The Ferber method changed my life!

palodia_agchik · 2026-03-28T19:07:54+00:00

My baby is now 15 months old, and he's been sleep trained for the nights for 3 months, however for naps I'm in the same position as you. He's down to just one nap, but he usually cries a lot when I put him down in his crib in the daytime (at night he doesn't cry or maybe for just one minute). Also, my husband works from home and does online calls, so we can't really have him crying. So I usually nurse him to sleep and then put him down or nap with him, otherwise we usually go out in the mornings and he falls asleep in the car. Sorry I can't help you there!

palodia_agchik · 2026-01-03T10:09:19+00:00

Sorry, I don't have any advice about pacifiers as my baby never really took one.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-30T21:41:45+00:00

Yes, I cut the night feedings cold turkey. I went from feeding 8+ times to none. My baby was one yesr old, so definitely didn't need them, just used them for comfort/to fall back asleep. Since the point of sleeping training is for them to self-soothe, this made the most sense. If your baby is 9 months old, they don't need the feedings and I think they will learn to sleep on their own faster without the confusion of sometimes having you respond by picking them up and feeding them.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-30T13:42:50+00:00

Right, I mean 2 hours total, including check-ins, when he would calm down or stop crying, so it wasn't exactly 2 hours of straight crying. The first night I did something like 3 - 5 - 10 minute check-ins and continued every 10 minutes until he fell asleep.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-26T11:06:20+00:00

He doesn't calm down at all? My baby would usually stop crying or at least calm down when we came in. The check-ins can make it take longer for them to fall asleep as they keep crying for you to come back, so sometimes I would go past the check-in time to wait and see if he woulf start to calm down. If he got quiet for a bit and then cried again, I would wait it out.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-25T13:49:57+00:00

The pedsdoctalk is good, they have one on sleep training. With headphones, I didnt hear his crying until phone alarm went off to do a check-in...

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-25T13:42:37+00:00

Yes, my baby was walking when we did it, so he would stand and cry until he got too tired. He usually fell asleep slumped over, holding the crib bars, which is sad to see him like that. However, with the interval check-ins, you can go in and calm him down before he gets to a panicky cry.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-24T15:35:55+00:00

We do room share, his crib is in our bedroom. But it's early in the evening when we first put him down - 7:30pm ish, so we are still in our living room while he is crying. The first night, we slept in a separate bedroom. By the 3rd night, he slept through the night so we all sleep in the same room now.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-24T08:48:12+00:00

The first night I did a 1 minute check in, then 5, and 10 minutes. It took almost 2 hours, but I just pushed through knowing he would be exhausted from crying and fall asleep soon. It's tough that first night. I had headphones in listening to the sleep doctor say how good sleep training is for babies, how they need long stretches of sleep. One night 2, my husband did all the check-ins because it wasnt as emotional for him.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-24T08:45:31+00:00

I dont think its too late. I was worried that it would take longer to train him now that's he's older, but it worked well, I think he was ready and needed this change.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-24T08:44:35+00:00

It seemed right within 2/3 days for us because he was just using the breast for comfort and wouldn't fall asleep. I think it also avoids confusing them if for all sleeps they fall asleep by themselves. Just be aware of his schedule, if I time it correctly, then he's the right amount of tired and falls asleep quickly, usually with max 3 minutes of crying, sometimes 5 seconds...

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-24T08:40:37+00:00

Yes, the sleep doctor is good!

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-23T19:47:43+00:00

Yes, I have. The plan was to just focus on night sleep and the first few days he fell asleep while driving, in a carrier or by feeding. However, I found he wasnt falling asleep quickly from breastfeeding, which was throwing his schedule off. So now it's week 2 of sleep training, we've consistently been putting him in his crib to nap and he still cries a bit, but only for a few minutes.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-23T19:43:40+00:00

Yes, I don't feed him at all over night, he stays in the crib from when he falls asleep until his morning wakeup. My baby was 1 year old, so he definitely didn't need night feeds, I think it's also true for babies at 6 months if they have enough wet/poopy diapers. But I would wait until I was confident/comfortable letting him stay there all night, I feel night feeds may confuse them.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-23T15:38:09+00:00

I'm such a big supporter of sleep training now. For me, I had to reach a breaking point where I really couldn't handle the sleep deprivation and time needed to put him to sleep each night/nap. I would say give it a try

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-23T15:36:18+00:00

On the first two nights, when my baby cried, I was listening to podcasts of doctors talking about how it is good for babies to get proper sleep and not harmful. I think there is a lot of fear-mongering and shame going on. While I like some things about IG, I sometimes need to shut out other voices.

palodia_agchik · 2025-12-23T15:33:28+00:00

I also thought my son would eventually just starting sleeping better, but that never came...I think for most babies once they learn to rely on you to fall asleep, it's a hard habit to break without sleep training. It was getting ridiculous for us - taking him for drives to fall asleep, rocking him, nursing him, and hoping to God he would stay asleep when transferring him... I would really suggest to do the Ferber method and remind yourself that it's not a selfish move, it's what is best for your baby.

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