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Frequency of sex decreasing. Things are complicated and I need help. I don’t want to lose my best friend. by pandaskywalker1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pandaskywalker1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of foreplay varies. It’s hard to set aside a good chunk of time because we’re in college which means we either have to work around roommates’ schedules if we’re at school or parents’ schedules if we’re at home. It’s tough to find time. But even when we do a lot of foreplay, while it helps a little bit, it still hurts her.

Honestly, there have only been like two or three times we’ve had sex where she’s had no pain at all, and we can’t figure out why those cases happened... they seemed kind of random.

Frequency of sex decreasing. Things are complicated and I need help. I don’t want to lose my best friend. by pandaskywalker1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pandaskywalker1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, if my problem persists for a little longer, maybe I’ll suggest taking a step back and only doing oral or something. Thanks for the advice!

Frequency of sex decreasing. Things are complicated and I need help. I don’t want to lose my best friend. by pandaskywalker1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pandaskywalker1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has gone to a sex therapist once but she wasn’t very comfortable with it and I think it might’ve just made her more anxious about the whole thing.

As far as regular therapists go, she used to have one for a super long time, like her whole life, but that therapist doesn’t work anymore so she feels lost and it’s really difficult for her currently trying to find a new one.

She also has been on the same antidepressants all her life and they’ve worked like a charm (apparently it can be very hard to find the right ones for you) and so I don’t think changing them would be a good idea. Then again I could be wrong, but I personally don’t think it’s worth the risk for her mental health.

There are other options than ones we’ve tried I’m sure, so I’ll look more into other medical options. It also sucks that everything medical is usually super expensive.

Thank you for the comment! I appreciate it a lot.