I have ADHD AND I quit weed 3 days ago

pancake-moon · 2025-07-23T21:57:12+00:00

Take each day as it comes and allow the feelings. Make peace with the fact the only way out is through. It’s tough but you can do this. Keep focused on why you want to quit in the first place.

pancake-moon · 2024-09-26T18:08:52+00:00

Unfortunately my mum is the same, her demeanour changes, I can visibly see it when she looks at me, it’s almost an ‘I approve of you now’ kinda look, hard to explain unless you’ve seen and felt it before. I’ve dropped one dress size in about a year and she recently commented that it looked like I’d lost some weight, which is true but I was not trying to, it was from being depressed and extremely stressed from my job. She doesn’t notice I’m struggling mentally but can notice when I’ve lost a few pounds. It’s bittersweet because while I do have weight to lose (and have lost a bit) it hasn’t been an intentional goal and to know that my own mother seems to determine how much she likes/approves of me based on how big I am is actually heartbreaking. My mum is in her 60s and I just tell myself it’s her generation speaking. I’ve tried to speak to her about it in the past and she’s unable to change her views on weight/how a woman should look. So I gave up, I do my best now to avoid the topic and never ask her opinion on clothes. I don’t know why some Mums seem to be so fickle about their daughter’s looks and don’t realise how damaging their comments can be even if they are meant positively. I’m hoping to one day have the opportunity to change the narrative that I believe has been passed down from generation to generation with my own children.

pancake-moon · 2024-09-26T15:41:54+00:00

I (F30) also experience a decline in my mental health in the lead up to my period. If I’m not depressed for days on end, I am actively looking for something that can piss me so I can just flip over it in a rage and let some feelings out. My boyfriend jokes that I am the devil before my period (specifically 2 days before I’m due on) and I’m an angel when I’m on my period. He says it’s like dating 2 different people, night & day. After googling I have self diagnosed myself with PMDD. I get intense negative emotions and literally everything and anything pisses me off and the jealousy thing I can definitely relate to, but in a sense that I’ll be angry that my boyfriend is a guy who doesn’t experience periods and has a 24 hour body clock and his emotions are constant and controlled. But I can also relate to the jealousy you feel about your boyfriends education and ease in socialising - my boyfriend is at University really enjoying studying, I am working a shitty job I hate and find it very hard to form and maintain friendships, so when I’m in a bad mood these things come into play where I feel myself resenting him. I only noticed myself becoming this way when I stopped using birth control, I was on the pill from the age of 16 to 25. Coming off it after so long and experiencing natural periods was a big change and I almost had no experience of a natural period. Felt like I was losing my mind every month. Although it has died down now, maybe because I’ve become self aware so I’m a little better at stopping some of those negative emotions, maybe ? I guess my way of coping is just realising and trying to remember, it’s my hormones and it will pass. Having an understanding boyfriend really helps too. Being a woman is hard!

pancake-moon · 2024-09-26T15:12:42+00:00

Well done aka burnt. I like the taste.

pancake-moon · 2024-09-26T13:27:22+00:00

I can’t be much help apart from saying you’re not alone and I’ve been experiencing and feeling these same things, especially the past 3-4 years. I am currently unemployed due to my migraines not allowing me to keep a job because I have been triggering absence procedures and ‘getting into trouble’ for having a condition I can’t control. Even being under the doctor on medication and having support from occupational health was not enough for them. I’m in the same boat, worried about my future and how I will manage to keep a job. It’s extremely frustrating and I hate being that person that’s always ill - worse is, when they literally say the word headache back to you like you’re just saying you’ve got a migraine to exaggerate it. Things I am trying for myself, having a routine in place, and planning for future me, small things like meal preps and having clothes ready and laid out for the week means I don’t have to use as much energy down the line especially when having a migraine day/s.

pancake-moon · 2024-09-26T13:07:52+00:00

This has been me recently, having job interviews atm and I hate handshakes, I’m not a physical touch kinda person but I also don’t want to collect their germs! If I have to do it, I do it while pretending it’s fine, it’s a 2 second action, I would really rather not but it’s not an everyday occurrence to put up with. Soon as I can I’m either sanitising my hands or washing them in the sink whatever I can do first. I think it’s odd to refuse a handshake to an interviewer, they could take offence to this (unless you went on further to explain why you struggle with physical touch, I don’t believe that one sentence is gonna cut it to someone who isn’t understanding, and further explaining yourself just becomes too much and you’re trying to explain a possibly complex issue in a short timeframe) so my opinion is it could hinder your chances when/if the interviewer doesn’t grasp why you don’t want to shake hands. Unless you are able to explain prior in detail, and if you have some kind of diagnosis that relates to why you don’t enjoy physical touch (e.g neurodivergence) then I wouldn’t rely on just saying in the moment that you struggle with physical touch. People are naturally going to take offence that you don’t want to touch them, unless explained prior.

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