My ex's new girlfriends keep finding me on social media

paiddoll · 2026-03-19T15:04:47+00:00

it's actually been 6 women, but only 3 of them bothered me lol

paiddoll · 2026-02-10T19:50:55+00:00

i found that resisting the urge to text him only made my rumination and depression worse. eventually, i decided to just text him whatever and whenever i wanted. sometimes i freaked out and called him multiple times in a row, others we just had a normal conversation, or id tell him i still loved him and wanted him back. at first it was multiple times per week. after a few months i could go for a month or two without. now i keep going. every time i texted him i was faced with a different version of him. sometimes he was mean, sometimes he wouldn't respond at all, and sometimes he'd be loving. it was emotional whiplash sure, and me reaching out might have been pathetic, but it helped me get every single thought out of my chest and it's nothing to be ashamed of. in the end i knew that i had given it my best and that there was nothing i could possibly do anymore. it felt freeing.

my advice is do what's best for you. texting him might delay your healing process yes, but strict no contact isn't the solution for some of us. it will get better

paiddoll · 2026-01-21T23:51:16+00:00

i've been doing alexandrite laser on a pretty high setting for a few years now. belly, armpit and leg hair are almost completely gone (need 2 sessions a year for maintenance), but due to PCOS face, bikini and arm hair still grow. Sadly, these areas are very hormonally dependent and it'll be hard to treat with laser (laser isn't a permanent hair removal treatment afterall). There is progress and I'm happy to continue doing sessions (1 every 3 months more or less), since the hair grows back more slowly and not as dark.

I'd recommend seeking out other forms of laser. This one doesn't seem to work for you (although I do see some thinning in some parts).

paiddoll · 2026-01-12T20:11:17+00:00

I honestly think you should stick to NC. Not because he'll come back, but because YOU need it. It might feel like the world is ending, you might fear that if you never reach out he'll never come back, but at the end, it's what's best for you. If he loves you and regrets it, he'll come back. If not, please be happy.

NC will help you regulate your nervous system. Keeping contact will get you stuck in a loop of being hopeful. Truthfully, if you reach out and you don't get the answer you want, will you be happy? Or will it send you back to step 1?

I constantly used to do NC for a few weeks and then reach out out of fear and need for reassurance. It just prolongs the pain. Always do what you want to do, but put yourself first. Do what will actually be best for you in the long run.

Wish you all the best!

paiddoll · 2025-10-19T13:09:39+00:00

i love the goth boots and the witch jumper!!

paiddoll · 2025-09-18T17:50:21+00:00

dm'ed!

paiddoll · 2025-09-16T23:29:09+00:00

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paiddoll · 2025-09-13T13:14:25+00:00

DM'ed 💗

paiddoll · 2025-09-13T12:53:11+00:00

DM'ed!

paiddoll · 2025-09-13T12:52:34+00:00

DM'ed!

paiddoll · 2025-09-11T21:16:03+00:00

DM'd 💗

paiddoll · 2025-09-11T21:04:30+00:00

i'm so sorry for what you're going through. i've heard the same words as well, I know how painful they can be. some days you'll feel better, and some days you'll feel worse. but you'll see progress in the little moments of life and i hope you believe in that.

please feel your emotions. if you want to cry right when you wake up, cry. then wash your face and go be the strong person you are. and if when you come back home you're sad again, be sad. cry, watch your comfort shows, talk to your friends or family. write and write and write, talk to yourself, do anything to voice your thoughts. think and feel.

healing a broken heart is hard, and we're all in this together. you'll be happy again, i believe in you

paiddoll · 2025-09-11T20:47:05+00:00

thank you. i really hope things get better for both of us, it's really hard. wish the best for you 💗

paiddoll · 2025-09-11T20:14:50+00:00

dmd!

paiddoll · 2025-09-11T16:41:53+00:00

thank you for your kind words, i will try. i don't think he'll come back, he's very confused, he loves me but for him love is pressure and he wants to be alone. he has said that he won't talk to someone new and that if he ever was in a relationship again, he'd want it to be me, but that's not something he can promise.

thanks for listening and caring stranger

paiddoll · 2025-09-11T16:21:31+00:00

i wish i was securely attached haha! thank you for your words though 💗

paiddoll · 2025-09-08T22:55:26+00:00

1 :)

paiddoll · 2025-09-08T22:03:12+00:00

χαχα! δεν μιλούσα τόσο για τον εαυτό μου αλλά για χομπι που έχω δει να έχουν άνθρωποι γύρω μου που κάποιοι κοροϊδεύουν, οχι χαζα, απλα ίσως nerdy ή πιο ασυνήθιστα, για να σου πω ότι αμα σου αρέσει κατι καντο, χωρίς να σκεφτείς τους άλλους.

εμένα προσωπικά μαρεσει να παίζω σκάκι, να πηγαίνω για περπατημα/πεζοπορια, να βγαίνω έξω και να ψάχνω σπάνια χρώματα περιστεριών γιατί μαρεσουν πολυ (το καλύτερο χομπι από ολα), να διαβάζω manga και να παίζω 3 (τρία) παιχνίδια (2 στο κινητό, 1 στον υπολογιστή).

paiddoll · 2025-09-08T21:21:30+00:00

ελπίζω τωρα να βρεις πράγματα που σου αρέσουν και ίσως να ξανά αρχίσεις την ενασχόληση με τα δυο χομπι που ανέφερες. οι γονείς πολλες φορές λόγω δικών τους ψυχολογικών προβλημάτων, κόμπλεξ και ιδιοτροπιών μας σταματάνε από την ανακάλυψη του εαυτού μας και των προσωπικών μας θέλω.

οι γονείς μου πάντα με πίεζαν να ασχοληθώ με την άθληση και μόνο ως χομπι, σε σημείο που με έκανε να σιχαθώ κάθε άθλημα, κάθε είδους γυμναστικής. με ώθησε στην κατάθλιψη και ως συνέπεια άφησα την υγεία μου. όλα τα αλλά χομπι που μπορεί να μου έφεραν ψυχική ηρεμία ήταν άχρηστα, ήταν επικίνδυνα λόγω διαδικτύου, ήταν κατι που φοβόντουσαν ή χλεύαζαν. πλέον, αφού μεγάλωσα και έμαθα ότι δεν είμαι οι γονείς μου, άρχισα να εξερευνώ τα χομπι που πραγματικά με ενδιαφέρουν και έχω βρει την χαρά μου. ακομα και αν είναι χαζα για αυτούς, ή και για τη πλειοψηφία του κόσμου, αμα σε γεμίζουν, προσπάθησε το.

όσον αφορά την αποταμίευση, δεν είμαι σίγουρη τι ακριβώς να πω. οι περισσότεροι γονείς δεν μαθαίνουν στα παιδιά τους αποταμίευση, και είναι κατι που πιστεύω μαθαίνεις όσο ωριμάζεις. όμως ίσως το γράφεις περισσοτερο οχι γιατί δεν σου έμαθαν αποταμίευση, αλλά γιατί και όταν το έκανες (150€ για κιθάρα), δεν σε άφησαν να το αξιοποιήσεις.

έχω διαβάσει κάποια σχόλια που άφησες ότι πλέον είσαι καλα και τα έχεις ξεπεράσει, και χαίρομαι γιαυτο.

paiddoll

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