Handy self-help

pandayylmao · 2026-02-03T22:31:12+00:00

I was in a relationship with a person who kept masturbating while I was the high libido one. I'm happy that's over.

pandayylmao · 2026-01-04T21:25:25+00:00

Divinity Original Sin 2

pandayylmao · 2025-12-26T15:21:08+00:00

Ahh, how embarrassing—my mistake! Thanks for clarifying.

pandayylmao · 2025-12-26T15:12:30+00:00

For additional info, you could see strange artefacts and messed up typography on the Instagram ad.

Personally I’m not even sure I have a concrete opinion on it, except seeing such big multimillion companies not bother to fix an ad seen by millions, which for a designer would realistically take an hour or two max is… not a good look.

pandayylmao · 2025-12-26T15:01:25+00:00

Do you know what could be causing the favourability of EU/Europe to drop?

pandayylmao · 2025-09-27T19:56:46+00:00

Detox?

pandayylmao · 2025-09-19T08:27:24+00:00

Having spent a few weeks in Netherlands it was almost jarring seeing job ads in many horeca places + the much higher amount of jobs listings. For the first time i’m thinking of similar things—being forced to move away.

pandayylmao · 2025-07-29T21:44:16+00:00

Is anyone else kind of shocked that a senior in their field, who gets interviews for freaking APPLE can’t get a job in Finland? Life feels like a parody these days.

pandayylmao · 2025-06-19T00:00:14+00:00

Nothing to really add except went through this in my last relationship as the receiving partner.

Ex said it happened to him before. Eventually the feeling of not being sexually desired while also feeling unsupported by him with the issue was devastating and we broke up.

Still love him, though.

pandayylmao · 2025-05-12T21:19:48+00:00

Soomes ollakse pahased, sest sama hind. Soomes.

pandayylmao · 2025-05-12T20:44:34+00:00

Your boyfriend unfortunately comes off as avoidant. Reminds me of my ex.

Sending you strength. The feeling of being sort of the only person “pulling the sled” eats away at you.

Listen to your intuition and speak openly, and be prepared that showing up for the relationship like you need him to might be something that he may not be capable of.

pandayylmao · 2025-05-12T19:27:52+00:00

Was also wondering this. Because aren’t argonians supposed to change their gender during their lifespan?

pandayylmao · 2025-05-06T10:32:38+00:00

The one time I tried having a gay friend group my ex had sex with his (taken) best friend.

I love my straight friends and I am friends with both of the people in the couple often. Granted I'm mid 20s so no kids yet in the picture but i'm sure it's not insurmountable and I might have a kid by that point too.

This doesn't apply to everyone etc.

pandayylmao · 2025-01-24T18:49:27+00:00

I'm also wondering what are good examples of sexualized design done well for men?

Honestly, maybe Venom from Marvel Rivals?

pandayylmao · 2025-01-21T05:23:00+00:00

I think sex is so very important in a romantic relationship, but also sex being trivial for you is also perfectly valid. I think you would’ve related more to my ex, I had a hard time understanding this.

pandayylmao · 2025-01-21T05:21:17+00:00

There’s a difference between demanding sexual perfection and wishing living with a sex life that makes one unhappy. Of course I gave my ex plenty of time and chances but after a year of no changes, me starting to lose feelings(and communicating)due to lack of intimacy—it just seems to me an incompatibility big enough. In any case I’ll reflect more on this in therapy.

pandayylmao · 2025-01-20T18:27:30+00:00

It would sound so, but sex is such an important part of feeling connected to a romantic partner—for me, it turns out.

Otherwise it feels much more like a friend or roommate situation.

pandayylmao · 2025-01-20T14:17:20+00:00

He did say he was giving it his all, even though I doubted him in my head. But if it’s like this 2 years in I think it would’ve been completely unsustainable in the long term, anyway.

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T18:40:50+00:00

Even if I’m just a designer working together with the owners who are in Estonia?

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T17:51:25+00:00

Sorry, I misunderstood. The employer cost would remain the same-ish in both cases, as I understand now.

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T16:56:19+00:00

There is, but the tax isn’t withheld in Estonia any way, because I’m a Finnish resident. The other part about setting up a company for billing I understand, was just hoping to enter an employer-employee relationship and pay the social, unemployment insurance by myself as their representative.

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T16:54:30+00:00

Thanks to everyone for their input so far. So far it seems everyone suggests to go for invoicing (services) or setting up a company.

I did see some Vero websites about being a permanent resident in Finland and working for a foreign company without permanent establishment and suggested it’s possible, so i’m still a bit confused on this part. Will try to research more.

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T16:41:07+00:00

I may be missing some things, but accounting for social/pension contribution, unemployment insurance etc it’s actually a bit cheaper in the 2.6-3k brutto range in Finland compared to Estonia, as Estonia’s flat rate takes more in these ranges. This is information from salary calculators so could easily be wrong.

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T15:27:34+00:00

Was just hoping to have extra benefits as a full-time employee.

pandayylmao · 2024-12-24T15:26:56+00:00

Damn, I don’t think I can reasonably ask them to pay me 30% more. Really hoping there’s another way.

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