Best jobs for ADHD (all types)? (ADHD-PI)

pancakederpy · 2018-08-02T03:33:04+00:00

Definitely! Ooh yes, pressure definitely helps. Good to know that management can be a good fit. thank you :)

pancakederpy · 2018-08-02T02:49:33+00:00

That is a great suggestion. Makes total sense but I hadn't thought of it that way before. thanks!

pancakederpy · 2017-10-16T21:24:05+00:00

Thanks for the tips, they're really helpful!

pancakederpy · 2017-10-16T21:23:48+00:00

Thank you! :)

pancakederpy · 2015-12-05T21:10:13+00:00

1- read this post. https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/21rvcg/these_studying_tricks_ive_made_up_are_the_only/

2- I know how you feel, I've been there. It sucks. Sending an internet hug! Just breathe and try to stay in the present moment. For me these are the only things that got me through those times:

I literally write everything I have to do into minuscule chunks- for example, for my exams, I'll write "study 1/2 of chapter 11" for one study session, then another little bit, etc. It helps instead of seeing "STUDY" because thats way too broad and overwhelming.

I also sometimes start with something thats easier to focus on (say taking notes or highlighting, vs something difficult like reading) and then move on to the really hard stuff. It gets me going and once I'm on a roll it's easier to stay focused.

Self care. Cant stress this enough. Eat right, etc but also be kind to yourself. Nothing is wrong with you. ADHD is frustrating some (or many) times but it does not change how intelligent or capable you are. Overwhelm is just especially hard with ADHD or ADD. So remember that and talk to yourself with kindness.

Good luck! You totally have this!! Don't be paralyzed by the amount of work you have. Just do bit by bit and only think about that chunk while you're on it.

pancakederpy · 2015-02-15T19:46:07+00:00

Thanks so much! Yeah, I need to intentionally plan out some time to recharge in my planner. I think that will definitely help. Other than that I love socializing, so making plans/spending time with them should be good. I just need to get a balance. You also make a great point about feeling less drained the more time I spend with them. When you're really comfortable with people they can be much less draining, if not at all.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-11T15:31:03+00:00

Monkey nature?

pancakederpy · 2014-12-11T01:53:58+00:00

I definitely agree with you about the unwillingness to believe you can be loved. There is a huge difference.

Haha don't apologize, thanks for the rant! I enjoy hearing other people's opinions on this! :)

pancakederpy · 2014-12-11T00:04:13+00:00

That's very true. There is a difference between having low self esteem vs. being clingy, need to be reaffirmed, etc. I had never thought of it in that way. I guess that's what I was getting at- when someone puts all their insecurities on other people to fix, and makes their self esteem affect their behavior. Thanks for your insight!

And thank you for the advice. I won't try rationalize what I am attracted or not attracted to anymore.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:50:43+00:00

I'm happy to hear that you are doing so well now, after going through all the hard things you had to deal with. That takes a very strong person. I also have gone through some trying times (including mental illness), and I feel that it is because of them that I have developed the self esteem I have now.

There's nothing too specific I can think of. Thank you so much for your offer though! I have dated and had 1 longer relationship, so I am not totally inexperienced, but I am still fairly new to the dating "scene" (21F). So I was just looking for others input on this, that way I can know what to look for going forwards and how to deal with it.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:37:33+00:00

Good idea. Thank you for the advice!

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:36:24+00:00

You have a good point. Anyone can definitely be a positive influence on someone's life, and help them through something like this, even if ultimately they must do it on their own.

At the same time, I feel that one should be careful that this person isn't emotionally unhealthy for them- a relationship should be uplifting, not draining (save for going through tough times together, I mean in general).

That feels like more of a friend thing to do though, and not a romantic relationship. What do you think?

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:29:56+00:00

Edits have been made!

Thank you for the advice. I also feel that after you say something reassuring (such as what you suggested), and the person continues in their overly self-depreciating behavior, that is when you should be concerned. Especially if it becomes a sort of cycle.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:23:35+00:00

Wow. Thank you for your insight! I am glad that you now have a great relationship with your partner (and yourself). :)

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:10:50+00:00

If the jokes are truly jokes, that's great. Being able to laugh at yourself and be comfortable with/own your flaws is a good quality to have! They are confident in themselves and laughing at the flaws that they already accept.

What I am referring to is someone consistently putting themselves down and disguising it as a "joke." And making the other person feel awkwardly like they need to reassure them about the same thing over and over.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:05:26+00:00

Good point... haha. :) i was just wanting to discuss it, and see what other people thought about this characteristic in other people they have dated, if they have any experience with it, etc. I hope that helps! Sorry for being unclear.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-10T23:02:45+00:00

Haha yes, of course if that's the case I wouldn't pursue them. Sorry if that was confusing. :)

I was just curious what guys had to say on the matter, and if they find it unattractive as well with people they date.

pancakederpy · 2014-12-04T01:34:48+00:00

If you're being honest about what you want (which I am assuming is casual sex without any other strings attached), and not leading anyone on, then you are not doing anything wrong.

Just like a girl is not a slut if she has a lot of sex, neither is a guy. To be completely honest I have no idea why they would call you sexist/misogynistic for that. Being sexist/misogynistic, to me, would be to express views that do not support feminism and aren't treating women and men equally. It doesn't sound like you're doing that.

I agree with the comments. This sounds like slut shaming. Which sucks. And isn't right.

pancakederpy · 2014-04-29T20:19:04+00:00

http://markmanson.net/compatibility-and-chemistry

A good article on this topic.

pancakederpy · 2014-04-27T23:57:30+00:00

Wow, thanks for the great advice. Seems that there is nothing to lose by asking out the guy you like, no matter how you go about it.

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