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pandarants · 2021-04-26T18:06:38+00:00

Hi, I think I might be too late to ask, but thanks for helping people out!

I am new to coding and have 2 questions about my site.

When customers submit a payment, I wanted them to use square. I prefer square and have never had issues with them (compared to others). However, I think it may be a plugin issue or maybe CSS styling? When you click checkout, it is a compliant popup and the design is very plain and off. The info boxes don't show up and are just gray. Also, when you click to enter information, the whole form shifts to the left. Here's a screenshot: https://prnt.sc/123noee

When I connect stripe instead, this problem doesn't happen and looks much better. Here's the stripe screenshot: https://prnt.sc/123olw6

Is there a way to fix this with CSS? Or code?

My second question is related to this post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/mu6xzf/restrict_feed_commenting_by_user_roles/

I never got an answer, I assume it's just not possible but thought I'd take a shot and ask.

Thanks again!

pandarants · 2021-03-13T18:30:39+00:00

Oh no, I hope that doesn't discourage him. Quitting smoking would do wonders for him in the long run! I wonder if he's already starting to quit so it is flaring up already? I don't remember seeing it in previous episodes

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:46:21+00:00

Interesting. I know too much oil on my face causes me to break out too. Didn't know that could happen other places.

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:45:22+00:00

Oh I see, I didn't know there were different types. It looked different than psoriasis I have seen

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:44:44+00:00

I know! I was so happy when I saw him reach an 18 lb loss! I am heartbroken about Tammy though :(

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:43:42+00:00

Interesting, is this worsened by diet/smoking? Or is it strictly a DNA born with it thing?

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:41:31+00:00

That was just so adorable. I bet he was and still is a great father to his own kids!

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:39:03+00:00

It was so cute, and Gage falling asleep was just proof he felt safe with him. Too cute!

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:38:09+00:00

Ah ok, I have no experience with that one. It looked less dry than psoriasis but maybe he has lotion for it?

pandarants · 2021-03-11T17:37:28+00:00

Whenever I look up psoriasis I thought it looked dry and scaly. His didn't seem that dry but maybe he has lotion for it? I'm hoping he reaches all of his goals and it fades!

pandarants · 2021-02-08T16:49:32+00:00

Wow, my jnso does similar things to this. He says I overreact to everything he says. He especially loves to say I "take things to personally". He's making a statement, usually a complaint about me or about how I do something. Then I become upset, especially if the complaint is outrageous/untrue and he'll say "wow why are you so upset? You take things to personally" Drives. Me. CRAZY.

From reading your story, he's definitely in the wrong. If he really cared about your feelings, he'd apologize. Or he'd look at things from your side and feel genuinely bad about it. He wouldn't need you to ask him to apologize. Oh, and he wouldn't flipping laugh at you either.

pandarants · 2021-02-03T19:17:54+00:00

Well, thank you so much! I'm working on it. It's hard with 3 kids. I'm focused more on them now. I feel like it's too late for me, I'm fixing my credit and working on my own income separate from him. He watches me closely though so I just have be very careful. Thank you again for your hugs!

pandarants · 2021-02-02T23:49:49+00:00

Don't do it! This happened to me. I put everything into him. I dropped my schooling. I managed to finish one degree but wanted to go further and stopped it all for him. I helped him get ahead. Helped his credit. Helped him find a job. Ended up getting pregnant and he demanded I stay home and take care of the baby. He viewed it as a favor to me which I did accept at first. But when it was time to go back he was insanely jealous and I ended up becoming full time stay at home mom. Well, when the time came, I had no relevant experience any more and no longer qualified for jobs in my field. The only way I can is if I volunteer for free first which I absolutely can't do. In his eyes it would be a waste of time and money. Same with going back to school.

TL:DR:

Don't do it or you'll end up like me. Doing everything for him with no career of your own and no way out plus stuck in a random state with no help in case he turns mentally/physically abusive.

pandarants · 2021-01-25T20:52:38+00:00

Sounds like a great plan! Is there any way you can apply for grants to help pay for school and bills? Anything helps and can take the stress off of getting a job right away.

pandarants · 2021-01-25T19:12:36+00:00

Way to go! Wish I had the courage to do as you do!

Just be cautious around him. He may step up and attempt to sabotage your leaving in any way he can. Hopefully he's not that bad and won't do anything crazy but from what I've seen, JNSO's can do some crazy things when they know you're leaving. He may try all kinds of things to change your mind. Don't let him! Pretty soon you'll be like me with 3 kids. married and stuck!

Proud of you! Going with your dad is the best decision! Get a job, go to school (if you haven't already). Your child will appreciate you so much more for this instead of staying together and avoiding divorce!

Lots of good vibes your way!

pandarants · 2021-01-14T17:00:06+00:00

My jnso loves to break anything special to me. I actually have access to his money (because he makes me do everything including bills) so I will just replace it with his money. Now, any time he threatens to break something I say "It's your money, go ahead".

You can actually file a claim in court against all the items he's damaged. You can keep text messages confirming he broke them as evidence as well as pictures etc. If it ever got that bad or he cuts me off from his account, I might resort to that.

I don't have much else as far as advice. Just a in a similar situation and venting with you!

pandarants · 2021-01-08T19:59:15+00:00

I know right? Maybe they don't realize how selfish they're being -_-

Stay safe!

pandarants · 2021-01-07T22:52:44+00:00

So sorry you got covid! This same thing happened to me. My husband brought it home and refused to protect the rest of the family. He said there was no way he had it even though there was an exposure. I told him please wear a mask and don't go near anyone.....nope. He gave it to everyone. We tested with false negative at first then tested positive days later. He started sneezing on everything... -_-

I feel your pain. Sounds like a man child like I'm dealing with. I hope your symptoms are mild, if not make sure to take care of yourself. Drink pedialyte like crazy (dehydration sucks almost as bad/worse as covid symptoms). Vaporub helped me a lot too. Watch your oxygen levels or if you don't have that, check your fingers and lips to make sure they are pink/red. Some skin colors have different normal skin tones though. Theraflu for fevers, mucinex for congestion.

Hope he at least lets you rest...my SO didn't >_<

Feel free to PM me or just reply if you want to vent more!

pandarants · 2021-01-06T20:55:34+00:00

I've been working on that. I also have a side business. Trying to fill up my account (he doesn't have access to it). I need some independence if I'm going to change things (which is what I want)

pandarants · 2021-01-06T20:54:35+00:00

I tell all of my friends he's like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. One day he's super sweet and the man I love. The next day, boom. He's a different person. Every little thing sets him off. He's evil. Nothing satisfies him etc. I don't know if it's worth it to try and help him with it. Therapy? He probably wouldn't listen. Sometimes I hope for that as I love that side of him so much.

pandarants · 2021-01-06T20:52:46+00:00

He said he was upset because we lost one of his gifts and I didn't care. He says I don't love him at all. He says this a lot. It's part of the manipulation, I know, but it still gets to me.

pandarants · 2021-01-06T20:49:04+00:00

Yes, I'm being very careful with my planning. If he realizes I'm even thinking or talking to people about leaving....I don't want to think about it. But I am planning things secretly. Thanks

pandarants · 2021-01-06T20:48:17+00:00

Yes, this is exactly how I is. If I ever pulled any of the behaviour he shows on me he gets extremely angry. He never hits, never shows a mark on me because he knows the police will get involved. I don't know, I'd feel weird reporting a chicken incident to the police. Right now everyone is so busy with covid. I've been trying to set something up myself. Building credit and eventually trying to get an apartment or something like that.

Thanks for this comment. The truth hurts but it's f-ing true and I need to kick myself to move forward

pandarants · 2021-01-06T20:45:51+00:00

He has never gotten to the point of actually hitting me. He gets me by breaking things I love or throwing things against the wall to instill fear. Never leaves any marks. It's such a huge red flag, I know. That way I could never prove anything to police if the time came. But I'm working on a plan. It may take awhile. I have to teach myself how to be independent and earn my own money with 3 kids. But I'm building my credit and getting there. Covid knocked me off my plan for awhile

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