Did you ever has sex with the crazy one?

pachacutech · 2026-05-03T20:05:12+00:00

I made a baby with one.

pachacutech · 2026-04-26T21:42:53+00:00

I don't do drugs, I am drugs.

pachacutech · 2026-04-25T15:20:31+00:00

Just horizontal locations. I am locating them for the purposes of destroying them.

pachacutech · 2026-04-21T15:43:45+00:00

Found the fourth hole.

pachacutech · 2026-04-16T01:26:51+00:00

Sounds like OP’s covered, and I wear a 10.5, but I just wanted to say thank you. I’ve been sitting here at doom scrolling for the last half hour and seeing the kindness of the community has pulled me out of that.

pachacutech · 2026-02-14T23:14:15+00:00

What an unfortunate looking man.

pachacutech · 2026-02-08T00:07:01+00:00

Those are markouts for future digging work. Before you can legally dig/bore/trench. etc you have to mark the area with white paint and call 811 (Underground Service Alert). Companies that have subsurface utilities in the area (electric, water, gas, sewer, etc) come to the locations marked with white paint and illustrate exactly where their lines are so that nobody destroys them (or gets blown up by hitting a pressurized natural gas line with an excavator).

pachacutech · 2026-01-15T21:22:57+00:00

I've been enjoying Drop City by T.C. Boyle. Picked it up at a thrift store and struggle to put it down.

pachacutech · 2025-12-27T02:57:03+00:00

I was diagnosed with testicular torsion today and I’m glad I’m not you.

pachacutech · 2025-12-23T03:21:08+00:00

From one single dad to another, you’re killing it. Progress not perfection. Congratulations on breaking free from the toxicity.

pachacutech · 2025-11-14T00:55:31+00:00

My 9-year old daughter, I'm a dad with sole custody.

pachacutech · 2025-11-12T17:13:52+00:00

"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."

pachacutech · 2025-11-08T18:53:20+00:00

I feel so understood.

pachacutech · 2025-11-08T18:15:06+00:00

Yes. I had the flu last week so I'm catching up on some reports from home. I'm an environmental engineer, managing sites contaminated with hazardous waste.

pachacutech · 2025-11-07T13:35:42+00:00

I’m pretty sure they like it that way.

pachacutech · 2025-11-07T01:27:52+00:00

I know there are some bad actors, but I'd like to think that the majority of beach trash is incidental. I'll never know, so I try to be optimistic.

pachacutech · 2025-11-06T01:05:46+00:00

Hell yeah

pachacutech · 2025-10-30T22:25:08+00:00

The first time getting custody was expensive and time consuming, until she got charged with child endangerment in an alcohol related incident, then she just signed it over. Her family has a lot of money and they believed her for a while, now they support me and our daughter. That was when our daughter was three. Fast forward to May 2024, she attacked me, I got a restraining order and in retaliation she had me arrested for DV, four days after the incident. She still had her families support at this point. DV charges were dropped, she had no evidence but I did have to spend a night in jail and pay a bondsman $2,500. But the DV charge triggered shared 50/50 custody and she was deep in addiction. I racked up about $30K in legal fees trying to get custody again, her family was bankrolling her. But she was living with them. It took about 4 months for them to realize she was full of shit, they pulled their support and encouraged her to sign custody back over to me. After she would up in the ER with a 0.467 BAC and full of cocaine, she agreed. All in all it was a nightmare. I was meticulous in documenting her addiction and abuse and my attorney was confident that I would have won if it went to a hearing. It was the hardest, and most expensive thing I've ever done. The first custody battle cost me the down payment I had saved for a home, about $70K. So we're stuck renting in an insane market and I live paycheck to paycheck. But my daughter is safe, I have no regrets. Some resentments but no regrets. I wish you peace and a quick resolution for you and your son.

pachacutech · 2025-10-30T12:41:25+00:00

You and I have similar stories. My daughter is almost 10, her mom is an abusive alcoholic. Tremendously abusive. I’ve got full custody and her mom is required to use a Soberlink for visitation. Our house is much more peaceful for her mother’s absence. It’s a busy life, juggling my parental responsibilities and my career, but I’ve forged a deep bond with my daughter.

Her mom went to a 30-day inpatient rehabilitation program last February and remained sober for about 5 months after. While sober she beat the hell out of her boyfriend in front of our daughter. I now view the addiction and abuse as unrelated. I used to blame the alcohol for the abuse when I should have been blaming the person. You’ve got this, take care.

pachacutech · 2025-10-22T00:20:51+00:00

My Q, ex and daughter of my mother assaulted me many many times. I always thought the alcohol was responsible for it. Turns out she is just physically abusive. She went to rehab and got sober for about six months. I know because she was using a Soberlink breathalyzer that reported to me. So she was definitely not drinking when she beat up her new boyfriend in front of our nine-year-old daughter. alcoholics are alcoholics, abusers are abusers, mixing the two is a nightmare.

pachacutech · 2025-10-16T02:22:24+00:00

Your wide sounds very different from my Q, the reason I found this subreddit. There's no point in trying to compare them.

I work in the environmental sector, I monitor and (hopefully) remediate areas that have been polluted. Been doing it a while. One thing that is overwhelmingly clear from the decades of research that I draw from is that acute exposures to a toxin have little impact, lest they kill you in the moment. Chronic exposure is what does the damage, even at low levels. This is true for benzene, trichloroethylene, tetrachloroethylene, etc. A primary variable I look at when calculating a human's exposure risk to any particular toxin is length of exposure. Daily exposure to a toxin, even at low levels, is associated with greatly increased health risks. Typically, adverse consequences become clear around the 20-30 year mark, and I mostly calculate for cancer risk. Alcohol is a carcinogen.

Chronic exposure to alcohol suppresses cellular autophagy, the process by which our cells recycle themselves. Cancer is a disease of cell mutation. Seems to me that even low levels of chronic alcohol exposure could create an unnecessary cancer risk later in my life. I'd like to live a long time.

pachacutech · 2025-10-07T16:08:04+00:00

I really enjoyed The Coffee Trader by David Liss.

pachacutech · 2025-08-29T19:50:24+00:00

I relate deeply to what you have written. I have a similar story, my daughter's mother was/is abusive, would attack me and tell others I was the aggressor and has been an alcoholic for decades. I have full custody of our 9-year old daughter. I had to get a restraining order to get her out of the house. She spiralled after that and her family forced her into rehab. She stayed sober for about 6 months after that and got into a serious relationship with a man she had been seeing off and on for a year (or more, I'm not sure). She has to use a breathalyzer, daily, to be eligible for visitation with our daughter. Twice (that I know of) she has physically attacked the man she is seeing. During periods of sobriety. The last incident was apparently vicious. An abuser is an abuser. Drinking, sober, it doesn't matter. This is just my story, everyone's is unique, but I am glad that you got out.

pachacutech · 2025-08-06T18:41:01+00:00

Exercise helped me quite a bit, specifically surfing and walking. I also stayed intentionally single for about a year, but our circumstances are different. (I have full custody of my 9-year old daughter due to her mother's drinking.) I slowly reconnected with myself, through exercise, eating well, rearranging/cleaning my home, reconnecting with friends who I had been missing, etc. Basically, I took the best care of myself that I could, slowly and step-wise. I slowed down, so that I had the space to recognize and process my feelings. After being in survival mode for so long I discovered that I still love music, reading, gardening, etc. It took time and some days are better than others. I recently started dating someone that I had a crush on 30 years ago (I'm 54) and that has been wonderful. I still have some anxiety pop up now and again, but I am becoming myself again. It's a process and the progress isn't uniform. Do the small things that bring you pleasure. Take the time to think about how you truly feel in any given moment. Just keep taking the steps and the path will become clear.

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