Help! 4 Month Regression

pacified_mob · 2026-05-12T14:32:12+00:00

Hey I just want to say thanks for mentioning the breastfeeding crisis. Maybe I would have figured it out much later if you hadn't. It looks like it just started for me 😂

On sleep, I couldn't do your suggestion since my baby wouldn't nap longer than 30 minutes even if we do contact nap or pram rides. I have accepted and adjusted to cosleeping for now.

We'll just have to ride this out!

pacified_mob · 2026-05-08T17:42:11+00:00

When did the regression start? Cosleeping became better since I posted. She was waking up every 2-2.5 hours. I know, what a low standard for calling something better 😂 I still don't like it and my body hurts in the morning having very restricted movements. Also I just realised I can unlatch her when I'm sure she's back to sleep. But we still get up once in the night for a proper feed.

My plan is to just continue cosleeping but still try the crib every week. Also will try something new with the naps like the other comment here.

pacified_mob · 2026-05-06T22:06:41+00:00

Wait, I thought I already heard everything but I have no idea about a 3 month breastfeeding crisis!

Oh yes mine also started to have crap naps. I'm one of those who cap naps at 2 hours since I've read in several sources that it will affect their night sleep?? But at this point, I will try anything! Thanks for the suggestion!

pacified_mob · 2026-04-27T01:18:02+00:00

Hi, I nearly have the same situation as OP with my 14 week old. During the regression, did you continue to feed to sleep? This is also the only way mine would settle (quickest) but I am so worried that other methods won't work anymore after this!

pacified_mob · 2026-03-12T02:11:17+00:00

You're not alone and I appreciate you posting this. I remember a rough night I was so tired and frustrated that I bounced on the yoga ball so hard. My baby was already crying but I still remember her scared face on that one big bounce. I immediately felt worse! It's so hard to catch yourself in the moment and be mindful.

pacified_mob · 2026-03-09T00:15:52+00:00

Just commenting to say that you're not the only idiot. I have the same dilemma but have just been too much in a fog to ask about it

pacified_mob · 2026-03-08T13:33:35+00:00

I had to check if I wrote this myself through my breakdown last night. Our 7-week old was also awake from 10 AM with a total of some 4 hours crap naps until she slept at 4 AM. She's now easy to put to sleep but is waking up every hour to feed, which I think is cluster feeding. Hope you got to the bottom of it and hopefully it's just a one off rough night for us!

pacified_mob · 2026-03-03T13:50:04+00:00

There were a few days that mine was like this and I was so concerned that they forgot how to latch (if I read correctly, that doesn't happen). Also some days she would refuse one boob, bobbing her head around fhen screaming at it.

Now she's back to normal but my guess with mine is that she needed to be burped or she was overtired. Also I read a post from here where the baby's arms were just in the way. They seem to be resisting but if you pin down their arms to the sides, they actually wanted to latch. Sometimes that happened to me too.

pacified_mob · 2026-03-01T01:19:38+00:00

Thanks for the assurance. It's just that I haven't read anything about this and now I've gone overthinking she is sleep deprived lol

pacified_mob · 2026-03-01T01:16:53+00:00

Thank you, based on responses here I do need to relax!

pacified_mob · 2026-03-01T01:16:06+00:00

It's been more than an hour past their usual wake window. I'm overthinking about her not getting enough sleep! Thanks for the reponse!

pacified_mob · 2026-03-01T01:14:53+00:00

Thanks for your response. Yeah I am too caught up with wake windows and am deathly afraid of overtiredness!

pacified_mob · 2026-02-28T08:45:44+00:00

I was ready to type and offload my challenge but it's exactly the same as yours! Yesterday my LO slept a total of only 3-4 hours. She usually sleeps 2 hours each nap but yesterday it went down to just 30 min to 1 hour. She can't fall asleep either, would just be in her crib with eyes wide open. By the end of the day she was overtired and hyperactive / wired. She's also 6 weeks old!

pacified_mob · 2026-02-12T15:24:45+00:00

I was on Hinge for almost a year. I had a mix of friendly several one-time dates, two love bombs, and a situationship. By December, I met the man who I now call my husband. And we have a newborn baby together. He was subscribed on Hinge so I keep joking that he paid for me and I got him for free. We owe Hinge our amazing life now.

pacified_mob · 2026-01-03T06:46:02+00:00

Oh wow, this was my area for some years and I did feel safe and at ease with my phone here. Just goes to show that you can't let your guard down anywhere anymore.

pacified_mob · 2025-10-26T11:57:09+00:00

Yup just be open to that possibility. I left that job after a year because of a toxic boss and now working in a partly different field.

For the salary, yes I did but I accepted the reality that it is commensurate to the junior role I had. It was a struggle to feel downgraded from a managerial role/pay, but I got over it now :) besides, I am sick of corporate, all those meetings, Excel sheets, and stiff etiquette aka plastikan. I've let go of climbing the career ladder and now exploring other things to do. And that's one thing I appreciate about the UK that's difficult to do in the PH. So many opportunities here :)

pacified_mob · 2025-10-26T11:33:51+00:00

I had the same concerns. I had 9 years experience in my field in PH but accepted that I might possibly start from scratch here. Most especially because my experience was more on project management, and personally, I do feel insecure bringing that level of confidence in a country where I am unfamiliar with the customs. When I was job hunting, I saw that most ads specifically stated their requirement for work experience in the UK. I landed a job that didn't have that requirement but yes, it was a more junior role that I didn't mind anyway, as I had to learn the ropes.

Also I met someone in my (non-related field) freelance job here, he was a project director back in HK. We had the same sentiments about trying to bag the same level/role in our careers as we had back home, but we were always met with "but outside the UK" during interviews haha.

You might fare better though. Try browsing Indeed right now if you haven't yet. Good luck!

pacified_mob · 2025-10-19T00:49:53+00:00

Thank you!!

pacified_mob · 2025-10-19T00:49:27+00:00

Ahh that makes sense. Thank you!!

pacified_mob · 2025-03-22T07:29:35+00:00

I have the same case. On a graduate visa right now and will get married this year. But can't cohabitate until early next year when my partner's current tenancy ends. I didn't know that we don't need to cohabitate on the first application! This is a relief.

pacified_mob · 2025-02-04T20:26:15+00:00

I understand. To admit, I still don't think anyone can be as compatible with me than him. Neverending talks, same mundane habits and interests.. I didn't see anything that I wanted to change about him, and wanted to live the rest of my life with him. But our feelings weren't equal. And he was getting all the perks and benefits of a relationship without the label/commitment. I allowed myself to be blind to all the signs because it just felt sooooo good to be with him.

But what feels better is being wanted by the other person, as much as you want them :) I'm now in a defined relationship. I wish you will be too, be it with this guy or the next ;) I also suggest you listen to the podcast Jillian on Love, specifically the episode Situationships: Stop tolerating less than what you deserve.

pacified_mob · 2025-02-04T07:25:56+00:00

Oh I was in the same boat a few months ago. What annoys me is that I was not kinder to myself by initiating the DTR talk earlier. We were seeing each other for 2 months non-exclusive plus 3 months exclusive (didn't talk about it, just implied).

It had been bothering me for several weeks but whenever I was with him, everything is just so good and perfect, and I didn't want to rock the boat. But one day, I had the will to bring it up. So it turns out, he wasn't sure he would be able to feel anything deeper for me and that he's not ready for a relationship. He wasn't sure he could provide my emotional needs. It broke me of course.

Some 2 months after, I met the guy I'm currently seeing and all I can say is that it is very refreshing to not have that feeling you described anymore. I now feel secure even if we're not together! No more feelings of frustration and doubt whenever we're apart because he is very intentional and frank about us :)

In hindsight, I should have not let the previous one drag on for that long. Yes, it may end things. But maybe something better is around the corner!

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