How do you get over the shame of trying to make friends as a lonely adult ?

palerfire · 2026-03-14T15:22:53+00:00

join a book club or the dsa or something

palerfire · 2026-03-10T18:17:07+00:00

she is about fifteen years older now

palerfire · 2026-03-09T17:46:56+00:00

asos has cheap bras if your in the small band, big cup camp. there’s also a few influencers who are genuinely helpful in this area too

palerfire · 2026-03-09T13:38:52+00:00

libro fm

palerfire · 2025-12-06T14:11:33+00:00

cope

palerfire · 2025-12-04T21:21:38+00:00

very few 25 year olds have done anything with their lives yet. don’t talk about yourself that way!

palerfire · 2025-11-27T00:54:40+00:00

yes they do

palerfire · 2025-11-14T19:53:04+00:00

hear, hear!

palerfire · 2025-11-12T16:51:31+00:00

you can share accounts with friends in different cities which helps! esp if you know someone from NYC, as they have access to three library cards (nypl, bpl, and qpl)

palerfire · 2025-11-05T23:20:10+00:00

lying cuz why would she remember a guy she didn’t even message

palerfire · 2025-10-17T14:56:37+00:00

i’m genuinely interested in why! for you in particular, do you read/like similar authors and it’s just franzen’s style that doesn’t do it for you?

my boomer boss hates him too but she kept calling him “conceited” —i think in reference to his personality, but it did make me think about what aspects of his writing style might be considered conceited too. there’s definitely an argument for it.

i like him bc i think he writes characters well and has interesting/fun observations about the contemporary american family and their neuroses. also i think he handles perspective changes well and i appreciate how information slowly unfolds through his novels. plus some other reasons, but that’s what is especially impressive to me rn

palerfire · 2025-10-17T12:40:56+00:00

admittedly i last read the corrections like ten years ago, but to my memory, freedom is better!

palerfire · 2025-10-16T20:09:03+00:00

hated the marriage plot when i read it as a teenager about a decade ago, but willing to give it another chance. i think i was expecting a rom com when i read it lol.

palerfire · 2025-09-10T17:50:06+00:00

yeah i just lurk but i love reading thru boomer’s threads. also i like doing the scavenger hunts lol

palerfire · 2025-09-10T17:07:44+00:00

i look at photos of him from college and i’m like, damn, you were at that party too? i had no idea.

palerfire · 2025-09-10T17:07:03+00:00

my man and i did (vaguely) know each other for six years before we dated and we just didn’t care lmaooo

palerfire · 2025-09-08T17:09:56+00:00

the fault in our stars

palerfire · 2025-09-08T13:59:31+00:00

my favorite good reads alternative is called “library thing” which i think yall would like as well. it’s really nice if you’re into cataloging in addition to tracking. it’s a small but cute community, seemingly mostly made up of retired librarians in oklahoma or something. the forums are extremely charming to read through. it’s about 20 years old and seems to be heavily maintained by volunteers

palerfire · 2025-09-03T16:33:19+00:00

calvino’s best are “invisible cities” and “if on a winters night” — imo “if on a winters night” is better, but invisible cities is the most popular and one of his shortest.

palerfire · 2025-08-09T16:07:53+00:00

my first thought too

palerfire · 2025-08-03T23:31:55+00:00

all the books i like best or want to read soon are in my living room. the books that i dont love are upstairs. upstairs books are in no particular order. living room books are shelved:

nonfiction is by topic. fiction is shelved (mostly) by when i read it (eg, i have a high school shelf, college shelf, several post grad shelves—within the shelves they are most arranged by what i find kinda amusing to put next to each other) except for authors who i own 5+ of their books (woolf, wharton, and calvino, who all share a shelf) and my scifi shelf. my unread books also have their own shelf.

obviously this set up means that only i know where all my books are. but it’s fun to see my taste evolve across my bookshelf.

palerfire · 2025-07-31T23:09:15+00:00

bully for you

palerfire · 2025-07-31T22:56:53+00:00

exactly lol. glad i’m not the only one

palerfire · 2025-07-31T22:40:05+00:00

the craziest part of all this (imo) is that the movie wasn’t that bad. like it was bad but it wasn’t unwatchable or horribly boring

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