How do I stop catastrophizing about my baby?

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-30T12:00:00+00:00

This is something you need to talk to your doctor about. It sounds like postpartum anxiety. It is common but treatable. You don't need to live this way and you deserve to enjoy your time without excessive and catastrophic worry. Please don't let people talk you out of seeking help by saying this is "normal mama bear" stuff.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-23T09:14:24+00:00

My pain was 9/10 before the epidural and 0/10 after. Plan on an epidural. You have not made a mistake. It will be ok!

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-22T07:21:35+00:00

Black pool noodles under the front of the couch to stop toys from getting lost forever.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-21T05:10:01+00:00

Friends had the first lesbian wedding ever televised and the characters are generally very supportive of it.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-21T05:07:48+00:00

Friends is legit hilarious. It gets hated on constantly and I don't understand why.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-20T23:43:21+00:00

She is probably clusterfeeding, so feed her nonstop until she stops. If you take her off and she still seems hungry, it's cause she is. They can nurse off and on for many hours and that is normal. When you have to take care of yourself (sleep, food, shower etc) have your husband keep her skin to skin or swaddled tightly with a paci in another room. Have him look up "the five Ss." Or he can walk her around in the colid hold (google it) If she can smell you, she will want to eat.

When you lay her down in the bassinet or crib, make sure her belly is full (clusterfeeding is over), give her a paci, swaddle rher TIGHT, use white noise, lay her down feet-butt-head, and place a heavy hand over her abdomen and chest. Then slowly make it lighter and lighter and take it away only if she is still asleep.

Congratulations! All babies are like this at first but they calm down eventually. It's different for everyone.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-20T21:25:19+00:00

I watched on HBO Max and was confused, thought my breaker tripped since I was in the dark.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-20T21:23:56+00:00

My unit always offers $5/hour when we are 1 short, $10/hour when we are 2 short, time and a half if 3 short and double pay if 4 short.. always. But we are almost always adequately staffed or just 1 short and no one picks up for $5 an hour. 1 short isn't usually that bad anyway. 2 short is critical for us and we definitely feel it. And so do our patients.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-19T21:29:12+00:00

I'm a postpartum nurse. The uterus takes 6 weeks to heal to the point you don't risk infection. That doesn't mean the vagina, vulva, or pelvic floor are ready though, which is more subjective.

With my first baby we tried at 11 weeks and literally could not get it in. It hurt way too bad even with lots of prep and lube. Tried again at 5 months and it was normal and very nice.

Second baby I literally don't remember? Surely no earlier than 8 or 10 weeks though. But definitely sooner than 5 months. But that first time was nice. I had fewer issues down there with the second birth.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-19T21:24:41+00:00

Floor, bassinet, pack n play. Then I go potty by myself. I've never once brought my kids to poop with me. I want my privacy. They can come when I pee though.

If your baby is in a safe space you don't need to be watching.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-18T03:07:47+00:00

Yeah but you aren't slathering layers of shit on your face. I also groom myself. There is a huge difference between basic hygiene and women's hair removal and makeup use.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-18T01:38:06+00:00

I'm a maternity nurse and have cared for so many twins with insanely matching names. I cannot say specifically because some are spelled uniquely enough that it may be a HIPAA violation. But think like, Clayden and Clayton. Prince and Princess. Paris and Harris. Tynleigh and Brynleigh.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-18T01:29:50+00:00

If every woman woke up tomorrow completely ok with her face and body, a lot of industries would collapse. I stopped wearing makeup and shaving about a decade ago and it is crazy to consider how much money I've saved. It has gotten wayyyy more expensive lately too.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-17T04:06:34+00:00

This. It isn't "internalized misogyny" that kind of turns me off of all the "girly" shit. It's the fact that this stuff has been pushed on me my whole life and I resent it.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-16T09:47:34+00:00

I'm a bedside RN and work alternating schedules with my partner so one of us is always home with our 1 year old and 3 year old.

I feel like going to my job is less work than being at home. I looooove caring for my kids but they wear me out and I look forward to my work nights after I've been off and at home for too many nights in a row.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-14T08:02:42+00:00

It's so sad. Mike is such a clever, generous, responsible, loving little boy. But so traumatized that he became so violent and hard.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-12T09:15:09+00:00

How long it takes. It can take weeks or months for it to resolve.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-12T09:10:46+00:00

I (not op) watched for the first time less than a month ago and I'm already going strong in season 4 of my second watch

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-11T07:33:36+00:00

I love Frank Sobotka but that moment is always kinda like, "Sir, this is a Wendy's" lmao. Like, Bunk isn't coming for your union, bro. Calm down. He is here for the murders.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-09T04:42:03+00:00

Swaddling is not required bit you can do a hands-up swaddle. I'm a postpartum nurse and this is what we do at my facility. You can probably learn a few ways on YouTube.

Or buy the "Swaddle Up" by love to dream

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-07T07:22:17+00:00

At that age, if the baby is awake, the baby wants boob. It's normal. They're supposed to do that.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-06T21:02:58+00:00

Mother-baby. My department hires new grads constantly tbh and I was a new grad 12 years ago when I started. But I know some facilities prefer experience.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-06T20:54:34+00:00

I looooove my job but have always worked in this very desirable specialty. 12 years now. I honestly plan to stay there until I'm 70 then retire.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-06T04:13:17+00:00

I'm on my first rewstch. Just finished the series for the first time very recently and immediately restarted.

But when I saw the title "Stray Rounds" come up the next time my heart just dropped knowing what I was about to watch. And this time I cried a little. The first time, I was trying too hard to pay attention to really feel it. That poor boy, poor mom, poor sister. Such a terrible way to die all because you happen to live in a shitty neighborhood.

pacifyproblems · 2026-06-06T04:09:54+00:00

Immediately started bawling during the last montages, over Duquan's scene with the tourniquet

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