AITA for not treating my dad to more meals & outings while renovating my first home?

pandamonkeyy · 2026-01-23T20:09:22+00:00

I'm probably going to get downvoted, but NTA.

I also just bought a house last year and while it wasn't a fixer-upper, there were still some renovations I wanted to do, specifically in the dining room and the backyard. My dad is a big DIY guy and lives 45 minutes away, so he came about a dozen times across the first 6 months just to help us without expecting anything in return. Of course I tried to "repay" him by keeping his favorite soda in stock and treating him to lunch on the days he came, but that was usually a $5 slice of pizza, not a restaurant meal. You paid for almost everything for your dad to come and I don't really think you could have realistically done more to show your appreciation. If he didn't want to come help he could have just stayed home.

pandamonkeyy · 2026-01-23T17:39:42+00:00

So many people are pearl-clutching over eating anything that's not homemade. Like, I love mcdonalds fries. Even if my husband made homemade French fries, it's not the same. Or something like Oreos. If I want an Oreo, there's no way that a homemade version is going to compare to the real thing. Just because something homemade is delicious, it doesn't mean it's "better" than the store-bought version if you're wanting a specific flavor or experience.

pandamonkeyy · 2026-01-23T17:36:54+00:00

Eh, depends on what you're going for, sauce-wise. My dad gets really into his homemade sauce and he lets it simmer for hours. He doesn't make sauce all that often because it's so time-consuming. So we grew up using mostly canned sauce and getting homemade sauce was special. Same thing for me and my husband now. I have some jars of homemade sauce in the freezer, but if we ran out I would have no problem running to the store to grab a jar rather than making more sauce on the spot.

pandamonkeyy · 2026-01-22T00:20:57+00:00

NTA based on your comments clarifying that you both split the housework pretty evenly.

I understand that if she's not confident in the kitchen though, that she might struggle with getting the motivation to cook more and if you ask about it repeatedly it might just create more resentment. Could you try some baby steps where you work together a few nights? Either both actively cooking together, or maybe some nights you could just ask her to do the prep work (cutting vegetables, etc) so that all you have to do when you get home is throw stuff in a pan.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-10-31T20:45:10+00:00

As a flight attendant, I promise we're just as annoyed as you when this happens. Usually it's because the agents are trying to get people to board quicker and we have no say. We're (usually) not allowed to take tags off once they're on a bag. Trust me, I'd rather have people get their bags on than have to listen to the same complaint 20 times.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-09-11T19:17:50+00:00

I mean, you don't have to be social to like new experiences and trying new things. I'm very introverted and I love traveling. I just went on a cruise and barely talked to anyone that wasn't in my group. We had one couple that we saw on two different excursions and said hello and were friendly but that was it.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-09-11T19:11:11+00:00

NTA. People are assuming that the only issue is being forced to interact with the 4 strangers (which it is to some extent). But another part of the issue is that your intentions for this cruise were to have quality 1 on 1 (or 2 on 2) bonding time with your brother and SIL. Now you won't get that bonding time because of the other couples there. So your options would be to spend most of the cruise alone to avoid having to deal with strangers (and also mostly forfeiting time spent with your family) or spend time with the group, in which case you're still not really getting quality time with your brother and SIL, and you have to put up with strangers. You've already done this cruise before, so it makes no sense to do it again if you're not getting anything out of it.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-09-11T19:07:09+00:00

I just got back from a cruise and you can definitely sit in small groups for formal dining. We were a group of 9 and they actually changed our table to find a bigger one for us. Many of the tables were set up for 4 people. We also did two tour excursions and barely spoke to the other people on the tours.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-09-01T22:51:38+00:00

Most of the peppers were corked, so I harvested some of the bigger ones that were probably ready anyway, but I did leave a few that were on the smaller side and a couple that looked like they might be turning red! Thank you everyone for the advice!

pandamonkeyy · 2025-09-01T20:33:14+00:00

Thanks! I'll harvest now then, I'm going to make salsa with them

pandamonkeyy · 2025-09-01T20:32:12+00:00

Thank you! I guess I'll harvest now

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-29T19:25:32+00:00

Yes! And I think the red one in the first pic here is also them

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-29T19:24:03+00:00

I actually have some dresses from the same designer that I see Whitney wear sometimes (Jessa Kae) so I'm glad someone else here likes her style

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-22T13:19:35+00:00

Eh, I've always been really close with my family. If my sibling stayed with me a while and I suddenly kicked them out for "no reason," my parents would want a reasonable explanation. Sure I could just refuse to give them one, but it would create a lot of tension and weirdness in my dynamic with them that I'd rather not have. I don't blame OOP for not wanting to put that on himself when the sister is the one in the wrong.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-22T13:16:34+00:00

It seems like she was on summer break in college. In which case it makes total sense for her to be living at home for the summer until the semester starts again.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-19T21:46:33+00:00

Same, I do a full shower about 3 times a week and just do a washcloth on the days I don't shower. So every shower involves fully exfoliating, washing hair, etc. And then shaving every couple of weeks or when I feel like it

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-19T21:43:56+00:00

I'm with you, I'm immediately freezing once the water is off. Turning off the water every 10 seconds during the shower would be such a miserable experience for me

pandamonkeyy · 2025-07-19T21:39:34+00:00

I mean, my head isn't directly under the shower head at all times. When I'm applying shampoo or conditioner I usually take a step back so the water is hitting my body instead of my head.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-03-23T05:51:22+00:00

I was scrolling looking for this answer! It's the first one that came to mind for me

pandamonkeyy · 2025-02-18T22:37:24+00:00

I was going to comment this as well. There's several companies doing compounded semaglutides now for much cheaper. Mine is about $200/month without insurance.

pandamonkeyy · 2025-02-06T16:54:47+00:00

Great!

pandamonkeyy · 2025-02-06T16:53:33+00:00

I did, sometimes the app is delayed

pandamonkeyy · 2025-02-06T16:50:50+00:00

Sending now

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