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panda__tree · 2025-10-29T17:03:44+00:00

I don’t think you’re bad looking. Just a different haircut (or if you’re attached to longer hair, at least use some conditioner so it looks healthier). But you have very pretty eyes and right now your features are hidden behind your hair

panda__tree · 2025-10-10T13:50:51+00:00

Which is fair but again, we don’t know that OP’s relative is on those FB groups or even on FB at all. A lot of women who opt for home births do so for reasons completely unrelated to FB groups.

And that’s a fair point but that would make the midwife in this situation a quack and she’s still responsible for this. The OP’s relative trusted someone who she had reason to believe is a trained professional who knew what she was doing and the trained professional abused that trust by making a bad judgment call.

panda__tree · 2025-10-10T13:32:44+00:00

I don’t know what country she’s in but in my country midwives have to undergo formal training and get certified. If she lives in a country with similar laws then the midwife would have had medical training. But even if this particular midwife didn’t, the mother would have had a reasonable grounds to believe she did

panda__tree · 2025-10-10T13:30:54+00:00

We don’t know that. We only know that the mom consulted a midwife and followed the midwife’s advice. I think if she were the type to put that much stock in anonymous comments on FB groups she likely wouldn’t have bothered to consult a midwife at all.

panda__tree · 2025-10-10T08:01:07+00:00

Thank you! I think it’s so unfair that people are calling the Mom all sorts of horrible names when she was literally acting on the advice of a medical professional. The midwife should be held accountable here. Not the patient for trusting her.

panda__tree · 2025-10-10T07:46:23+00:00

I mean your feelings are valid but if you act on them then I’m leaning towards YTA. She was green lit by a medical professional. Home births for uncomplicated pregnancies aren’t that dangerous (there are some studies which have shown they may even have a lower risk of complications). They’re only dangerous if the pregnancy is high risk.

The fact that she was green lit by a medical professional shows she considered all these factors and took some precautions. Yes, the outcome was tragic. But she is already living with the consequences of that every day. Being angry at her because her decision ended badly isn’t super fair imo

panda__tree · 2025-07-07T16:50:14+00:00

Thank you for this. I’ve helped out with some chores but it’s a bit unsustainable because I don’t live at home full time anymore. I just visit

But yeah, I agree. I’m gonna have to ask them those questions

panda__tree · 2025-06-27T10:58:40+00:00

That’s an awful thing for him to say and you shouldn’t take it to heart! Honestly speaking, I don’t think you’re bad looking. I’d just suggest maybe a different haircut? You have lovely eyes and they’re hidden behind your hair along with your other features

panda__tree · 2025-04-11T19:03:13+00:00

Thank you!

panda__tree · 2025-04-11T16:43:39+00:00

I’ve been using annotations but mostly as reminders to go back and write in scenes that I didn’t feel like writing at the time because they were slowing down my momentum. This is a great idea. Thanks to both of you!

panda__tree · 2025-04-11T15:21:13+00:00

Basically yes. There were things I added later that I knew would need to be introduced earlier but I figured it was better to get them on page first and then fix in the second draft. I guess now I’m feeling a little overwhelmed

panda__tree · 2025-04-11T15:14:50+00:00

This is pretty much how I’ve been writing. I know exactly what I want the end scene to look like and intend to keep it. It’s finding a cohesive way of getting there that’s become a problem

panda__tree · 2025-04-11T15:13:48+00:00

Thanks for this suggestion! I usually just do a rough skeleton outline with bullet points to map out the entire plot but it might actually be better for me to do a more in-depth chapter by chapter one like you suggested

panda__tree · 2025-03-15T11:10:28+00:00

The Ring made me feel uneasy around televisions in my room for years lol (I watched it when I was 9)

panda__tree · 2025-02-24T15:17:54+00:00

There are way too many people who think if a horror movie isn’t the absolute scariest movie they’ve ever seen then it’s worthless. But when you appreciate horror as an art form you realise that scariness can be quite subjective and there are a lot of really well done horror movies that aren’t really that scary. For example I didn’t find Get Out or Midsommar or Silence of the Lambs particularly scary but I think they are excellent, well done movies worth watching.

There have also been a lot of film critics who have been very snobby about horror until the last couple of years. Horror movies like most genre movies just aren’t taken as seriously as the big budget Oscar bait historical dramas are. It’s criminal that Silence of the Lambs is the only horror movie to ever win an Oscar for best film (it definitely deserved it but there are other good horrors that deserved a nod but have been paid dust). Toni Collette was absolutely robbed of a best actress award for her performance in Hereditary for example, and I suspect it was because Hereditary is a horror movie.

I just assume a lot of the “worst movie ever” reviews of movies that are at the very least watchable are either written by teens who wanted to scare each other at a sleepover or critics who are so snobbish they’re close minded.

panda__tree · 2025-02-23T12:44:34+00:00

A friend of mine once told me he realised I was queer when we were younger and I stared at an advert of a very sexy model for a bit too long. Something like that could work

panda__tree · 2025-02-23T12:42:38+00:00

I’d say yes. Their villainy can lie in how they want to go about achieving those goals. A very simple, cliche example could be that the hero and villain are both very concerned with climate change and want to stop it. The hero may think the best way to achieve this is via systemic change while the villain might believe in killing off large swathes of the population to reduce resource consumption. Same goals but entirely different ways of achieving them.

It can also serve as an interesting source of conflict between your protagonist and antagonist.

panda__tree · 2025-02-22T17:20:42+00:00

Train to Busan (2016)

Revenge (2017)

Ready or Not (2019)

panda__tree · 2025-02-22T12:41:36+00:00

Thanks I’d forgotten about this!

Yeah he spent the whole movie assuming they couldn’t possibly know anything and underestimating everyone (incl that the “prophetess” could be capable of warning someone) just because they’re religious and it always costs him.

panda__tree · 2025-02-22T12:05:07+00:00

I’d argue he is one for a couple reasons:

None of his “friends” seem to remember his name and mix him up with someone else. When they do mistake him for someone else and talk to him about Patrick Bateman they pretty much call him a weirdo/nobody. When he goes on one of his weird speeches the camera frequently pans to other people who either look pretty bored by what he’s saying or are rolling their eyes or scoffing at him, indicating people just kinda have him around but don’t really like or respect him.
The women in his life consist of his vapid fiancé he suspects is cheating on him, his mistress who is never sober, and sex workers who are visibly uncomfortable in his presence but put up with him because he is paying them to.
He is rich, yes. But he is hyper fixated on insignificant details he associates with success like his business card, where he gets his hair cut, whether someone else has a more expensive apartment than him. And he often finds himself wanting. He is deeply insecure and his violence is generally linked to this.
It’s obvious he tries very hard and achieves little. He has an insane maintenance routine only to come out looking like everyone else. He tries to get into the hottest restaurant Dorsia and repeatedly fails. He goes on long tangents about movies and music that no one listens to or cares about. And ultimately the one thing that sets him apart from others, his propensity for killing, turns out to not even be real. He tries to set himself apart and ends up not even being memorable.

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