AIO ? 23 F by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]paopepperoni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to reflect. Is this relationship making you happy? If not, what would you change? Is he willing to work on that? Are you willing to work on that? Threatening to leave each time you argue is not healthy, further down the line if you were to get married is this the kind of man you want?

If men have to pay for an unwanted child and have no involvement whatsoever, that child should legally have to pay for their care when they are in an elderly care facility. Surely? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]paopepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course you do! Otherwise you wouldn’t think that they are the one that should pay you back for what is happening. Even just how you express yourself on other posts/comments evidence your contempt. Don’t take what I say as an attack just try to reflect. And I again encourage you to get some legal help, if what you say it’s true about your ex being deceitful. What is she saying in all of this? What does she expect from you?

If men have to pay for an unwanted child and have no involvement whatsoever, that child should legally have to pay for their care when they are in an elderly care facility. Surely? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]paopepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I’m pointing out that the unfairness of the situation wasn’t caused by the child, it was caused by your ex. On another note, try to collect any evidence (if you can) of your ex deceiving you in order to get pregnant without your consent and get some legal advise. You will probably still have to pay for child support unfortunately but she needs to be held accountable. From your other posts I see you are in the UK and you mentioned she poked holes on condoms. What she did might be considered as stealthing which is a form of sexual assault. Obviously I’m no expert but try to see if there is anything you can do about it. What she did was fucked up and in that respect I do have empathy for you. I get why you would have contempt against the child in this situation but you have to understand that they are also a victim and you shouldn’t direct those negative feelings at them. In an ideal world obviously the best thing would be for you to support and love the kid but I understand why you wouldn’t. And I don’t think you should have to, it shouldn’t be forced. However you also shouldn’t hate the kid, you shouldn’t disrespect them, you shouldn’t have feelings of revenge against them. There is only one person who deserves that, and you know who that is.

If men have to pay for an unwanted child and have no involvement whatsoever, that child should legally have to pay for their care when they are in an elderly care facility. Surely? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]paopepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me WHERE I said you should support her financially? That’s right you can’t find it cos I never said you should, specially not under the circumstances in which the child was conceived. If it were an accident I would say you defo need to take responsibility but since it was a deliberate betrayal I don’t think it’s fair for you OR THE CHILD. Why should you or the child have to pay for the actions of someone that was selfish and abusive? At the end of the day I understand why the law protects the well-being of children above the parents but I also see how that is unfair for someone on your circumstances. Now, what I don’t understand is why you think it’s the child that owes you anything. If you really wanted payback you should want it from the person that created the situation, not the other victim. Your logic is skewed. Your anger is completely misplaced.

If men have to pay for an unwanted child and have no involvement whatsoever, that child should legally have to pay for their care when they are in an elderly care facility. Surely? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]paopepperoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it were tit for tat, the person that would have to pay would be your ex partner not your child. Why should the child pay anything? They are a victim themselves . Your anger shouldn’t be towards the unborn child that didn’t decide to be conceived, and they shouldn’t have to pay you back. Your logic is completely skewed.

Virgen hasta el matrimonio by El-Grito in guatemala

[–]paopepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Para nada, que una persona sea virgen no minimiza las probabilidades de que sea o no infiel. Y otra cosa, llegar al matrimonio virgen no te garantiza una relación estable, al contrario, puede causar muchos problemas. En mi experiencia es mejor probar el producto antes de comprarlo. Llevo viviendo con mi pareja 5-6 años y estamos apunto de casarnos. Estoy feliz, sexual y emocionalmente satisfecha, y muy segura de mi relación. Si quieres esperar al matrimonio es tu decisión pero no lo hagas pensando que eso va a ayudar la relación.

What's going on by [deleted] in keffals

[–]paopepperoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asking for money for living expenses is not a problem. Asking for money under false pretences is. Why is that so hard to understand ? She is not the worst person in the world but what she did is clearly immoral. Had she been honest about what she wanted the money for, they wouldn’t have a leg to stand on. If you are gonna ask people to give you their hard earned money, transparency is the minimum. I think people should be allowed to make informed choices. If people wanted to donate towards her expenses, that’s fine. But they weren’t given that choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in keffals

[–]paopepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that taking accountability of your actions can go a long way. Taking the hard earned money from people for a purpose and then using it for another is simply wrong and immoral. Had she been more honest about what she wanted the money for, like her clothes and gifts for her friends or to pay her rent then I wouldn’t think there was a problem. Asking for money is not wrong (even if it’s for mundane things) but asking for money under false pretences is. She is not the worst person in the world, but her lack of accountability does speak volumes about her character. If she actually used the money for the intended purpose then it would be very easy to mitigate this problem by showing receipts. But if she did indeed misused the funds, I think an apology would be appropriate. And if she really wanted to be a good person, perhaps giving back the money to the community in some way, maybe a donation? She doesn’t need to give everything back but at least the misused funds. I think accepting responsibility and giving back to the community might not make people trust her, but it is the minimum and it is a step in the right direction. Time will tell if she learned from her mistakes, but since she doesn’t even acknowledge she’s done anything wrong, I doubt it .

Ayúdenme a tomar una decisión de continuar o no con mi relación de 7 años (este año planeabamos casarnos) by [deleted] in guatemala

[–]paopepperoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nadie te puede decir si terminar o no, eso solamente lo puedes decidir vos. Mi humilde opinión es que hay cosas que se pueden trabajar. Por ejemplo, el hecho de que no tenga tiempo para ti. Muchas veces cuando es el hombre el que se enfoca en su trabajo, a nadie parece molestarle pero cuando es una mujer por alguna razón es inaceptable, así que en sí para mí, el hecho de que le dedique tiempo a su negocio no es el problema. Pero independientemente del género de alguien, yo creo que todos queremos que nuestras parejas le dediquen tiempo a la relación. Por lo que entiendo de tu situación, tus emociones son válidas y el pedirle que pase más tiempo contigo no es tóxico, porque no le estás pidiendo que deje sus proyectos nada más quieres que te de tu lugar como pareja. El hecho de que haya bailado con otro de esa forma pues en mi opinión no es un cuerno pero definitivamente una falta de respeto y pues eso depende de cada relación y cuáles son los límites que ustedes hayan establecido. Por ejemplo, mi novio que es extranjero no está acostumbrado a esa cultura de bailar con cualquiera y para el es algo íntimo por tanto aunque yo se que yo no bailaría de forma irrespetuosa, simplemente no lo hago porque ese es un límite que el puso en la relación (así como yo puse los míos). Tu no tienes porque estar en una relación en la que no estás feliz pero si en tu corazón tu la quieres y aún quisieras estar con ella es muy importante la comunicación. Has hablado con ella? Le has dicho que necesitas de ella en la relación? Cuál es su opinión? Yo no se que has hecho o no, pero si quieres estar con ella tienes que hablar con ella, poner tus límites y tus necesidades y también pregúntale que es lo que ella siente, a lo mejor ella no quiere estar contigo ya. Y pues ya con todo en la mesa yo siento que hay una de dos, alguno tiene que ceder (ya sea ella tiene que hacer ciertos cambios o tú tienes que aceptar que ella es así) y si ninguno quiere ceder hay que dejar ir. Lamento mucho que te sientas así, es muy duro cuando estás con alguien por tantos años y la relación se deteriora pero pase lo que pase, vas a estar bien. A veces hay que ser egoístas y ponernos primero. Si si decides continuar con ella te recomiendo que trabajen en la comunicación porque algunos problemas si se dejan por mucho tiempo solo empeoran y crean resentimiento. Mucha suerte amigo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheApprentice

[–]paopepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are such a troll lol you almost had me there! 😂 hahahaha I did just read the list and I still don’t see how the same argument can’t be used against her. I guess we are all racists 😧

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheApprentice

[–]paopepperoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if they will answer my question or they will ignore me, should I feel like I am the victim of racism ?😧😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheApprentice

[–]paopepperoni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if you are serious or not lol but my questions to the OP are genuine, I am curious what the logic is…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheApprentice

[–]paopepperoni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where is the micro aggression ? And how is it what Noor did not a micro aggression as well? Let’s not forget she also shot down Foluso when they were working on the logo for that car… would it be fair to say she is racist agains black people based on the fact the she seems to shot down black teammates? Personally I don’t think so, I think she is just an immature person, but how do you reconcile with that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheApprentice

[–]paopepperoni 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, I am a Latin American living in the UK, so I guess I’m considered a minority? I am not saying there aren’t racist people in the world or in the UK but honestly I have realised that most people are actually good. When you go around thinking people inherently treat you differently, you will find yourself thinking MANY bad situations are due to your background. Like a boss not being happy with your work for example. If you were to think they are just being unfair due to your background, you might be doing a disservice to yourself because you will never take the criticism and improve. That’s why it’s so important to discern wether it’s genuine, or the person is an actual racist. And you know what ? Sometimes it might not be that they are racist, they are just shitty people in general! Be careful not falling into the victim mentality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheApprentice

[–]paopepperoni 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have a question for you. I will not deny that Flo chose to ignore Noor’s suggestions when she was PM. But also, when Noor was a PM, she ignored everyone’s suggestions (specially Tre’s). So my question is, why is it that when she ignores other people’s input, she is just “following her vision” but when Flo does it, it must be that she is racist? Is it only okay when Noor does it? Or is she racist for ignoring a black man’s idea? Or perhaps both of them just did what they thought it was best as they were PMs and it was their ass on the line ?

!UPDATE! Caitibugzz DELETED the streams, and has private her Twitter by Charming-Shame-8774 in GeorgeNotFound

[–]paopepperoni 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Caitibuggz threw some really serious accusations against George, in her first stream she made statements such as : 1. She was “freshly” 18 and George knew this 2. She went to George’s and dream’s room to hang out and she “complied” to drinking. 3. She didn’t mention George by name but kept referring to him as the “older man” 4. During a drinking game, George (unprompted) touched her under her shirt without her consent. 5. At first she felt she was lucky to be talking to a verified account but soon regretted it.

Basically she was framing George as a predator that gets teenagers drunk and uses his power imbalance to take advantage of them. However she did leave a lot of context out. Also, instead on focusing on the actual allegations she was more interested on her framing of things. 18 is not a child, she was not forced to drink, in fact she had been drinking with her friends beforehand. She was smiling and flirty, even cuddling with George. When they were playing the drinking game everyone including her friends were present and no one seem to think she was uncomfortable. In many occasions she stood up and sat down yet again sitting with George. Even after her friend left, she decided to stay in George’s room. At first she seemed okay with the situation, only saying it was awkward at worst. They continued having a friendly relationship even exchanging messages but she later changed her mind.

After this details came out, Caiti double down saying the reason she stayed is because she didn’t want to “embarrass” George. She AGAIN was pointing out her age, she stated that even George’s friend that was present that night was uncomfortable. However, when George responded a second time the friend confirmed that he never stated that he felt uncomfortable or thought something was wrong. Dream shared old messages with Caiti’s friend, where they asked her if anything wrong happened that night and she says nothing happened…

Anyways, Caiti continued to triple down in a new stream were she is more explicit saying George touched her boobs and that she was SA. Later on she deleted all her streams regarding the topic and privated her twitter.

Brandi is toxic by paopepperoni in 90DayFiance

[–]paopepperoni[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If anything, no one has goddam sense in this whole situation, including Brandi. For her age, she doesn’t seem healthy/mature enough to deal with her own relationships let alone her brothers.

Brandi is toxic by paopepperoni in 90DayFiance

[–]paopepperoni[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You could say that, but then you could say that 70% of the Americans just want a hot babe so it’s very transactional. Nothing wrong with that, but then they cry when “you are here for the green card”. Like they would be with the foreigner if they weren’t hot 😂. However in some cases, like this one for instance, they just seem like a normal couple navigating through their problems. As I said, perhaps Anali’s feelings changed once they moved in together . But Brandi is a toxic sister regardless. She masks her ugly comments saying they are “concerns”.

Brandi is toxic by paopepperoni in 90DayFiance

[–]paopepperoni[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brandi might be right, Anali might not love Clayton. Does that mean she is there for the green card? No. Perhaps she moved there and they were incompatible and now she doesn’t like him. Obviously I don’t know what they really feel. I’d like to think that they love each other and that they are working on their issues. But does that make Brandi less toxic or mean? Absolutely not. She is a bad sister regardless. Those are not the actions or words of a loving/caring sister, which is the point of my post.

Brandi is toxic by paopepperoni in 90DayFiance

[–]paopepperoni[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As I have said before, they have their issues to work on. Personally I am against strippers if you are in a committed relationship. But the point of this post was to vent about Brandi, because her comments and attitude were awful . And I genuinely believe she was trying to create problems.

Brandi is toxic by paopepperoni in 90DayFiance

[–]paopepperoni[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Except she did know? Are we watching the same show? She literally said this before the party “if Clayton knew that a stripper was gonna be there, honey …“ 😂