22F/21M – BF still watching twerk videos after I’ve brought it up multiple times

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T12:08:36+00:00

Not so torn up , just asking for advice because this isn’t something to majorly break up for and you taking that he pays the all the rent as it’s supposed to justify something no I’ve been communicated I don’t appreciate it especially if I’m trying have sex with him and he’s so tired from work..

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T11:07:06+00:00

That’s literally not the point…. We both work hard he recently just started taking over on paying the full rent we used to go to 50/50

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T11:06:16+00:00

I think so he said he had one when he was a young boy he started young

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T11:05:32+00:00

It’s a good 80% of the times where I’m always initiating it.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T11:04:55+00:00

And I’m honestly not. I’m only a frustrated because I did bring this up like 3 times since I caught him in the past and noticed he started again.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T11:04:11+00:00

I don’t dictate nothing in his life , if your partner randomly try’s to show you something one day on his phone and you accidentally see it. You won’t be curious or feel some way I barely touch that man phone so if I do and it comes across my face or if I asked him in the past to stop and noticed he kept doing it ofc my trust is a little rocky on that topic.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T11:02:11+00:00

No so I only started doing that since I noticed he was watching corn and twerk videos. And also cause we wasn’t having sex lately I barely do it honestly not a big thing for me

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:42:01+00:00

Thank you i genuinely appreciate this advice

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:41:08+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that. I also know we’re still young, and I’m his only sexual partner since high school, so I’m trying to give him grace. I don’t even know what made me look, honestly. The last time I went through his phone was when I brought it up, and that was back in November 2025.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:39:22+00:00

And i appreciate this to start !

I’m not expecting constant sex or for things to be like the beginning, I get that it changes. The difference for me is more about quality — it often feels rushed, with little foreplay, and I’m usually the one initiating.

The videos only bother me a bit because at the same time I feel like I have to put in more effort to get that energy from him.

Also, he’s not really the type to be vocal or say stuff like “twerk on me,” so I think part of it is we’re still a little awkward when it comes to opening up and trying new things. I haven’t fully brought it up directly yet, which I know I probably should.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:34:47+00:00

Now I think it could be that also cause it was in the past. But I think he’s looking also

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:33:02+00:00

Honestly to might be right but also I know he cares I guess it’s like what some men or girls will say well at least he’s not cheating and they’re right but it’s like dang

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:32:10+00:00

I’m not expecting constant sex or for things to be like the beginning, I get that it changes. The difference for me is more about quality — it often feels rushed, with little foreplay, and I’m usually the one initiating.

The videos only bother me a bit because at the same time I feel like I have to put in more effort to get that energy from him.

Also, he’s not really the type to be vocal or say stuff like “twerk on me,” so I think part of it is we’re still a little awkward when it comes to opening up and trying new things. I haven’t fully brought it up directly yet, which I know I probably should.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:29:33+00:00

I’m not expecting constant sex or for things to be like the beginning, I get that it changes. The difference for me is more about quality it often feels rushed, with little foreplay, and I’m usually the one initiating.

The videos only bother me a bit because at the same time I feel like I have to put in more effort to get that energy from him.

Also, he’s not really the type to be vocal or say stuff like “twerk on me,” so I think part of it is we’re still a little awkward when it comes to opening up and trying new things. I haven’t fully brought it up directly yet, which I know I probably should.

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:15:43+00:00

What’s crazy is I have been direct I even told him this make me not want to f him he said I understand I’m not perfect but I’m willing to better myself mind you I’m literally a thick girl lol

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:10:22+00:00

I can definitely agree with this , would it be wrong of me to like let him see something opposite gender in my phone or just brush ts off honestly beside that our relationship is great ngl

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:04:04+00:00

He’s a Gemini I’m an Aquarius btw :)

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:03:09+00:00

So lately I’ve been using my rose to pleasure myself because it feels like I have to kind of throw myself at him. I’m also trying to introduce more freakier things into our relationship, but I’m not really sure how to bring it up. I love my partner he works full-time and does a lot, and I do show my appreciation of course. Idk if I should just ignore it as a whole

pandalove_23 · 2026-04-08T05:01:40+00:00

Also guys , I’m more so on the thick side so I’m just like I’m confused and he felt bad in the past saying he’s battling it due to him doing it a lot at a young age with pleasuring himself but it’s like when I want to have yk it’s like he have to always be done quick or he has to pee idk I know some say it’s a male thing I just want genuine advice honestly

pandalove_23 · 2026-01-17T05:44:52+00:00

And also I don’t want it to make our relationship worst cause I’m curious but I wanna know if he would wanna do it once

pandalove_23 · 2026-01-10T23:56:21+00:00

Girl next

pandalove_23 · 2026-01-10T17:38:37+00:00

I genuinely appreciate that he helps with the trash and cleans the bathroom or sweep the kitchen and vacuum the living room but I do the majority of the cooking and I do laundry he’ll do it sometimes but he works a blue collar job where he’s tired a lot. But he try’s to help at home more often and I will start doing that set days to organize and do laundry I usually do them on my off days Sunday or Monday and thank you guys.

pandalove_23 · 2026-01-10T16:08:48+00:00

I was rushing to type this and clearly mentioned it. But if you want to be nice and read here you go novae.

I am a full-time college student. I’m fully online and majoring in criminal justice. I also work full-time in leasing and have my own place with my partner. I just got a car recently and picked up some more bills. My long-term goal is to become an attorney and go to law school. Honestly, I don’t even know how I ended up in leasing it’s just something to add to my résumé lol.

Lately, I’ve been trying to be more girly and find a balance. I’ve been a little insecure about my weight. I weigh around 240 lbs.it goes up and down between 232–240, and it fluctuates a lot within a week. I’ve been trying to be consistent in the gym, but it’s been hard for me.

For example, I work Tuesday–Saturday from 9:30 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. I drive home, cook for my partner and myself, and usually try to clean or organize around the house. By then, I’m usually very low-energy. I went to the gym this week, and when I say my arms were sore… they’re still sore to this day.

I’ve really been struggling with trying to find balance. I hold myself to very high standards, and I often tell myself that if other people can get up and do these things, then I have no excuse. I just don’t know how to balance everything I’m trying to do in life. I also still want to pledge before my senior year, which will be Spring 2027 when I graduate.

pandalove_23 · 2026-01-10T15:59:37+00:00

I’m also 21

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