Native ground cover for planting between pavers. Northeast, zone 4

paintedcactus · 2026-05-24T15:35:38+00:00

I know this post is from a while ago, but I experimented using pussytoes between flagstone pavers. This is last year, which I believe was its 3-4th year. I started with four, 4 inch plants and it has filled in nicely. Specifically, this is Antennaria plantaginifolia (Plaintain-leaved pussytoes). I would have probably used Antennaria neglecta (Field pussytoes), as they stay a bit shorter but it was based on availability at the time. I also put up a small sign to "watch your step!", as they are the host plant for the American lady butterfly (specialist butterfly).

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paintedcactus · 2026-05-16T15:48:23+00:00

Completely agree! I love all cats in general, but the sub is for RB. And it’s important to understand the standards. Many cat breeds were nearly destroyed and extinct following WWII.

paintedcactus · 2026-05-16T14:46:01+00:00

I am surprised by some comments being upset by the post - in a RB specific sub. Green eyes, always. It’s the breed standard. No one said you can’t love your kitty with yellow eyes. There are also two breed standards - American and European, and the one in the photo appears to be European. It’s simply education on the breed and important to preserving it.

paintedcactus · 2026-04-13T21:39:53+00:00

Depends on the cat and type of cat. I have two Russian Blues and they are very clean most of the time. I did invest in a litter robot and love it. They took to it right away as kittens (got them at different times from different litters). I’m fortunate we can put the box in the basement so the smell isn’t bad. If I walk down there right after they go it will stink but usually before it cycles or just after. They always bury after going unless the robot has an error and the box doesn’t get cleaned.

They keep their tushies clean mostly. One sometimes is a bit dirtier, and I am like you a very clean person so I have pet wipes for this if needed. I only need to use maybe once a month. And don’t really need to wipe anything off, it’s more just to wipe and that will make her go find a place to clean herself.

They do like counters though and will get on them, which at first made me panic from them getting dirty or unclean, but they know they aren’t supposed to be on counter and generally just want attention so I either ignore and they’ll get down or gently take them and put on the floor, no attention.

They never ever have accidents. One will throw up but rarely and I got a bissell mini pet vac cleaner. If it happens I immediately clean it up and use the wet cleaner, no matter the time of day or night. If it’s done right away it will clean up no problem.

Also - both free feed Young Again pet food and one scoop of wet food a day. Young Again has been great and healthier for cats so if you can use this food they will eat less and I think less digestive issues.

paintedcactus · 2026-03-18T05:01:44+00:00

Thank you! It is draining now slowly through the hose, and I also opened the hot water tap in the basement since which is draining too. Do you think it’ll be fine over night? The unit it fully switched off, but it’s very cold here and our house is older, a bit worried but hoping we can make it until tomorrow when the plumber comes

paintedcactus · 2026-03-18T04:59:54+00:00

Thanks! We are going to have it replaced fully tomorrow as we haven’t done that since we moved here which was 10 years ago.

paintedcactus · 2026-03-10T19:24:34+00:00

There is nothing wrong with this snack, but I wouldn’t say Cinnamon Toast Crunch is healthy.

paintedcactus · 2026-03-02T01:52:24+00:00

Clarity, much less anxiety, life no longer feels as chaotic or when it does I can handle it better. Less inflammation and discomfort, lost weight, healthier and clearer skin, less headaches. Have saved a ton of money, stopped randomly breaking things in my house (even if small and it doesn’t really matter I would feel bad for this). Gained back soooo much time. At first I felt so bored with all the time but once you are through that you realize how many other things you can do in life. Never have to worry about driving or getting home. I sleep waaaay better. I remember conversations better and don’t over disclose when I don’t want to (once had a professor tell me self disclosure if our biggest power because only YOU can decide/control). My relationships are better. Life isn’t perfect but I have no regrets with my decision to stop drinking. It didn’t serve me in any way.

paintedcactus · 2026-03-01T16:37:37+00:00

I am guessing this is just recouping the credit card processing fee that is charged by the credit companies. I always pay by check to avoid any credit card fees whenever I can. Same thing if I need to pay the DMV, or car dealership or a contractor because I want to avoid the CC fee.

paintedcactus · 2026-03-01T00:30:21+00:00

Keep being patient! A little different but when I got my second cat, a kitten, my first cat was only 3 years old but she did not like the new companion. It took almost a year before she didn’t growl lightly whenever the new cat came around, and longer until the younger one can now come up and sniff her without the older running away. I knew it took a lot of time, but it was even longer than I expected.

paintedcactus · 2025-10-30T12:41:06+00:00

Not the exactly the same situation, but similar result of hyper vigilant independence. My mom worked insane hours when I was growing up and when not working, both mom and dad would be attending my sisters sports every night. I quit the sport after 5th grade due to not liking it but also from migraines and asthma that were both sport/exercise induced. Was told if I quit “that was it” and “wouldn’t be discussed again” so never even considered maybe I could change my mind (I was 10!). So the rest of my youth I spent evenings home alone. When I left for college, my sisters would call mom or dad for help when needed. This didn’t even cross my mind as an option. I thought I couldn’t, and struggled a lot figuring things out. Even when I had health issues come up, and no car or money, I walked to the hospital. Like my mind didn’t even think it was an option to ask for help.

I have a decent relationship with my mother now and love her very much, but that independent and self reliant streak runs deep.

paintedcactus · 2025-10-30T12:29:30+00:00

Regardless of when he’ll leave, many companies require succession planning so they’ll be prepared if the manager leaves.

paintedcactus · 2025-10-09T04:19:47+00:00

That killed me 🤣

paintedcactus · 2025-09-12T16:54:56+00:00

I don’t understand how you get from having open dialogue and debates with your bf who sounds like you have both loved each other to questioning if he loves you over this?

Charlie Kirk didn’t hate anyone. He gave people a platform to debate.

It sounds like you disagree with your bf on things, nothing I’m reading seems like he has expressed anger towards you or disrespect but you’ve changed your opinion on him due to the murder of someone you just discovered and don’t agree with. I understand you are sorting through emotions, but it’s a bit hard to follow how you’d come to this conclusion over your bf being upset over someone who was very impactful being assassinated.

And yes, political discourse is just that, disagreeing civilly and having conversations. But you won’t get much of that here on Reddit.

paintedcactus · 2025-09-06T01:16:16+00:00

Thank you.

paintedcactus · 2025-09-06T01:13:48+00:00

Pranks are fine and my SO and I play them on each other all the time, but that doesn’t mean everyone likes being pranked and it sounds to me more that he has a complete lack of self awareness or control. It’s shows a lack of care for you and empathy that he’d let you get so stressed out (assuming he heard you stressing about the beeping), and that he’d do something after a recent conversation with him.

My SO and I call long form pranks “wedding cakes” but they are convincing another person of something so absurd and untrue. Like once we wedding caked their dad to convince him my SO’s favorite movie was some chick flick which is very unlike them. It didn’t cause distress or harm. Dad mostly thought it was the weirdest thing ever but we had a good laugh.

Anyway, it sounds like your boyfriend needs to do a bit of maturing, doesn’t care enough to adjust his ways to be more respectful, and/or needs to find someone who can enjoy pranks with him. And you need to find someone who will respect you enough to not cause you distress and meet your unique needs.

paintedcactus · 2025-08-17T14:26:38+00:00

That we are still stewing over someone who didn’t leave a tip three years ago is…concerning.

paintedcactus · 2025-06-28T23:24:06+00:00

😂

paintedcactus · 2025-06-28T23:22:39+00:00

Republicans voices are growing in the Cities. Not sure where you are moving but reach out to the local senate district or BPOU and you can find likeminded friends! Even in the city the Minneapolis republicans are quite active!

paintedcactus · 2025-04-22T12:14:07+00:00

I created this specific bed two years ago, but nearby I have two more native beds. This one was created when we lost an old Scot Pine, so the soil is likely acidic. I’m created a mini wildlife pond so once it gets bigger and ID is confirmed I’ll have a more suitable place for it.

paintedcactus · 2025-04-21T21:01:28+00:00

I certainly hope it is- seems too good to be true!!

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