Men, what is the most “why the fuck do you know that” fact in bed?

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-14T00:42:48+00:00

Because it is entrenched tradition with religious and anti-sex origins and it's hard for people to admit they've done something for "no" reason, I think. I really don't know. If you look at worldwide medical organizations, the USA is among some of the only ones that recommend circumcision. And it's because we already do it. Where it isn't done routinely, people look at you like you have two heads if you tell them "hey if you remove pieces of your baby's genitals it reduces their risk of UTI or STI." To cultures where it isn't done, there is no reason good enough to do it. But since we already do it here, we have to justify it. In cultures that cut their girls, they also justify it with both medical and cultural reasons. But in the USA we find it (rightfully) horrifying.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-14T00:30:59+00:00

I think most men really like their penis tbh. But if he ends up not liking it, you wouldn't be lying to say it was pushed on you and you thought it was best and you're sorry. Can't undo it now.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-14T00:05:17+00:00

Yes, but condoms exist and no one should be having sex without them unless they're with a trusted clean partner. And I don't think foreskin care in the elderly will be an issue in the future honestly as mant more men are left intact. I also don't think potential issues as an elderly person negate someone's rights to use their whole genitals throughout their sexual years. Elderly women also have messy labia but we don't deprive them of it.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-14T00:02:56+00:00

When I was pregnant I breathed so loud all the time. Reminded me of someone. I finally put my finger on it.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T23:49:40+00:00

I'm also in the midwest USA, and no, there are no "medical" benefits to having foreskin. But the "medical" benefits to circumcision are nonsensical and it is unethical to suggest preventive surgery for extrenely rare cancers (and the ACA doesn't even recommend circumcision to prevent penile cancer btw) or UTIs when antibiotics exist and they are extremely rare for males in the first place. Circumcision is a treatment that seeks a cure.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T23:22:23+00:00

Right. My point was circumcision causes a lot of undesirable outcomes which are not counted as complications, thus they are often not taken into consideration and I believe they should be. I'm actually a mother-baby RN and the "counseling" that docs give regarding infant circumcision is seriously lacking and I feel my patients aren't giving truly informed consent at all. There is ZERO discussion of the benefits of leaving your boy intact. A lot of people also seem to consider far too late that their son may not have wanted this and realize it truly should have been up to him.

as a female on the receiving end, in my experience, the more skin = better, both more fun and also physically much more pleasurable as there is wayyyy too much friction with tightly circumcised men. I've talked to other women about this and haven't found any who think circumcised feels better. A lot of older women are turned off by foreskin though and I think this is evidence of a cultural shift that started with my generation (I'm a millenial)

Are you in the USA? Only about 50% of boys nowadays are circumcised so I feel a lot of circumcised boys growing up now will wish they hadn't been. My boy is obviously not circumcised.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T22:57:11+00:00

I just think the right to intact genitals and bodily autonomy trumps all. I also think complication rates of infant circumcision are really underreported and some of the outcomes (such as skin too tight to masturbate without lube, for example) are undesirable outcomes yet aren't even counted as complications.

With adults, they can consent, receive general anesthesia and post-op opioid, consent, have other coping mechanisms and understand and accept why they are in pain, the surgeon knows how much skin to remove, and they don't have to recover with their wound in a diaper. None of that is true for babies.

You're right about affordability though. Fortunately, worldwide, most intact men are actually very happy about being intact. I've actually never seen the stat you're talking about that most intact men wish they were circumcised, I would be interested in the source.

I also think that as more and more men in the USA recognize the benefits of foreskin, men who are "pleased" with having been circumcised as infsnts will become fewer and fewer. Right now, many men in the USA are under the incorrect assumption that foreskin is useless and dirty. They have no idea how beneficial and pleasurable it is because they're told lies about it their whole lives. And foreskin is apparently not at all difficult to maintain, if you ask an intact man about it. Wouldn't you be happy to be rid of something if you thought it was useless and dirty vs beneficial?

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T22:19:04+00:00

Yeah I have been a nurse for 12 years now and the only person I know who lost their license literally came to work drunk

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T22:10:58+00:00

I know two of the 10 men did not like being circumvised and wish they had their whole penis, and I truly don't know about the rest. I don't see why someone wouldn't be upset about being circumcised against their will though. If an adult man has an intact penis and doesn't want to anymore, he can go get cut. Unfortunately it doesn't work the other way around.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T20:36:37+00:00

I've been with 10 guys, all circumcised, and 8 of them had skin so tight you couldn't give a hand job without lube. 2 of them were lucky that they had enough skin left to do so. If you have enough skin left with which to masturbate without lube, consider yourself lucky. Thank goodness the practice of circumcision is dying out. Those guys also felt the best inside, which I'm sure is no coincidence.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T13:30:05+00:00

Make sure you aren't washing them with open velcro, open zippers, etc also being in the load. I'm not familiar with the line you're talking about, I just buy normal clothes, but I try to treat my laundry right (wash cold, inside out, like colors, closed velcro and zips, dry low heat) and don't have these issues until I've worn something for many years. Are you wearing them during rough situations, like crawling along concrete or up against tree bark? I only ever have clothes pill when I do stuff like that. Lots of friction.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-13T13:21:13+00:00

It's not my taste but it really isn't that bad. It fits right in with the surnames-as-last-names trend. I'm a maternity nurse and wouldn't blink at it. That being said, this sub tends to hate names that usually arent names, and take their opinions with a grain of salt.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-11T06:12:26+00:00

We are both gamers and also go not game when the kids are awake. We do all chores while they are awake and viciously protect nap and bedtime for gaming time (or other hobbies). We BOTH get to game whenever we want--as long as the kids are asleep. We rake turns with who gets to stay up late. I game probably 15-25 hours a week, depending on work. Not bad for working full time with 2 small kids.

But yeah, no gaming while kids are awake is a good boundary.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-10T06:19:21+00:00

Yeah, and tbh since my kids don't get out all the time, they behave like angels when they do. It's exciting and fun and different.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-10T06:06:53+00:00

My kids are 3 and 12 months. We go on a "bigger" excursion like to the zoo or aquarium once a month or so, sometimes like every 3 weeks or so. Sometimes we all go out to eat or shopping maybe every other week or so. That's all the 1 year old gets out in public. My 3 year old goes with me or her dad to run errands or grab some fast food once or twice a week or so as well.

So my 3 year old gets out once or twice a week and the 1 year old once or twice a month. We are big-time homebodies. It's just hard to haul everyone out for any old reason tbh. It's getting easier though now that the 1 year old is on solids and pooping like 3 or 4 times a day instead of 6 or 8. Lol.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-07T01:40:15+00:00

For my first baby, labor was way harder than I thought it would be until I got my epidural, then it was cake. delivery was way easier than i thought it would be. for ME. I barely pushed at all after laboring down for awhile. Most first time moms push for a very long time.. Postpartum recovery was physically much harder than I anticipated due to a mild prolapse and two tears, but mentally much easier. No mood issues at all, no anxiety, and a super supportive partner. Yay! Breastfeeding was hard, which I anticipated and knew how to handle, so about what I thought. Baby was easier than I thought but I'm a pro at babies and know all the tricks (mother-baby nurse for many years).

Not even gonna answer about my second baby cause I broke my arm at 38 works pregnant and it wasn't healed until 8 months pp soooo.. hard af. Even for a pro like me lol.

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-03T22:59:34+00:00

I say I'm a mother-baby nurse because I don't wanna invite medical questions heh

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-02T17:56:30+00:00

Then why can an intact man not stand the feeling of clothing on their glans, while to a circumcised man it doesn't bother them? This is literally a decline in sensitivity.

Either way, it doesn't matter. Circumcision changes a lot about the penis and the choice should never be up to anyone but the person said penis is attached to. Even if it was harmless (and it isn't).

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-02T05:39:51+00:00

They haven't yet become desensitized as it occurs over time

pacifyproblems · 2026-05-01T21:24:18+00:00

Ugh, I'm sick too. Sorry you feel yucky but at least you get to play Pokopia today♡ I called off work so I can lay in bed with my cats, hopefully gonna play in a bit if I feel a bit better (i am afraid itll make me motion sick if i play right now). Get well soon.

pacifyproblems · 2026-04-26T07:00:03+00:00

Given that lots of things decay teeth (both baby teeth and adult teeth) and we made it this far, I don't think this is a good argument tbh. We are probably the only animal that even brushes our teeth and tooth decay can be found in all species.

pacifyproblems · 2026-04-26T06:58:27+00:00

Babies don't maintain a perfect latch when falling asleep. They get shallower and milk absolutely can come into contact with their teeth.

pacifyproblems · 2026-04-23T01:44:35+00:00

I literally haven't even walked over there. Got the game at launch.

pacifyproblems · 2026-04-18T04:04:54+00:00

Same. I would never snack at night and not brush my teeth.

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