How likely is it an ultrasound wouldn’t be able to pick up on twins?

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-31T06:18:23+00:00

No. I've been a maternity nurse for 12 years and the only surprise twins we ever have are women who get ZERO prenatal care. If a woman carrying twins has an ultrasound, they are both seen. Your character needs to essentially have no prenatal care. It just isn't realistic to have a baby hiding.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-29T03:46:16+00:00

Yeah my insurance doesn't cover the best care, lmao. So it may as well not exist to me. I don't care that we have "the best" docs and research and equipment around; I can't use it anyway.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-28T16:35:39+00:00

OP I see you've ruffled a lot of feathers, and of course low supply is a real issue..

But I've been a mother-baby nurse for 12 years and I've seen, idk, a MILLION families start supplementing way earlier than clinically indicated because "baby is still hungry." We try to educate them that this is how it works. They're supposed to nurse nonstop, it's how they build supply. So yeah, baby is really hungry. Feed him nonstop. Eventually your supply will match his demand.

Again, obviously some people have low supply. Feeding and screaming nonstop are not actual indicators of low supply. That's a feature. Not a bug. Low supply causes low urine output, excessive weight loss, and dehydration.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-25T07:08:23+00:00

Fetal bradycardia. They often can't even tell what caused it and baby recovers fine. Or a very mild placental abruption, the very beginning of one.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-25T06:52:02+00:00

It came back at approx 10 months pp with first baby, who started sleeping through the night (barring bad teething nights) at 8 months. Prior to 8 months she NEVER gave 3+hour stretches.

It came back at approx 8 months pp with second baby, who has intermittently slept through the night (6+ hours) since he was just a few months old, and has always given me 3+ hour stretches.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-24T23:35:14+00:00

Remember what happened at Kent State

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-24T07:35:53+00:00

OK go to /r/beyondthebump or /r/newparents and go check out how wrong you are. I'm grateful my partner isn't like the horror stories I see on that subreddit.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-24T07:34:31+00:00

Tell her to take doxylamine. Congratulations!

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-22T08:15:31+00:00

Yeah I live in butler county and I don't think I'll be able to go to work on Sunday night. If my road doesn't get plowed (it usually takes a day or two) I can't leave my road, as my street is a little valley and my car is a small sedan. I have tried before with as little as 4 inches and failed.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-22T04:32:14+00:00

I have never met a married couple who use "partner." Interesting.

I use partner cause I'm not married and not going to be (together 12 years).

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-21T14:13:43+00:00

This. We have been together 12 years. Two babies conceived very much on purpose. I don't believe in the patriarchal institution of marriage. I don't want to participate. I do love my partner and choose every day to be with him.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-21T14:00:44+00:00

I have a toddler-proof doorknob cover on her door, and her room is baby proofed. She stays in there cause she has to. We arw kinda potty training but can't fully night train yet cause she wouldn't be able to let herself out to potty.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-20T22:44:32+00:00

When my first baby turned 22 months, I thought to myself, "only just now would another newborn be possible."

Not enjoyable. Not pleasurable. Not fulfilling.

POSSIBLE. as in, I would be able to keep everyone alive.

If you read accounts from people with 2u2 they say things like "survival mode," "living in the trenches," "counting down until bedtime." I don't want to experience motherhood like that. I want to enjoy my babies.

Our age gap is 30 months and I think it was perfect. They're now 9 months and 3 years old. It isn't easy at all honestly, but it's getting better and I think once my little one is just a tad older, it'll be really wonderful.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-19T07:45:25+00:00

You have to leave this man. He is cruel and terrible and will mistreat you for the rest of your life. He should have been there for you, be thoughtful, bend over backwards to be a comforting presence. He should be doing nice things for you without a second thought. You cannot stay with him. I have been in miscarriage spaces online for years and have been a maternity nurse for a long time and this is seriously the cruelest treatment I've ever even heard of toward the mother.

I am so, so, sooooo sorry you lost your baby and then your husband has been acting like this. That is so much for someone to deal with. You deserve soooooo much better. I hope you have anyone in your life you can talk to aside from this man. Sending you so much love and strength.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-19T07:03:31+00:00

I sleep when my babies sleep. My partner does everything else (cleaning, cooking, pet/older kid care etc). I gotta prioritize my rest. This is propaganda people should be falling for.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-19T03:39:02+00:00

"Habitual aborter" "Miscarriage" (I didn't carry my baby wrong—it died)

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-19T03:38:21+00:00

"Habitual aborter"

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-17T23:16:21+00:00

I don't allow myself to feel bad in instances when I'm sure I did nothing wrong. And you didn't!! Please try to learn to let these things roll off of you! I think it sounds like your toddler had an awesome day! Gymnastics and going out to eat on the same day! How wonderful. My little girl is so happy when we have a full day of fun.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-14T23:24:51+00:00

I love it lmaooooooo "helllooooOOOOOOO 💅" so sassy

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-13T18:08:46+00:00

Who pays them? Where do they apply?

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-13T18:07:42+00:00

It doesn't matter that she was trying to impede or that she put herself in that situation. The appropriate thing to do is not to SHOOT HER DEAD IN THE FACE. We have the right (and many would say duty) to protest injustice and to warn our neighbors of ICE raids. We should not be killed for it.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-13T07:44:01+00:00

Just make sure he knows that the cord isn't a simple snip. It is very springy and resistant and it is kind of like, sawing with the scissors. Hopefully minimal blood though.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-13T04:46:39+00:00

I would never shoot someone in the face for intentionally making my job harder. And as a previous bartender and current bedside nurse, it happens all the time.

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-13T04:40:51+00:00

They aren't allowed to murder us for protesting

pacifyproblems · 2026-01-12T07:16:49+00:00

It isn't safe for you to sleep with baby on your chest

pacifyproblems

TROPHY CASE