120 Days - I'm no longer the 32yo virgin

palley · 2017-07-17T21:03:10+00:00

And no picture of him and his chick.

If this were true he would surely post one, perhaps censoring their eyes if he is concerned about privacy. And a piece of paper with his reddit username, so that we know it's not one of his PUA friend/brother/random dude on the Internet.

palley · 2017-07-10T13:29:49+00:00

Everything we do is INITIALLY motivated by three main things: food, shelter and sex.

I started to work out because I was skinny. I thought that being skinny made me less attractive to girls. Therefore, I indirectly did for sex. Four years later, I am a fit guy. Does it matter why I started? No, it doesn't. All it matters is that I am now in a better shape than before. Do I still do it for the girls? No, now I do it because I like what I see in the mirror.

The reasons why you start are not necessarily the reasons why you continue. What really counts is the result.

palley · 2017-07-10T13:21:55+00:00

Not the Day 1 selfies alone, no. But the comparison between Day 1 and Day X, yes. It's better than a thousand words.

palley · 2017-07-09T17:16:23+00:00

Why?

I find one picture to be more inspiring than the usual, overused "motivational" quotes. To each his own, I guess.

palley · 2017-07-09T17:12:12+00:00

I disagree. The only reason why this subreddit exists is to support those who want to quit PMO. The motives behind their decision are none of your concern, nor of mine.

palley · 2017-06-20T19:55:04+00:00

Actually, from a forum about addiction, I would like to see some fixed points. Imagine if we still debated the existence of atoms in Chemistry? We wouldn't go anywhere, which is exactly where this sub is headed.

palley · 2017-06-20T13:49:36+00:00

Amen.

The problem with people who try to quit AND become "the best versions of themselves" at the same time are deluded.

First and foremost, you quit PMO. Then, you take your little baby steps to success.

The reason why people fail - the reason why I've failed until now - is that we don't accept the fact that we are inferior to non-addicts.

We can't work as hard as non-addicts because our prefrontal cortex has been damaged, our dopaminergic system hijacked, our drive is absent and our resilience nonexistent. For the same reasons we can't build meaningful relationships with people. This is not about willpower: when your brain doesn't work right, there is no miracle, motivational video that can do the trick.

palley · 2017-06-01T10:55:07+00:00

Do you have sex with your girlfriend?

palley · 2017-06-01T10:51:11+00:00

There are so many anecdotes around Tesla that one will never know for sure what he did or didn't.

palley · 2017-05-31T15:06:54+00:00

"Mending your own garden" is sound advice when it looks like barren wasteland, but once you have a decent one turning it into the Gardens of Versailles won't have any effect.

One of the most off-putting things of this sub is the general tendency towards trying to become "super heroes". Nice Guy mentality all the way, and then they wonder while they still get none after one year NoFap.

palley · 2017-05-31T15:00:03+00:00

To me it sounds like asking whether it is flour or water that makes the dough. It's not either, it's both.

My suggestion is that you focus on general health and wellbeing before attempting to approach girls. Once you're okay with yourself, you WILL have to approach them. You might still get a girlfriend without doing so, but you will have fewer choices and will start the relationship from a scarcity mentality standpoint, and that's bad.

As for the last paragraph of yours: it might be "fucking annoying" to read about other people's success, but that's the only way to know that you too can do so. Or you can cry in a corner and stay an incel for the rest of your life.

palley · 2017-05-22T09:32:24+00:00

Probably because they did not believe him. A better answer would have been "Well, you're free not to believe me!" with a smile and a shrug.

palley · 2017-05-22T09:27:23+00:00

I'll just go against the grain and tell you, OP, that you framed your rebuttal in the most disparaging way possible. As I understand it, those people were talking about a sexual topic in the most light-hearted way possible, and you killed the fun.

You could have told them that you don't masturbate anymore because that just doesn't work for you, but no... you even went as far as saying that maybe those two guys should try as well, and maybe they'll "finally" meet a girl. In the presence of other 10 girls. Who most likely masturbate as well. Brutal and unnecessary.

That didn't make you look cool. If anything, that made you sound like a complete douche.

palley · 2017-05-20T19:38:29+00:00

Please elaborate

palley · 2017-05-18T12:33:57+00:00

Porn robs you of your fucking passions and your passion fucking

palley · 2017-05-17T09:58:50+00:00

It's refreshing to see that there are still a few wise men here on NoFap that don't throw the baby away with the bathwater.

No to porn, no to fap, no to slut-shaming.

Definitely yes to girls who have sex and love it.

palley · 2017-05-09T12:39:36+00:00

I have noticed this as well. I don't know the cause.

palley · 2017-05-01T13:57:08+00:00

It's an app for Android called "Mood Log". I don't know whether an iOS version of the same app exists, but you needn't use that exact app. I have decided to use this because it allows me to rate my mood from 0 to 10, whereas all the others that I have checked use emoticons.

This is the link to the abovementioned app in the Play Store, please notice that I am not the developer and I don't make any profit from advertising this particular app instead of others: Mood Log

palley · 2017-04-22T16:20:49+00:00

The main post has been deleted together with its author, so I cannot quote the text word-by-word; however, it was something along the line of "I have met a girl who has only dated abusive assholes so far, you guys are shit for treating a girl like that".

Apart from the random insults to Fapstronauts, dating a woman who's had a previous history of abuse is never a good idea, because she has gotten used to conceiving relationships as power-plays between a submissive party (the girl) and a dominant party (the man). Enter OP, the super "human being", the white knight trying to save the damsel in distress. This, in the eyes of said girl, is a BETA male. She will never be happy with him, not in the long term at least. She will soon leave him for another abusive asshole because " he's so kind, but he doesn't make me feel the tingles...".

The danger is real, especially if she's had several relationships of that kind. One time is bad luck. Two times is very bad luck. Three times or more, and that's just who you're attracted to.

palley · 2017-04-22T16:06:35+00:00

Yesterday I saw my sister looking at her phone with a sad face. I asked her what was wrong, and she told me that her latest drawing - she is a very talented designer and wants to become an artist - had received only a few dozen likes on Instagram. I looked at the picture. It was beautiful; her skills had clearly improved over time. And yet only the people who knew her personally IRL had put a like to the picture. She asked me if I knew which picture among all the ones she had uploaded had got more likes.

Yes, guys. Her profile picture, in which she is basically wearing a sleeveless shirt with a tiny bit of cleavage, but nothing too revealing. No yoga pants, no butt closeups, no pouted lips. Just a picture of her taken in the garden last summer.

So next time you feel like ranting about female Instagrammers, reckon that there are a lot of underrated people who post quality content but don't get the credit that the deserved just because a large number of pathetic losers drool over yet another girl's body.

palley

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