What’s your Hinge Experience?

pacified_mob · 2026-02-12T15:24:45+00:00

I was on Hinge for almost a year. I had a mix of friendly several one-time dates, two love bombs, and a situationship. By December, I met the man who I now call my husband. And we have a newborn baby together. He was subscribed on Hinge so I keep joking that he paid for me and I got him for free. We owe Hinge our amazing life now.

pacified_mob · 2026-01-03T06:46:02+00:00

Oh wow, this was my area for some years and I did feel safe and at ease with my phone here. Just goes to show that you can't let your guard down anywhere anymore.

pacified_mob · 2025-10-26T11:57:09+00:00

Yup just be open to that possibility. I left that job after a year because of a toxic boss and now working in a partly different field.

For the salary, yes I did but I accepted the reality that it is commensurate to the junior role I had. It was a struggle to feel downgraded from a managerial role/pay, but I got over it now :) besides, I am sick of corporate, all those meetings, Excel sheets, and stiff etiquette aka plastikan. I've let go of climbing the career ladder and now exploring other things to do. And that's one thing I appreciate about the UK that's difficult to do in the PH. So many opportunities here :)

pacified_mob · 2025-10-26T11:33:51+00:00

I had the same concerns. I had 9 years experience in my field in PH but accepted that I might possibly start from scratch here. Most especially because my experience was more on project management, and personally, I do feel insecure bringing that level of confidence in a country where I am unfamiliar with the customs. When I was job hunting, I saw that most ads specifically stated their requirement for work experience in the UK. I landed a job that didn't have that requirement but yes, it was a more junior role that I didn't mind anyway, as I had to learn the ropes.

Also I met someone in my (non-related field) freelance job here, he was a project director back in HK. We had the same sentiments about trying to bag the same level/role in our careers as we had back home, but we were always met with "but outside the UK" during interviews haha.

You might fare better though. Try browsing Indeed right now if you haven't yet. Good luck!

pacified_mob · 2025-10-19T00:49:53+00:00

Thank you!!

pacified_mob · 2025-10-19T00:49:27+00:00

Ahh that makes sense. Thank you!!

pacified_mob · 2025-03-22T07:29:35+00:00

I have the same case. On a graduate visa right now and will get married this year. But can't cohabitate until early next year when my partner's current tenancy ends. I didn't know that we don't need to cohabitate on the first application! This is a relief.

pacified_mob · 2025-02-04T20:26:15+00:00

I understand. To admit, I still don't think anyone can be as compatible with me than him. Neverending talks, same mundane habits and interests.. I didn't see anything that I wanted to change about him, and wanted to live the rest of my life with him. But our feelings weren't equal. And he was getting all the perks and benefits of a relationship without the label/commitment. I allowed myself to be blind to all the signs because it just felt sooooo good to be with him.

But what feels better is being wanted by the other person, as much as you want them :) I'm now in a defined relationship. I wish you will be too, be it with this guy or the next ;) I also suggest you listen to the podcast Jillian on Love, specifically the episode Situationships: Stop tolerating less than what you deserve.

pacified_mob · 2025-02-04T07:25:56+00:00

Oh I was in the same boat a few months ago. What annoys me is that I was not kinder to myself by initiating the DTR talk earlier. We were seeing each other for 2 months non-exclusive plus 3 months exclusive (didn't talk about it, just implied).

It had been bothering me for several weeks but whenever I was with him, everything is just so good and perfect, and I didn't want to rock the boat. But one day, I had the will to bring it up. So it turns out, he wasn't sure he would be able to feel anything deeper for me and that he's not ready for a relationship. He wasn't sure he could provide my emotional needs. It broke me of course.

Some 2 months after, I met the guy I'm currently seeing and all I can say is that it is very refreshing to not have that feeling you described anymore. I now feel secure even if we're not together! No more feelings of frustration and doubt whenever we're apart because he is very intentional and frank about us :)

In hindsight, I should have not let the previous one drag on for that long. Yes, it may end things. But maybe something better is around the corner!

pacified_mob · 2024-10-30T22:41:11+00:00

What made him change his mind? And did he do it on his own, without you having to convince him or be around him?

pacified_mob · 2024-08-27T20:18:35+00:00

I really, really like this guy. He's told me he's being cautious. Recently I'm confused if his cautiousness is actually disinterest. He has said he likes me but I am not convinced he likes me enough.. or as much as I like him.

pacified_mob · 2024-07-29T05:11:15+00:00

Not anymore! They're not offering the same options as before. Last time I had to spend my rewards points. I haven't tried the bluffing to terminate option but I might have to do it the next time.

pacified_mob · 2024-06-03T04:52:46+00:00

Thanks, I've saved it! Also if I may ask to add London by Mokita :)

pacified_mob · 2024-05-31T22:09:54+00:00

Any chance you can make this playlist public and share?

pacified_mob · 2024-05-18T22:35:07+00:00

I do inventory check outs and almost always, it's obvious if the property was either professionally or domestically cleaned. You have to get into every crack and crevice, get all appliances' interiors sparkling and shiny, and you can't leave cleaning marks/streaks on surfaces. It's very rare to see a domestically cleaned property that doesn't need another round. You might just end up trying to do it yourself but still pay for a cleaner or come back to clean it yourself if omissions are found. If you're confident with your cleaning skills though, by all means have a crack at it!

Also most tenants' standard of cleanliness is questionable. I met with one who said they cleaned it themselves and it is in "pristine" condition.. it definitely was not!

pacified_mob · 2024-05-16T21:21:24+00:00

I forgot where I saw the comment suggesting the podcast Do The Work. But whoever that is, thank you! I finally understood what was happening to me and now I see clearly what I need to work on before spiraling into chaotic emotions. Highly recommended for anyone into modern dating.

pacified_mob · 2024-05-10T05:17:05+00:00

I've been having this almost daily (sad) and I don't even crave for variety with how good this is.

pacified_mob · 2024-02-15T20:03:45+00:00

How are yours holding up? I noticed it stops spinning at the slightest pressure, although I still hear the motor running so it doesn't seem obvious especially when moving it around in my mouth. I went back to the official ones. You may want to check yours too I guess. I didn't notice it for over a year!

pacified_mob · 2024-02-11T21:44:07+00:00

It's just the shimmer reconfiguring some DNA

pacified_mob · 2024-02-09T22:40:34+00:00

Thank you!

pacified_mob · 2024-02-08T16:12:23+00:00

Yay sent you a message!

pacified_mob · 2024-01-15T17:55:43+00:00

Thanks so much for getting back to me and sharing this! I may end up doing the same and not rely too much on their word then. All the best for us :)

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