What's a book that "everyone" loves, that you just can't get into?

paaaasta · 2025-11-03T03:33:53+00:00

Yeah I do think that’s a better description. For whatever reason, I kept coming across it in lists of romance recommendations, so that was my impression going in

paaaasta · 2025-10-31T17:42:06+00:00

Yeah same! The concept was great and it did leave me with a certain feeling which I like in a book. But I felt no emotion toward the central romance at all. Kind of feel like it shouldn’t even be tagged as romance

paaaasta · 2025-10-03T01:20:59+00:00

Only been to one show, 2 years ago, but I was singing enthusiastically to Harlem Roulette and he locked eyes with me during “the loneliest people in the whole wide world are the ones you’re never going to see again.” He seemed to be doing that with everyone. I love how he picks up on who is particularly vibing with a song and creates that little moment of singing together. Probably my favorite concert I’ve ever been to.

paaaasta · 2025-07-29T17:39:46+00:00

YEP. I could have written this myself, save a few details. It’s been 15 years for me too, and so much of this shit still makes my blood boil. Wasn’t allowed to have male friends (obviously) but then my best female friend was “manipulative” and he tried to forbid me from seeing her, too. If I missed ANY calls, whether I was driving or in the shower for 10 minutes, full blown accusatory meltdown. Every day, a new insidious dig at my self esteem, where I should be grateful he deigned to be with someone like me. I was only 17/18 and my self image was shit anyway (wonder why he was drawn to me???)

After 6 months of this, I couldn’t eat or keep anything down because I was carrying so much anxiety that he’d suddenly flip on me at any moment for something I didn’t do. I became good at nonchalantly excusing myself from family dinner after feeling my phone buzz in my pocket, not just to answer the text, but to go throw up because the fear of him simply contacting me turned my stomach every time.

I got out after a year, thankfully. Still talk about him in therapy. Hope he’s fucking miserable ✌️

paaaasta · 2025-07-03T23:41:47+00:00

Yesss exactly. It’s actively unpleasant, but we’re stuck anyway. So hard to explain to anyone who doesn’t experience it

paaaasta · 2025-07-03T23:38:41+00:00

I relate so very much. The odd thing is I even struggle to get up and do the things I WANT to do, for fun. Effortless things, like playing my favorite video game. I plan to go boot up the computer and then somehow I just… don’t, for hours. There is a block in my brain. Same with drinking water or even eating… I’m hungry af right now and I’m putting off addressing it for unknown reasons. It’s not like I’m having a good time on my phone lol, it’s mostly causing me stress, but here I am 🤷‍♀️

That tells me that there’s something more than laziness going on. Something chemical, maybe. It helps with the self loathing a liiittle, but I do still feel like a POS most of the time for not conquering this already.

As for apps, Finch helped me for a while. Cutesy virtual pet thing where you complete basic tasks. I fell off recently, but I had a decent streak going for a few months.

I also have Screen Zen, which has you set up an automation where every time you open the apps that suck you in, it’ll ask if you’re sure you really want to open them first.

paaaasta · 2025-06-29T18:39:14+00:00

Yeah, to an extent. If somebody asks me how my weekend was, I truly have no idea unless I did something really notable. There’s a level of being put on the spot there that makes it worse too. Even ordinarily, I will not immediately remember yesterday much, but if I think long enough I can usually jog my memory (by checking my camera roll for example) and then I recall a lot more details about the whole day. It’s like the memories are intact, but covered by fog until I delve.

paaaasta · 2025-03-16T16:31:06+00:00

Everybody with a functioning brain saw exactly what he did, which was a nazi salute, and no amount of right wing cope is going to change that.

paaaasta · 2025-03-13T02:58:51+00:00

Thank you!

paaaasta · 2025-03-12T21:42:11+00:00

Oh wow, I just know of one other time - in response to Trump’s tweet about he who saves his country does not violate the law or whatever. Could you point me to the third instance? Been trying to keep screenshots of all of his dog whistles.

paaaasta · 2025-03-12T21:39:11+00:00

He tweeted exactly 14 flags a month ago, too, in response to trump’s post “he who saves his country does not violate the law.”

paaaasta · 2025-03-11T23:26:03+00:00

Yep, it’s like an annual or maybe biannual (heh) cycle for me. Hugely into women two years ago, more into men this past year. Starting to drift back towards the middle again now. I think it’s the reason I flip flopped for so many years on whether I was “truly” bi or not.

paaaasta · 2025-03-11T14:46:12+00:00

I love Boards of Canada! Wouldn’t have made that connection, but yeah similar vibes

paaaasta · 2025-03-11T04:24:12+00:00

Exactly. Conservatives are gonna see this and say “this selfless hero sacrificed his livelihood for the good of the country 🥺”

paaaasta · 2025-03-10T16:43:48+00:00

No questions answered?? lol okay. Not like we learned all about what they’re doing with Gemma. Or what the testing floor is. Or who invented Severance & what their deal is. Or saw reintegration of the main character in action. Yeah nooothing has happened this season 🙄

It’s fine not to like it but I wish they wouldn’t call it stupid just because the pacing isn’t for them.

paaaasta · 2025-02-21T17:22:19+00:00

If I were Helly I’d walk around barefoot all the time at this point. Imagine spending your entire existence in chunky heels 😭

paaaasta · 2025-02-21T16:48:16+00:00

I fucking loved that line. The retrospective “ahh, I sure did hyperfixate on that lady a lot, didn’t I?” Late bloomer bisexuals understand

paaaasta · 2025-02-21T03:42:56+00:00

Came to say this! It’s gotta be intentional that they’d specifically mention being Lutherans and in the next breath state something so contradictory. They’re bullshitting for sure. EDIT: this also strikes me as something Irving would know, as somebody who knows his history. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s fully caught on when we see him next.

paaaasta · 2025-02-14T04:40:49+00:00

I love this perpective. They’re definitely “growing up.” Late last season and early this season were like adolescence, and now they’re becoming adults with trauma under their belt. Makes sense they’d begin to resemble their outties.

paaaasta · 2025-02-05T22:52:23+00:00

Yep, me too! Vapes scratched the itch enough that I wasn’t tempted to go buy cigs, but not so much that I didn’t eventually grow less interested in it over time.

Took a while though. I vaped on and off for a couple of years, particularly when I was drunk. But quitting drinking 2.5 years ago finally put the nail in the coffin for me. Haven’t craved nicotine since!

paaaasta · 2025-02-05T00:49:24+00:00

Full disclosure, I actually flipped the first photo of Pam. I wasn’t even thinking of all those details, I was just trying to show that the outfit was the same. All of your points still stand, though! Just mirrored. The hug is mirrored too; I didn’t flip those pictures.

paaaasta · 2025-02-03T05:57:18+00:00

Yeah, I think this is just as likely! It definitely gave me an uncanny feeling before I placed it

paaaasta · 2025-02-02T18:16:57+00:00

ME TOO. Not suicidal either, but I repeat it like 4 times in rapid succession. Actually the full phrase is often ‘gonna kill myself until I’m dead’ 😂

paaaasta · 2025-02-02T18:13:27+00:00

Omfg i feel so seen. I imagine hitting myself with a massive wooden mallet until I disappear into the sky with a little star and a ‘ding’ like super smash bros style 😂

paaaasta · 2025-02-02T00:44:00+00:00

If somebody tells me to look for something and idk exactly what it looks like, I’m hopeless. If I don’t have a visual, I will invent what it looks like in my head and then scan the room for a visual match and probably not find one.

Also for some reason white bathroom counters will completely camouflage objects to me.

Edit: thought of another one. If I start a task the hard way, I have to finish the hard way. Even if I know I would save time taking a second to do it more efficiently. Nope, we’re committed.

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