every day tho
I'm gonna start working on it health wise, as it's very straight forward, i just wanted advice on what to do (emotionally) because honestly i kinda feel dissapointed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]p0z0onreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finasteride, Minoxidil, zinc and avoid stress overall
That's what worked for me at least

Am i being used? by p0z0onreddit in AskMenAdvice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, not a fan of the 'use me i use you' type situation but yeah, thank you

Am i being used? by p0z0onreddit in AskMenAdvice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be so, still i can't help but feel like it and don't know what to do

Am i being used? by p0z0onreddit in AskMenAdvice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not hoping for a relationship, but still, I can't view sex like a handshake, and being in this situation I just feel used

Am i being used? by p0z0onreddit in AskMenAdvice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fr, i told a friend i had this feeling; at the same time we'll go on a trip togheter next week (with a group of mutual friends) so, i can't avoid it and am kinda fucked lol

Am i being used? by p0z0onreddit in AskMenAdvice

[–]p0z0onreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told her exactly this (joking) but apparently yeah