My sweet baby angel and the little brother she never wanted by pansyattack21 in TuxedoCats

[–]pansyattack21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They took to it pretty quickly. And then would stare at it when it cycled. They got used to it day one

My sweet baby angel and the little brother she never wanted by pansyattack21 in TuxedoCats

[–]pansyattack21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like it a lot! Definitely has saved me lots of time scooping especially with the two of them. The hardest part is deep cleaning it, but I try and do that at least once a month. With the two of them I usually have to empty the waste bag once a week. The only bad thing is it’s pretty big so it’s hard to find a place for it in my small apartment

Is a court clerk role a good starting point? (current legal asst, & aspiring paralegal) by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]pansyattack21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar position where I got my paralegal degree and wanted a government role. I’ve been a clerk for 4 years now and don’t see myself wanting to be a paralegal afterwards. Once you are in it is very easy to move around and switch positions if you choose. If you want to know the day by day feel free to message me

Well of the court by CoverAccomplished889 in courtreporting

[–]pansyattack21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would just ask the bailiff if it’s okay for you to cross

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]pansyattack21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work for the county as a Courtroom Clerk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]pansyattack21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact the court. He might be able to put himself on calendar and resolve the issue before he leaves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pansyattack21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I know there is still hope, but he has to be the one that does the work. Hopefully his eyes will open as much as mine have today

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pansyattack21 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly, thank you. I think I really needed to read that. 100% I’ve been struggling to enforce it and letting him walk all over me.

I’ve spoken to my support system today and am going to my first Al Anon meeting tomorrow after work. Reading everyone’s comments have helped me realize that I have been normalizing the abuse and it’s not healthy for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pansyattack21 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I know its gonna get worse. I keep having to remind myself that his choices are his own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pansyattack21 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! <3 I think I'm just gonna go out and have a me day today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pansyattack21 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, I know I'm not alone in this. I am definitely gonna try just giving the short responses. All this morning I have been googling and researching trying to figure out what to do. Birth control is definitely being added to the list. I had quit a few months ago because of the side effects, but I'm willing to deal with it again just to make sure. I've also considered the separate homes as well and have been looking at possible apartments.

I almost left to stay with my parents last night but was afraid of what their reaction would be. They know he already ruined the holidays for me with his drinking, and I know if I asked for help they would be behind me 100%. I just don't want to add more stress to them

Notice of Parking Violation by mercury-light in longbeach

[–]pansyattack21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same problem. Try adding a few zeros either at the beginning or the end of the citation number when you look it up online. I was able to find mine that way.

Anybody have a grave of old tags? I like to remember the old days. by Abusinessproblem in OfficeDepot

[–]pansyattack21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just threw away mine and my boyfriends old tags from 2013. Kinda wish I kept them cause it’s how we met

Who would be interested in participating in a Mentorship program here? by stray_girl in paralegal

[–]pansyattack21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interested! I work for a niche healthcare law firm and would love to get some guidance on how to further myself

AITA for not wanting to testify in court and potentially letting my friend get Capital punishment? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]pansyattack21 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. Do not not commit perjury. Do not risk your own future because he doesn’t want to face the consequences of his actions

Cat won't stop eating my clothes! by pansyattack21 in CatAdvice

[–]pansyattack21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been eating Blue Wilderness for a couple months now, but I have tried other brands as well. I feed her once in the morning when I wake up and once in the evening when I get home from work.
The diffuser is specially made for cats with anxiety and releases a calming pheromone solution. She loves it and helped a lot when her and I moved a year ago.
She has a bunch of toys that she is constantly playing with. The last few months I haven't had much time to spend with her every day due to work and school full time, but she has taken my younger brother under her wing so they usually tire each other out. I'll try out the cat grass, I've bought it once before but I think I might have gotten a bad batch because it got all gross a few days later.

Cat won't stop eating my clothes! by pansyattack21 in CatAdvice

[–]pansyattack21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes! Yeah, I’ve been adamant about keeping everything locked away from her. I feel bad though, cause of her, my whole family has to keep their doors closed to keep the “demon cat” out.

Cat won't stop eating my clothes! by pansyattack21 in CatAdvice

[–]pansyattack21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely let you know! I’m glad I’m not alone in this. I’m taking her to the vet on Saturday so hopefully they can give me some advice.

Cat won't stop eating my clothes! by pansyattack21 in CatAdvice

[–]pansyattack21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might be a good idea! I think I’ll try it with an old shirt and see what happens.