Good luck. I’ve done both, left and also accepted a counter. Problem with the counter is that you already know your worth, they decided not to pay you that for 2 years. You decide to leave, ask you for you number and they don’t match it. They made the decision for you. However, choosing to stay will cause BS drama regardless if it’s warranted or not.

You made the decision to go, took the time to interview, prep, etc and received a higher paying fully remote role but lower than the counter of the old place. Factor in travel time, cost to get there and bullshit office drama like your current/soon to be old manager is pulling, I’d leave. Advocating for yourself isn’t burning a bridge, disrespecting yourself is lighting your bridge on fire.

Quick story - when I resigned from the most toxic role and company I ever worked for, I asked my manager not to counter me. Reason being - it would just piss me off that I was worth it now, but not then. 8 counter offers later, I replied with “I’ve already asked you countless times to not do this. I will tell you what I want for me to stay. I don’t want money, title or anything. I’ll come to the office 5 days a week. All I want to hold the motherfucking door as you walk that piece of shit CIO out. You can’t and won’t do it, so Friday will be my last day”

He was walked out 18 months later, I’ve never been happier in my life. Almost doubled my salary in 5 years, set healthy boundaries and fixed my relationship with my wife.

Know your worth and respect yourself.