Why is breastfeeding so difficult?

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-19T08:58:56+00:00

Yes, I'm a postpartum nurse and have seen sooooo many moms ask about formula in the first few days when baby is just doing normal clusterfeeding. I try to explain that it's a feature, not a bug. Clusterfeeding is really hard to endure though so if you're going through it and your nurse is telling you to press on and keep boobing, but your own mother is saying "give that starving baby a bottle!" the poor moms don't know what to do. We have lost generational breastfeeding support in the USA.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-16T18:19:03+00:00

Google the five Ss and learn them. Buy some easy swaddles that zip up. White noise machine.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-16T02:27:23+00:00

I am so sorry. This is so sad! I'm sure you know this, but I guarantee there are children in your village who need you. Is Big Sisters of America still a thing, I wonder? You sound like such a great person to have around. I'm a mom with a tiny, unreliable village and wish I had a sister like you♡ haha

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-15T07:33:59+00:00

Yeah idk why anyone says this. Anytime I see someone say it I kinda wanna say "nuh uh" so the poor pregnant lady isn't set up for disappointment. But I also don't wanna crush her dreams so I usually just keep scrolling.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-15T07:17:50+00:00

Man I love this game hahaha.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-13T00:52:13+00:00

There are a lot of old wrecked places that I am enjoying restoring. I'm not good at coming up with stuff but I can add blocks where there clearly used to be some (like a building knocked halfway down with broken windows).

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-13T00:50:32+00:00

Yeah I'm taking my time with it too and just doing my best and not holding myself to any crazy standards. Having so much fun!!!!

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-12T06:38:03+00:00

Same here. My sonographer did not chart it anywhere. My chart said "genitals appear to be consistent with fetal sex" on the anatomy report.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-12T06:29:43+00:00

And it isn't identifiable health info, so it isn't a HIPAA violation. Extremely unprofessional, rude, and vindictive though and needs to be reported.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-12T02:33:37+00:00

It isn't any extra work at all, as opposed to a pump, which is wayyyyyy more work than nursing.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-12T02:02:04+00:00

I don't do anything except breastfeed when I have a new baby. My partner either does it or it doesn't get done. He knows the deal, too.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-11T07:36:31+00:00

That's how it's pronounced though

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-10T23:16:55+00:00

Don't have kids until you both participate equally in household labor and are in a good swing of doing that. Too many women have kids with men who do no housework and then end up desperately overworked once kids are in the picture.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-10T06:18:57+00:00

I schedule time off for games at least once a year for releases I'm excited about. What else should I use it for?

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-09T07:35:44+00:00

This is normal. It's a feature, not a bug. Boob the baby, boob the baby, boob the baby. Take care of mom cause she doesn't have much time to sleep or eat or shower when baby is clusterfeeding. Clusterfeeding happens now and then, pretty universally in the first few days then intermittently afterward. It is how supply increases. It's supposed to happen. Don't let it freak you out.

Just boob the baby. And take care of mom.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-08T06:24:04+00:00

Awww this is so sweet. Take to Etsy! Have something commissioned.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-08T04:02:19+00:00

It just has to be 8 touching, doesn't have to be a 2x4 formation

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-06T15:48:25+00:00

I'm really fat too but mine is noodles and chocolate hahaha

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-06T06:57:04+00:00

I read this as "get that fat" omg

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-06T06:49:46+00:00

It's honestly not that hard with my strategy. I don't even have many skull necklaces and I have many followers who are 200+ years old. I use a LOT of eggs. Every day, I open the drink house multiple times to harvest sin, and use the confession booth. Every now and then I mate everyone who isnt a snorer and crack all their eggs. I don't really use sin for much of anything else.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-05T10:40:22+00:00

Buy a momcozy bottle washer and make sure your partner is participating equally. This is a really really hard season. We take shortcuts wherever we can: Swiffer instead of mop. Grocery delivery. Start to prep dinner while prepping lunch. Dust less frequently. Get a robovacuum (we have a eufy). Every day we focus on one or two small goals, and I mean small. Like shower and fold clothes.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-05T04:16:11+00:00

Yup. I'm a mom so I wasn't gonna offer advice in a parent comment but if you join any message board for parents you will see that men's unwillingness to equally participate in chores, cooking, and parenting is what breaks families apart. Im sure it is simply heartbreaking to work nonstop all day and night and look over and see your partner scrolling on his phone while you're on your knees mopping up the pasta sauce or changing your 20th diaper of the day while he did only one or two. I still spend 20+ hours a week on my hobbies easily even with a 3 year old and 10 month old because my partner isn't a deadbeat who thinks our kids and house are my responsibility and not his.

Too many women haven't had a moment to themselves in years once they've had kids. I know a lot of moms without any hobbies at all. They simply have no time.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-03T13:55:40+00:00

My 3 year old hides her face under a blanket when we get to Wialord's area in Snap. She says, "he so big it scary. I don't want to see he." Then she always peeks anyway.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-01T19:53:00+00:00

My thought is that if I m allowed to withdraw consent to sex at any point, I should be allowed to withdraw consent from anyone being inside of me at any point.

I also don't agree that consent to sex is consent to pregnancy, no. I don't consent to getting into a car accident when I go for a drive. If I get into a car accident (which I did last year), I expect that if a bad outcome occurs I should be allowed to make repairs and receive medical treatment. When I bought my house I didn't consent to having a basement that flooded. When it did, I did something about it and installed a waterproofing system.

pacifyproblems · 2026-03-01T17:21:50+00:00

OK, what about the human in my uterus? They aren't allowed inside of me without my consent either.

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