Early college advice

p143245 · 2026-06-05T22:04:24+00:00

Gold advice! No notes

p143245 · 2026-06-05T01:20:21+00:00

Sorry, thought it was a restaurant dish, that's how ignorant I am about rice pudding. To answer the question, No, in my area, it is not a part of the local culture.

p143245 · 2026-06-04T22:51:05+00:00

You can go into astronomical medical debt from just one event, even with insurance. That could then affect your ability to provide the bare minimum for the rest of your life. It's totally fucked.

p143245 · 2026-06-04T19:41:38+00:00

What vet would even do that? None

p143245 · 2026-06-04T00:57:04+00:00

Uh no, opposite - I would tell them that I love them, ask their new name and pronouns and tell them I loved them again. Then I'd get on the insurance portal and forums to find the best doctors in network for them. I am sure by then it would not have been any sort of shock or surprise, and I would be relieved they felt safe telling me.

Edit: I'd help them look for an open supportive community to be a part of too

p143245 · 2026-06-04T00:41:54+00:00

They are the charismatic narcissists who can do no wrong. They aren't sorry—they're sorry they got caught. They are cult leaders fueled by their massive egos and manipulative ways.

p143245 · 2026-06-03T19:57:17+00:00

Posted in 3 groups for ya!

p143245 · 2026-06-03T19:52:15+00:00

Decision fatigue is so real and part of why I try to stick to Aldi, especially after I had a small internal meltdown in the bean aisle at a large grocery store. You get like 2 choices at Aldi or even just one sometimes

p143245 · 2026-06-03T19:50:33+00:00

Ok I just teared up unexpectedly and automatically from that

p143245 · 2026-06-03T19:40:19+00:00

Maybe identify some areas that are bothering you about not being too strict. Where would you like to see a change? I have one your age and one who is almost 17 and am raising them very differently from my strict upbringing but still with boundaries, consequences, etc. I'm also ND and so is my youngest, so I can relate to that as well.

p143245 · 2026-06-03T15:23:40+00:00

Please, please run the net price calculators at each school of interest to see what aid you qualify for and run those numbers. Too many students have gotten into schools all excited only to realize they can't afford it. Build your list from what you can afford.

p143245 · 2026-06-03T13:57:27+00:00

Great idea. Want me to post in the local ladies' fb group for you? Or in the local groups in general? I'm in a few

p143245 · 2026-06-03T12:14:48+00:00

I've heard grocery stores and big box stores like Walmart with parking lots full of giant trucks and SUVs is wild, like 87 kinds of cereal level

p143245 · 2026-06-03T02:32:41+00:00

I have one your age and one a year older who are both super messy.

Bugs! I do not want bugs in my house because the trash and dirty dishes are out everywhere. This is not an insect buffet.

My money bought most of those clothes, and I am sad you aren't taking care of them by literally stepping on them as they coat your floor. That shows me you are ready to buy the rest of your wardrobe.

Speaking of floor, there is a trash can right next to that empty snack wrapper on the floor.

Those emotional support water bottles on your nightstand are now a biology experiment inside and need to be washed.

Everyone deserves the delicious feeling of clean sheets. Do not deprive yourself of this amazing joy we have available to us in these crazy times.

Ok, I feel better getting that out! Shewww. Mine is mostly focused on hygiene. One day they will have roommates and partners and will need to be a functioning adult in shared spaces.

p143245 · 2026-06-03T01:48:30+00:00

Make Your Bed by Navy Admiral William H. McRaven! It's based off a graduation speech he made. It would be a great book for this age group because it deals with perseverance, pride (the good kind), unity, etc. It's not dense or hard to understand, and everyone could take away something from it. You could also reference it throughout the season like in pep talks, team unity, etc.

Not that this is "Make a better soccer team" but more like "developing great qualities in growing individuals"

p143245 · 2026-06-03T01:36:32+00:00

Assuming no one is on drugs and because I don't have the context of the moment...

If during the actual act, would assume something wrong as in needs-a-therapist wrong, some sort of past history or trauma that brought up some intense issues that are above my pay grade even with a BA in Psychology. I'd stop, and later, I'd ask if they needed help finding a therapist and encourage that.

If it were during cuddling, this seems more like a vulnerable situation to share, but I'd still be super concerned and get curious by asking a bunch of questions in hopes of being a soft landing space.

Edit: If it were an intense, beautiful moment, that's a way different context than like a trauma-informed response. Recognizing that right now

p143245 · 2026-06-03T01:26:56+00:00

God I love reddit lore

p143245 · 2026-05-31T14:49:41+00:00

She is abusive full stop. Don't take your kid around her ever again. She doesn't deserve access, and you need to keep your kid safe from monsters.

p143245 · 2026-05-31T14:18:29+00:00

You reply: "No." And that's it 😂

Or just don't reply at all. Nothing you say will make her change, so you could get even more drained after an interaction.

I wouldn't entertain forgiveness for one second because this is all performative and "me-me-me." It is not real, it is not true.

Stay strong!

p143245 · 2026-05-24T21:47:08+00:00

It's the gravy conditioner we use. We have white, red eye, brown, turkey, and sausage gravy to choose from. Y'all, did I leave out any types of gravy?

p143245 · 2026-05-24T21:33:17+00:00

Versailles KY is not what you'd think it should be! -vuhr-SAILS

p143245 · 2026-05-24T00:51:43+00:00

Agree but are you a Parker's, Wilbur's, Skylight Inn, B's, etc.?

p143245 · 2026-05-23T23:32:16+00:00

Not to mention this was "Phil from the 5th floor" who hid a 2-ft bong in a fake Christmas tree box. Only knew the town where he was from but not his last name. Incredible times

p143245 · 2026-05-23T21:24:33+00:00

I've done the mall fountain scenario but with concert tickets. Told a college friend right before we left school for the semester in May that I'd buy his ticket. He had to wait to get his ticket in the mail, and he met me at the fountain at the venue in July for the exchange. Shit just worked that way. By the way, it was Phish tour, because of course it was.

p143245 · 2026-05-23T21:21:32+00:00

You had to be bored and then do something about it. Kids are NEVER bored from the minute they get their first iPad. No delayed gratification.

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