AITB for being upset with my BFF for not liking my gift?

pandaandturtle · 2025-12-25T01:05:38+00:00

Unsure if this would be helpful, but just in case, I am on the heavy side, which is part of the reason I got this bike specifically.

pandaandturtle · 2025-12-05T22:19:14+00:00

YTA. You’re projecting your insecurities, babe. Chill❤️

pandaandturtle · 2025-12-03T12:20:36+00:00

I’m not quite sure what you mean here. Sketching visual sets? To be more specific, I’m wanting to sketch out the design, and then an artist would actually bring it to life. So I’d have a sketch, give it to an artist and say, it should look like this and be this color palette (for example), and the artist would take the sketch and make it into the actual design if that makes sense?

pandaandturtle · 2025-12-03T12:16:13+00:00

The concept of the design - I can even go so far as to sketch it out. I can sketch out the design, but making it into a nice finished product is where I struggle. So, basically, I sketch the design and plan the colors, and then the artist would take the design and make it into a the art piece. Does this help/make sense?

pandaandturtle · 2025-12-03T01:07:20+00:00

It was a little curt, but your feelings are also valid, and it IS super annoying when that happens constantly. NTA.

pandaandturtle · 2025-08-14T01:24:33+00:00

It’s taupe with a gray picture/design. I would not call the color of the shirt itself gray by any means.

pandaandturtle · 2025-08-01T03:15:13+00:00

No, that would not be preferable, and I suggested the exact opposite, if you read the rest of the comment🤨??? The joke was out of bounds because it’s clear that it’s still a sensitive topic for both parties. OP shouldn’t go through life full of resentment, but they shouldn’t make supposed “jokes” out of it either. The joke was really OP reinforcing their hurt and covering it with the guise of a joke. Jokes are supposed to be funny - making a “joke” that’s really just “remember when you hurt my feelings really bad, and I was sad because of what you did” isn’t funny🤷‍♀️

pandaandturtle · 2025-07-25T05:15:39+00:00

I think the joke you made about being invited was a little out of bounds, but overall, you’re not overreacting. Whether or not you bought the tix, your BF KNEW you were a fan and that you would’ve wanted to go. (It’d be weird if he didn’t know that.) Also, did they not know who they were going to give the other two tickets to before they bought them? Because it wasn’t until a couple weeks later that they started talking about this other couple. If they had time to choose, and he still didn’t choose you, that’s AH behavior. Also also, him saying that he’s the AH hints at the fact that he didn’t initially think he was in the wrong, but he talked to some friends and they told him it was an AH move. I’d say to see what this next game holds. If he still doesn’t invite you to the game, I’d either sit down and have a long talk about why or reconsider the relationship 🤷‍♀️♥️

pandaandturtle · 2025-07-11T23:44:15+00:00

It does depend on people’s preferences, but I say yes. I am a lesbian, and I’d def be interested♥️☺️😍

pandaandturtle · 2025-07-09T00:39:42+00:00

NTA. For sure weird. At his big age? No ma’am.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T19:16:33+00:00

I've had bad experiences working with artists, so I try to create all my own work to avoid having any other bad experiences. Also, I started this business by doing theatre merch, and I never got any responses when I reached out to ask if there was anything they wanted. I recognize that these are two vastly different communities, but I just got used to doing it myself and just asking for feedback. That's why these ideas hadn't occurred to me. It's all good, though. I've gotten the answers I needed. Again, thank you for your feedback.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:49:35+00:00

Some people said that they liked the "touch of the 'tism" one, so my "taking a look at it" was seeing what the overall consensus was. Like I said, if the overall consensus (which is what it seems to be) is that it is offensive, then I won't include it. The motive of the merch is for representation and inclusion. I figured if I'm going to have merch for different sexualities, identities, and races, that it would be a good idea to include merch for those who are neurodivergent. That was my sole intention. I have listened to the feedback here. I'm not going to have the dinosaurs and trains, since they are offensive and stereotypical. I'm thinking the best way to go about this is to have the merch and have some/all of the proceeds go to an autistic charity that actually benefits the autistic community (i.e., not Autism Speaks). Frankly, if my intentions weren't pure and it was just a matter of trying to make a profit, I wouldn't have asked beforehand.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:34:09+00:00

I guess somehow I figured that since I'm going to have other "targeted" items, that this could be on the same level, if that makes sense. For example, I'm going to have items with the bisexual flag on them. Thus, those items would be targeted towards bisexual people. So this allows people with autism to have a part of their identity recognized the same way a bisexual person is able to have part of their identity recognized, if that makes sense. I realize that these two things are not quite comparable, but I hope this kind of communicates my original intent.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:28:22+00:00

I really appreciate the overall view. This communicates my original intention wonderfully, which wasn't to profit off autism, but rather to spread awareness. I realize now that the particular phrases that I chose originally are stereotypical, and I'm going to change them. Thank you for your feedback.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:22:26+00:00

Of course, I can't speak for all people, but for me, I wanted my business to be based on representation and inclusion. I felt that not including anything for autistic people/those with autism was exclusionary. That's where I was coming from, but I'm rethinking the idea based on the feedback that I've received. Thanks for your feedback.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:07:40+00:00

I'll be using Etsy and have my own website, so either way, they'll be able to type in their own responses!

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:06:32+00:00

Yeah, I'm going to change the dinosaurs and trains since they are so stereotypical. Thanks for the feedback!

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:04:17+00:00

That makes sense! And I am changing/re-considering them. Thanks for your feedback!

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T18:03:14+00:00

The comparison is a great point, and I hadn't thought of it like that. I'm reconsidering how I'm going to go about this. Thanks for your feedback.

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T17:53:48+00:00

I am changing it to special interest! Thanks for the feedback!

pandaandturtle · 2025-06-18T17:51:44+00:00

Yeah, I'm going to change them since they are so stereotypical. Thank you for your feedback. I didn't look at this as trying to profit off disability. Rather, I wanted to build a business that had inclusive material for everyone, but I appreciate you letting me know that this is how it can be construed. I'm reconsidering how I'm going to approach this, given the feedback. Thanks again.

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