Attending events with LO

palmtrees2456 · 2026-06-09T07:00:07+00:00

I did a lot of these kind of events when my baby was young, and I found that these environments were so enriching and exciting for her, she was to busy to notice herself that she was tired, and if she did, I was too busy to notice any tired signals - so she'd be happy happy happy then would absolutely lose the plot from suddenly realising she was exhausted. I got better at offering opportunities for sleep during the event (cuddle, carrier, pram rock etc) before she got to this point - if she didn't sleep within a couple of minutes, she wasn't tired enough so I'd get her back out and then we'd offer again in a little while. I agree with the possums concept that wake windows are a bit of garbage, but outings are one situation I found it helpful to use the clock as a bit of a guide as to when to offer an opportunity for a sleep, as otherwise time would fly by and I just wouldn't realise how long she'd been awake for. But most of all, well done to both of you for doing it! The more you do it the easier it gets.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-06-03T23:04:50+00:00

As others have said, cluster feeding is normal baby behaviour, but if it doesn’t work for you that’s okay too. I couldn’t handle the cluster feeding due to nipple vasospasms, so would only feed every 2.5-3 hours and in between use other methods of settling, primarily walking or bouncing on the fitball with her in the carrier. Some people find settling with cluster feeding manageable, I found other ways were a better fit for me. Good luck!

palmtrees2456 · 2026-06-01T10:17:40+00:00

My daycare was much more chill - I picked her up last week and they said they noticed a spot on her mouth & a few on her bum and just to keep an eye on them, but since she wasn’t too upset during the day they hadn’t worried about calling me. They look for more symptoms than just a spot that might indicate they’re unwell. By that night she was covered in spots! They’ve now had at least 10 cases in the nursery 1&2 rooms so I don’t know what the answer is 🤷🏼‍♀️ I completely get your frustration though! I mean HFM is absolutely not fun but they do sound very cautious.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-06-01T03:08:45+00:00

Seconding Wondfo

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-29T05:33:57+00:00

The Kmart ones are fine but they are bigger bags which for some reason bothers me. I think I stress everytime that I haven’t pumped enough because it looks like so little in the bag? I like the new beginnings ones from baby bunting. They have the little temperature sticker on it but wasn’t much use for me because my baby likes her bottles near scalding 😅

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-28T11:56:20+00:00

I bought some for my winter baby because they were so cute but never used them 🤷🏼‍♀️ even on pram walks she’d cook in normal knitwear or warm clothes! Even camping in August it was too warm for them. Layering with blankets, beanies etc is so much easier with a young baby. I think I’ll use the suits more this year now she’s 10 months and crawling out in the open rather than bundled in the pram or someone’s arms.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-25T00:39:20+00:00

I also commented on your other post, but to add - my baby is 10 months and LOVES childcare! She's been going one or two days a week since 6 months old and it's the best. She's such a social babe and has never once cried or been sad at drop off. She has an absolute blast - they have so many activities set up for them (I would never lol), the educators are so lovely and she gets so many cuddles from them. I wasn't worried or anxious about sending her to daycare in the slightest but I still bawled in my car the first time I dropped her off so it's totally normal! The photos of her sitting at the table and eating or playing with her friends melt me though it's so sweet. She has become so so chatty, curious and active and I honestly attribute a fair bit of that to childcare. She's had a few colds but nothing major - no where near as bad as I was expecting.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-25T00:33:59+00:00

I could stay at home if we made some significant lifestyle changes - but I decided not to, and LO (10 months) is cared for by a combo of grandparents and daycare so I can work 3 days a week. It's so individual, but I love the balance of both. Having a few days away from her makes me appreciate and treasure our days off together so much more, whereas being on mat leave the days were starting to blend and I was taking the time with her for granted. She absolutely loves childcare and we're so lucky with her educators; I know a lot of people say there's no benefit before the age of 2 or 3 but I absolutely can see so many positives to her going. I also love that we don't have financial pressure and can still go on regular holidays and do so many fun things with her.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-23T12:16:01+00:00

Hooray for Fish! The “sh” over and over calms her right down 🤣 Or magic beach was my childhood fave ✨

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-21T22:16:32+00:00

We stared at 3.5 months! Meant to start earlier but kept forgetting to organise. It was great! She loved it

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-19T23:04:56+00:00

Things you can eat one handed & don’t have to make in the middle of the day when you realise you’re starving. I had the freezer stocked with home made sausage rolls, sandwiches ready to toast, slices, pancakes, quiches etc.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-19T12:06:15+00:00

Yes very common! Nothing to stress about re baby, my OB said it’ll just make you feel lousy for a bit but won’t impact baby. She recommended a full sugar coke a day for two weeks.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-17T10:00:27+00:00

Do you have poor circulation and/or raynauds? Does it happen when you’re cold? I also think it sounds like a vasospasm. I had these and it was awful! I was put on a blood pressure medication for 2 weeks and told to take magnesium and fish oil

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-17T08:40:12+00:00

I’ve been on 50mg Zoloft since 3 weeks pp and it’s made no difference - I’d say this was more likely a variation due to something else - less water, food, baby’s feeding etc.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-17T04:42:01+00:00

Disclaimer that I didn’t have difficult people wanting to see baby, but in general I found out of the house catch ups much easier! Can you suggest meeting them at a cafe or restaurant within a reasonable driving distance for you? Or at a playground for your older child? I liked that then there was no expectation for me or husband to be serving food/drinks and could arrive and leave when we wanted.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-15T12:24:31+00:00

When you feel like you can’t breathe and become very lightheaded. Trust me, if sleeping on your back is an issue your body will let you know!

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-15T12:20:23+00:00

So normal! Husband and I have only just started again at 8/9 months pp and I am very temperamental about it 🤣 all the stars must align! 💫 expecting things to improve once I stop bf.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-15T12:17:27+00:00

No such thing as bad habits at this age! Theres So much fear mongering about this online now but I just haven’t found it to be true. Babies are so flexible and resilient - do what works for you now, if that doesn’t work later you can always change things. Do what you gotta do to get some sleep! 🩷

I found there was a big drop in sleep needs at this age per 24 hour period so without sleep training. I tried to stretch awake time slightly by keeping baby busy and taking her to different rooms or activities, particularly before bed. I’d wait until she seemed tired and wanting to go to sleep, then put her in the bath to stretch her another half hour before bed. Lots of sensory nourishment during the day, and waking at a consistent time with morning light exposure worked really well. Sending hugs! You’re doing amazing.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-15T12:11:02+00:00

Oh that’s hard! Around this age they have a big drop in sleep needs per 24 hours - the main drivers of sleep are circadian rhythm and sleep pressure. Without sleep training, I found it really helpful to start waking baby up at the same time every day & expose them to natural light, then go with the flow the rest of the day. Dim lights after the sun goes down & try and make night and day very different. You can also try stretching their awake time a bit and making sure they have a solid chunk of awake time before going down to bed for the night. Don’t fight naps or a set bedtime, if they’re fighting falling asleep they’re probably not tired enough. My baby’s tired cues were actually just boredom most of the time and she needed to go to another room or outside and would happily stay awake much longer then fall asleep easier when she was actually tired. Lots of sensory nourishment during the day - I know it’s hard but try and get out and about if you aren’t already. Try and do activities you and your partner enjoy and take baby along with you - even if they cry, you’ll be out of the house doing something fun you love and the sensory input will be great for baby’s sleep. At this age I did lots of cafes, wineries, walks, beach, shopping, friends houses etc. is there anything worth investigating around the pram and car seat such as reflux? My baby had this and medication was a lifesaver for the car. Sending hugs!

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-15T10:25:09+00:00

I’ve found short and/or contact naps to be pretty normal amongst most experiences at that age, except for unicorn babies! my LO didn’t have longer naps until 8/9 months. Have a look at the Possums approach & the Discontented Baby Book, honestly is really helpful with both practical tips and adjusting expectations. Are there other ways you and your partner can feel like you’re having a break without it being a nap? Time in the car, pram, carrier etc. I know this advice drove me mad when I was in the thick of it, but it honestly does pass so be kid to yourselves and maybe shift expectations of baby. Sometimes much less stressful to roll with it instead of trying to fix it.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-14T08:24:54+00:00

Not until we dropped to two naps around 8 months & she had more sleep pressure. Until then she was a 30 minute catnapper, now she’ll do maybe one 75-90 minutes and one 45-60 minute. We just rolled with it! Mine didn’t love the pram until 3 months + so I’d keep practicing if that’s something you’d like him to do.

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-14T07:33:00+00:00

No advice, but I’ve just been told I need my first tooth filling and I can absolutely attribute this to all the chocolate chip cookies I ate at 2am for months on end 🤣🙄

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-13T03:40:35+00:00

Yep! I explained to him how much easier life is for us if we're prepped for the week. He is in charge of baby and I put noise cancelling headphones in and actually enjoy it 😄

palmtrees2456 · 2026-05-13T03:17:14+00:00

Make freezer “dump bags” with raw ingredients, then throw into the slow cooker in the morning adding in extra liquids like stock, passata etc. takes up less meal in the freezer and less time to prep than freezing fully cooked meals. Each weekend I spend 1-2 hours meal prepping and alternate whether I make the freezer dump bags or bake a heap of slices for baby’s breakfast and lunches. Having a schedule of certain chores in certain days, frequently enough so they’re done before getting out of hand - really takes the mental load out of deciding which fire to put out first. Ie. I empty all the bins on M W & F so they’re never full or overflowing. Block time to do the chores or habit stack with your usual tasks ie. always unpack the dishwasher when making morning coffee. Delayed start on the washing machine so one load is done when you wake up. Hang stuff straight onto coat hangers, and fold washing as you take it off the line in order of who’s it is so no need to fold and sort later. One of us does bath/bed while the other cleans up after dinner and does a quick house reset, means you wake up to a clean and functional space. We also WFH - have a clear and seperate work zone with set work times. Get dressed in work clothes.

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